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Birthday Party/Gender Reveal
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My daughter's second birthday is coming up and at that time I will be 22/23 weeks. At her party we wanted to do a gender reveal (we will not be including any thing gender reveal party related besides us opening the box with the colored balloons..it will be all birthday party decorations and about her turning two).
Anyways, when do I send the invites out?
Thanks 
Also, any creative suggestions besides the box of balloons are welcome
Also, any creative suggestions besides the box of balloons are welcome
Re: Birthday Party/Gender Reveal
One, this is special that she is having a brother or sister and, two, she is turning two years old and it is a giant party at a farm...it's going to be super special for her. It's going to be ok.
That's not what I asked.
You're daughter is young enough that she won't notice that you are upstaging her at her party, but certainly the other adults will. This doesn't come across as celebrating a growing family, it comes across as you bein so starved for attention your willing to use any venue to grab it.
Please reconsider. Birthday party invites should go out around 3 to 5 weeks in advance which was totally something I just Googled, and was readily available.
I'm sorry. I can't even fathom this. It's laughable. It will not be reconsidered even for a second. Again..none of us are starved for attention nor will the family and friends we are inviting think that even for a second. Maybe we all have been raised differently and that's why we aren't seeing eye to eye but we truly feel it's something fun and special added to her birthday party. It doesn't have to do with me or my husband, it has to do with my daughter having the gift of a new sibling and us enjoying the blessings of our family and friends. Birthdays and holidays will never be self worshipping, greedy events in our family.
Sorry I asked. ✌
Also, I don't get your insistence that birthdays will not be greedy self worshipping events in your family, I mean, if that's the case, giant parties aren't really the way you want to start that, which again is feeding the idea that you are doing this for yourself.
At least I hope that's the case...because even if she's too young to notice, you'd look like a terrible person for stealing a portion of your daughter's event to celebrate yourself. That's like announcing your engagement at someone else's wedding.
Seriously, this is just tacky. I'm not trying to be an ass but this is not a good idea. Furthermore, no one (except maybe your parents) cares that much about the "gender" of your future child. I'm sure they just want you to have a happy and healthy baby.
"The gift of a sibling" yeah no. You choose to get KTFU and now am using a party for a toddler to say TOTES MY BABY WILL PEE STANDING UP OR SITTING DOWN.
Trust me, no one cares about the SEX of your child but you.
You can use nonsensical, comical, preposterous, hilarious, farcical, ridiculous (totally took me a sec to spell this the correct way instead of Riddikulus).
Anyways, if you must insist on a SEX reveal, perhaps you can do it at the end of the party or ask family to hang out afterwards to reveal with just them. At least it's better than planning a whole 'nother shindig and forcing folks to give up another weekend.
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Also, at least a month and a half out for invites so everyone can make time to come!
I truly am not saying that to be mean, but yeah that is what I would be thinking.
Edit: Quotebox fail.
This. My SIL did this at her son's 1st birthday a few months ago...only they made the inside of his birthday cake pink for their expected little girl. My SIL is pretty AW-ish anyway (she held a catered sex reveal for her first born with over 100 people invited, 2 baby showers, 4 wedding showers...you get the idea), and there was a lot of eye rolling. Since I'm family I just have to grin and bear it. My nephew is going to look back at his first birthday photos and see how it was really all about his sister, which is pretty lame. I get irritated enough when I look at my old birthday pictures and see my parents opening present with my older brother because he would throw tantrums since it wasn't his birthday.
@futon As a soon to be parent you should be aware that balloons are like number 1 on the choking hazard list for small children.
And it's crazy to send birthday party invitations that far in advance. It's a birthday party. Not a wedding. 3-4 weeks in advance is plenty of time for a child's party.
Example - everyone knows DS turns two In October. Looking at a calendar they could figure out his party will be October 24. That's just being a responsible guest.
This seems like the best way of doing this, if this is the way you are set on doing it. I think that maybe you make a video of her opening the box with the colorful balloons and sending it to friends and family is a slightly better idea. Even though she is still really young, it would be a shame if she heard this story retold years later... you never know how it may make her feel and it could be problematic. We can agree to disagree, I'm just speaking from the perspective of an older sibling and even small things like this can make a sizable impact, even if it isn't intended to be negative.
I would send invitations as you normally would for the bday party. Send them about 4 weeks ahead and make no mention of gender reveal. I agree that relatives care whether you're having a boy or girl, but they are not sitting on the edge of their seat to find out. I find it annoying when people act like everyone is so wrapped up in "what I'm having" if those people weren't actively expressing an interest in it. I bet older generations are pretty turned off by it.