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Anyone fire a nanny yet?!

teaismCAgalteaismCAgal member
edited June 2015 in December 2014 Moms
We essentially fired ours today. She was amazing with our son — she seemed to really love him. But was SO disrespectful to me. She acted like my husband was the final authority on things and wouldn't take my instruction seriously unless it came from husband. 

I'm sad to lose her but it was becoming uncomfortable to have someone in our house who treated me with so much disrespect. It was to the point where I was afraid to ask basic questions: How's his poops? How's he drinking today? How did he like his solids? Because she considered that to be an affront to her. But when my husband asked questions, she would cheerily respond. 

Anyone else have a bad nanny fit?
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Re: Anyone fire a nanny yet?!

  • teaismCAgalteaismCAgal member
    Building on this, our (former) nanny wants to talk about what went wrong. I'm curious to get your all thoughts. Building on the situation described above: our former nanny was fantastic with LO, she kept the house very tidy — but because she was so good at her job, she felt like she could disrespect me and was often lecturing me on how I should be mothering. She was always VERY offended if I gave her instruction. 

    I work from home and tend to be mostly hands-off (I work with the door closed, on a separate floor of the house). But as an involved mom, I envisioned the nanny and I would talk about things a few times a day and I do like to know where my baby is and when I can expect him back at home. 

    Even if a nanny is great with the baby, if she is playing hubby/wife off each other and treating mom badly, she's not a good fit right? 

    I doubt any of you will do this, but please no lectures on I should just quit my job. I love my job and make a really good salary working from home — but am looking for a nanny who not only is good with LO but also good at communicating with me and respecting me as the mother. 
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  • amylee429amylee429 member
    I was a nanny before I had my LO and I can say with certainty I would never have acted this way to an employer. I was lucky enough to work for good friends and even then I never would have been so rude. Even if I thought some requests for updates, etc. were excessive, I would never have made the mom feel bad or disrespected about it. What Mom says goes. I absolutely think you did the right thing. You need to be comfortable with all aspects of someone who is taking care of your baby and is in your house all day. Don't forget that, although it would be wonderful to be friendly with a nanny/babysitter, this person is also your employee. They should have the same respect for you they would have for a boss in a corporate setting. Just because she works in your home doesn't mean she gets to disrespect you or ignore your wishes. Good luck! Hope you find a better match for you family!
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  • teaismCAgalteaismCAgal member
    Thanks for the sanity check! 
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  • babymokaelababymokaela member
    My opinion is that you MUST quit your job in order to take care of your child. What is wrong with you leaving your child to a nanny?!

    Just kidding.

    I agree with the above comment.

    If your former nanny wants to know what went wrong, tell her kindly. Maybe it would help her in the future (or maybe she would change her attitude and work well with you... You never know. Especially since she was so good except for the disrespect thing.. Maybe it will be a wake up call for he).

    Good luck. Keep us posted.
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  • teaismCAgalteaismCAgal member
    Thanks, BabyMokaela! I'm hoping she learns that no matter how good you are, having a good attitude is important! :)
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