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Sick of being told how I "should" feel!

allisontierneyallisontierney member
edited June 2015 in November 2015 Moms
I know being pregnant makes me a target for unsolicited advice, but it's freaking annoying!
Additionally, I have people telling me how I should and shouldn't feel.
Apparently, my nausea should be gone. Well I guess I'm faking all the vomiting lately.
And my back pain...oh boy. I'm not big enough to be in pain yet "you just wait"
Well...I'm in pain now so shut the f@$&? Up!

I even had a girl tell me once that I shouldn't have to pee so often this early on....really??? Then I guess I'm just making up the fact that I'm about to pee my pants!

Anyone else struggling with this?
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  • thefithuntressthefithuntress member
    thegingeravenger said:

    I told a coworker today that if he didn't stop trying to be my effing doctor that I'd throw an overweight package at his face. I work for a major shipping company.

    I meant it.

    Whoa whoa.. HE? I would just throw the package without warning. Whenever a guy tries to give me "advice" or comment on my figure I get stabby. Men are so stupid.
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  • allisontierneyallisontierney member
    I would definitely go to HR about that.
    Actually ... I'd probably smack him and get sent to HR.
    I've already had to go on a "get along lunch date" with a coworker because she tattled on me for "saying something mean"
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  • dogsombrerodogsombrero member
    DH says my nice goes away when pregnant and only comes back at half capacity. I'm unable to let the stupidity go. I have a really good "I date you to finish that sentence" look though.

    Grab a mirror and practice while saying "I'll ask my doctor". If extra sass is needed say "whom you aren't k thanks" all while looking at them and thinking angry mean thoughts.

    Other than that you could go with the completely ignore mode. When they say did you hear me just tell them you aren't going to agree to their sh!tty advice. That's also been a real winner for me.
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  • Elyse1384Elyse1384 member
    allisontierney said:
    I know being pregnant makes me a target for unsolicited advice, but it's freaking annoying! Additionally, I have people telling me how I should and shouldn't feel. Apparently, my nausea should be gone. Well I guess I'm faking all the vomiting lately. And my back pain...oh boy. I'm not big enough to be in pain yet "you just wait" Well...I'm in pain now so shut the f@$&? Up! I even had a girl tell me once that I shouldn't have to pee so often this early on....really??? Then I guess I'm just making up the fact that I'm about to pee my pants! Anyone else struggling with this?
    OK here is why this bothers me.  Through the entire pregnancy with my DS, I didn't really have back pain until the end and it was manageable.  Uncomfortable as all hell, yes, but manageable.  With this pregnancy I can't even bend at the waist at this point.  I physically couldn't get my 14 month old out of the crib this morning and just trying to carry him to my bedroom felt like my back would shatter into a million pieces.  I didn't sleep last night because the pain was so bad and I needed to use my entire body to help me turn from one side to the other.  I HATE when people make assumptions about what a woman should and should not experience at any stage of pregnancy.  Like oh really?  Would you like to switch places with me mam/sir and deal with these symptoms and then tell me "it is too early" or "you shouldn't have that symptom".  OK rant over.  I feel you on the absurdity that is society and their view of how a pregnant woman should feel.
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  • VexyMommyVexyMommy member
    kmkrushi said:
    Truth is every pregnancy is different! Mine is not yours and my experiences are not yours. Hell, this one is already so different (meaning worse) than with DD! DH is god so far for the most part, but sometimes he still compares it to my last. Then I have to set him straight, or go throw up. That usually reminds him.
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  • dogsombrerodogsombrero member
    ^^ me too! All I could think was she better not tell him that or she'll never hear the end of it!
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  • kmkrushikmkrushi member
    dogsombrero said:

    ^^ me too! All I could think was she better not tell him that or she'll never hear the end of it!

    Damn fumble fingers!!!! You're right, I wouldn't, but it definitely makes the throwing up comment more valid. Hehe!
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  • ktrimble8807ktrimble8807 member
    Sick of being told how I should eat and that I need to eat even when Im not hungry because they baby might be hungry... STFU! 
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  • AnnamariauDorisAnnamariauDoris member
    I hate it when people tell me to move. I am borderline functional....i get dizzy just by walking. I would run a marathon if I effing could!
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  • KatieSetlerKatieSetler member
    I go through times where I'm having to run to the toilet every 30 min or so, with little pee coming out. And of course because I'm "only 17 weeks" it's "too early" to pee a lot, and a huge issue with everyone at work. They're sure it's a UTI (I work at a nursing home). No, I'm sure it's the baby sitting on my bladder because I can FEEL the pressure right there. Trust me, this might be my first, but I know my body!

    Luckily some of the other moms are on my side of things.
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  • somerandommomsomerandommom member
    Luckily for me I'm a STM and don't really go around talking about my pregnancy as much as my coworkers/friends would like. I've had certain people who don't know me ask if this is my first and when I said no my second then don't even think about giving me advice, I agree this second pregnancy is much harder on me this time that with my DD but I don't go around talking about it. Mostly just complain to DH who has been absolutely wonderful dealing with me!
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  • CarrieOct15CarrieOct15 member
    I hate it, too.

    I had a stranger at the bus stop tell me I should be wearing a coat so I don't get sick. Look, lady, it's 63 degrees out, I'm fine. Also, the cold doesn't actually get you sick. People do.
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  • nataliejayne85nataliejayne85 member
    I got told by a group of my male co-workers that if I think I'm tired now - just u wait until later on, I shouldn't be tired at this stage!!! WTF?!! How on earth would any of them know!! I may of told them to STFU as they had no clue what they were on about and did they really wanna take on a hormonal pregnant woman?! They did back off after that ........
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  • beckd89beckd89 member
    I feel like a moaner all the time as keep complaining of back pain and I'm 18 weeks. People look at me like shut up your only early, but they don't understand!! And walkin to my car from work I have to take my time, apparently pregnancy is not a disability, even tho it pains me to walk so far!! Don't get me started on forever needing the loo, getting so hot and sweaty and needing a fan at work and dead legs!
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