August 2015 Moms

Baby name

ok so I'm a complete hormonal wreck right now over something that is probably really silly. I'm 33 weeks pregnant today and my cousin has just had her baby this morning, and they have called her the name we had our heart set on. They didn't know I had decided on it I never mentioned it to anyone so it's not like they knew, just a complete coincidence but it's really upset me this morning. I don't know why I'm so upset it's only a name and I'm sure there will be another we like but I just really love it so it's gutting that we have to choose another I don't think I'll like anything as much. And we are a close family so I don't want them to have the same name. What a complete bummer. But now I feel really mean that the first time I heard that the baby had arrived I have taken it badly. I am so happy for them that they have there little girl safe and sound and I can't wait to see her but I can't help but feel a little niggle of jealousy on the name! So looks like it's back to the baby name books for us!

Re: Baby name

  • Ahh! This is so tough! I went through this but with friends! The name we finally decided on was always my #1 pick anyway, but we had other great options that all dwindled away as friends and family delivered their babies!
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  • As you said, hormones!!! I think that reaction sounds normal and you're processing how you feel because it was such an out of the blue coincidence. I bet it is really hard to think about changing the name and I'm sure you'll get over it with time. That being said, if I absolutely loved a name and knew that was my child's name, I'd name them the same. But obviously that's up to you and what you want to do.
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  • Well, that's a bummer for sure, especially if you guys never talked about it beforehand, I'd probably feel blindsided too. 

    When I was pregnant with DD, my sister was also pregnant with a girl. She was due 3 months before me, though. DH and I had decided on a name, so one morning when I ran into her, I asked if they had decided on what they'd be naming her daughter. She said it was down to 2, and wouldn't you know it that one of the two was what we picked. I was so disappointed, but knew that since she would give birth first, I'd better prepare myself to have to choose a different name. When she finally had the baby, they didn't name her for 24 hours, and when they finally did, they didn't use EITHER of the 2 names she had in mind. By that time, DH and I had already chosen a new name for our daughter.  

    Now that I look at my baby, there is no way she should have been named anything else. My point is, I think everything happens for a reason. Perhaps this is your time to consider a different name for your baby. It may just be what was intended all along. 
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  • You can always use the same name and have a nickname the family calls her....
  • I have 2 cousins named maggie. It happens. I have 3 uncle Joe's. Granted they're by marriage, but it's not really as confusing as it sounds.
  • This is one of my fears. My sister is due 13 days before me and I am so afraid they will use the name we have selected. I'm sure you will come up with an even better name, but give yourself a few days to feel sad, mad, upset that you can't or won't use your original name.
  • If we have a boy (we are team green), we are naming him the same thing as a close cousin's son. We both had girls the same year and apparently had both had this same name picked out if we had had a boy. They had a boy about a year and a half later and used the name. We still want to use the name that we have had picked out now for like 3 1/2 years, so we are using it. I gave them a heads up on it, and they are perfectly fine with it. Told me that they completely understood cause it is a pretty awesome name ;)
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