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January 2016 Moms
GhanimaAtreides
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Saw heartbeat but in limbo
GhanimaAtreides
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The OB squeezed me in for a early u/s because I've been spotting for 3 weeks straight. I'm 8w2d, baby is measuring at 7w1d. LMP is certain and ovulation date was NLT CD19, but usually CD16, so that accounts for some discrepancy. HR was 139. No sign of a SCH, but NP thought I might have had one and it resolved, which means I should stop spotting soon. I asked for and was given progesterone. Follow up was 2 weeks until the pelvic exam. Apparently my definition of spotting is most people's "light bleeding". She said there was quite a bit and it's not from a touchy cervix and was coming from inside of my uterus. She pushed my follow-up from 2 weeks to 1 week, and said that I'll be getting weekly viability u/s checks for a bit. Then I got the "you're on miscarriage watch" talk and that I'm to call at any increase of bleeding. So it feels like limbo. Anyway, here's my "for now" (tvs) blob baby.
Re: Saw heartbeat but in limbo
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
Each day my feelings fluctuate and sometimes anxiety and negativity take over. That is ok but try to remain as positive as you can and take care of you. DH reminds me that as women, we do all we can; the rest is out of our control.
Sending you lots of positivity and prayers.
It seems weird, I was worried all weekend I'd stop spotting and they'd be looking at me like I was nuts. Then today has been my worst spotting since it started. Maybe because I was on my feet all day at a photoshoot/charity event yesterday in pinup persona plus corset and heels? Corset had a hip spring and dress was swing skirt style, so I don't think I was squished too tight. IDK, I know most m/cs are completely out of our control and just our bodies recognizing and culling abnormalities (I'm also atheist... times like this make it *really* difficult for theists to relate without some... awkwardness?), anyway we raised several thousand dollars for testicular cancer awareness so that's good. Rambling, sorry. This morning (tmi) my 5yo DD walked into the bathroom, peered into the toilet and asked "is that blood?!?". We've had this impromptu discussion before around periods being normal for teenagers & adults etc., so I played it off as that. Cue alarm bells, right? Then there was blood on the transvag wand, blood on the speculum, blood all over the swabs (the NP had to clean off my cervix to even see where the blood was coming from, and I left at least 2 Rorschach vulva-prints for them to squint at (humor in everything). So definitely checked that "not a crazy lady with a speck on the TP once 2 days ago" box I was so paranoid about. Shouldn't I have been hoping for and more grateful if I wasn't spotting?
I've mentioned in another thread before, my mom had 7 miscarriages, all after age 28, and usually between 8 and 16 weeks. Seeing the heartbeat doesn't carry the amount of significance to me as it probably should. When I asked about/for progesterone I got looked at strange. I was told they normally don't do that but it can't hurt. I was under the mistaken impression it stopped spotting/bleeding; they explained its only purpose is to thicken up a mediocre lining. Got it anyway, should be on it until 12wks. Hopefully it won't just add more fuel to the source of bleeding. If I ever relax enough to have sex again in the next 4 weeks, will it make sex really gross even applying at bedtime? I heard it makes stringy weird discharge.
So far, no cramps, so that's good. I am just really really bloated down low all of a sudden.
I think the thing I'm most annoyed about is today when I woke up and looked at spacefem, my odds of miscarriage was 2.2%. After seeing the heartbeat with active bleeding it's up to 13% according to another website. If the whole miscarriage pep talk was a thinly veiled threatened miscarriage diagnosis it's 17%. I thought I was out of double-digit odds 2.5 weeks ago. I thought seeing the heartbeat would lower things further. It didn't.
Needless to say, my feelings are thoroughly mixed.
Thank you @je&moeder and @kcappy for the progesterone/sex/pelvic rest tips. It's only for a month. I was feeling bad because the day before I had talked a really good game to hubby since I was all dolled up and feeling sexy finally, but that night I was too tired so I told him to wake me in the morning, then he slept in. I was on pelvic rest last time from 20-30wks for a previa, so I know it can be done. Plus break-the-drought sex is so much fun. Probably once all the active/red bleeding dies down for several days. Especially since it's not caused by a sensitive cervix.
I found out yesterday that my military insurance won't cover progesterone, so it's $152 out of pocket. Googling to find out why was a bit disheartening... they say progesterone can delay the m/c of a nonviable pregnancy, and that women have to stop progesterone to m/c. But I guess with the weekly viability checks, it won't be a huge issue. I plan on asking for a D&C if any u/s come back non-viable. I found it finalizing last time since I hemorrhaged with my loss and after all my deliveries pretty bad. Last time I ended up with infected retained PoC, and too slowly dropping HCG, so D&C was the way to go.
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.