Very curious!! Anyone else thinking no fb pics?

jferrer1212 · June 2015

Ok, so I've thought a lot about this even way before we were even pregnant. I know everyone/most like to do the later pregnancy announcement on fb. I could live with it or without it. My MORE IMPORTANT qualms are: do you NOT want pics of baby on fb at all? Yes, you can set privacy settings, but you can't make your fam/friends who want to share YOUR info & posts, not do it. Plus there's weirdos out there, and once your kid is online, you kinda can't ever take it back. Thoughts?

jferrer1212 · June 2015

I would like hardcopy pics and if grandparents want to see pics they can be emailed,etc. Any teachers out there? I know many teachers are non-fb or very hush hush on it. I'm so scared and neurotic that MIL wants to share everything and I want my foot DOWN. I know you can't help every single time. I just get very perturbed when ppl think it's ok to put very personal or casual pics up when it can have your house info in the background or other inappropriate stuff. I can't be the only am i? I really don't want my baby online n especially not my MIL to post pics without me knowing. Help lol

kaym6 · June 2015

I definately agree with your concerns but as a military spouse I know that I will post picture of my baby/children on my Facebook. It's a good way to share our lives with friends and family that we hardly ever get he opportunity to see. I'm sure I'll be very selective in the photos I share though! You bring up a really good point it's something I've thought about for sure!

babybluu · June 2015

If im not mistaken there is a way to make it so people can't share your posts

SummerOH · June 2015

My friends and family know I have a strict no unapproved FB policy with pics of my family. They always ask if they can post something before they do. I think it's incredibly disrespectful to post pics of other people, especially kids, without their or their parents' permission.

I do post pics occasionally, but very limited. I get kind of judgy with people who post constant pics of themselves and/or their kids.

willashbaby · June 2015

I'm fine with an occasional pic, birth announcement, around the holidays or bday, but that's about it. As it stands I will post very few on FB. I started a private Instagram and plan on using that more, I feel like it's somewhat more secure than FB.

mkatefin303 · June 2015

I read a scary thing online about these crazy people who co-op pictures of other people's kids and pretend they are their own. Certain types of pictures make it more likely (just kid by themselves, looking at camera, rather than with parents/others). For that reason, I limit pictures of my little one on facebook. I use instagram for baby pictures mainly, as its harder to steal others pictures and my settings are entirely private.

JoJoMama730 · June 2015

I am definitely conscious of the type of internet footprint that I am creating for my child. I do not post any up-close pics of my child, but I don't ask friends to take down those kinds of pics either. Of course, when they are on someone else's page and I'm not tagged, nobody knows who my kid is. I guess I'm not only thinking of the digital footprint, but also safety. Some post post WAY too much information about their lives on FB, including details about their child, schedules, parks they play at, etc. Now I'm not a paranoid person by any means, but I do exercise caution on FB.

kimber308 · June 2015

I just can't see myself posting many pictures of this new child. I don't want to create an internet footprint for them - the internet's a scary, unsafe thing. My friends post numerous pictures daily of their children, and it scares me! I will never do that!

jferrer1212 · June 2015

Thanks all for your input and opinions voiced. That's really my main concern, for safety reasons and personal reasons. I know many friends say they don't post pics/or that they were at a park till after they're home, but Yea it still scares me. Bad people are going to use whatever they can. We as parents, have to keep our families safe and deter as much as we can. Unfortunately, common sense isn't too common for people nowadays!

KaraEpp16 · June 2015

I told SO I want him to announce. hahaha As for belly pictures or anything like that...SNAPCHAT and maybe the occasional instagram. As for pics after the baby is born I'll probably limit what is public and keep a private album for me.

skfg · June 2015

My husband and I are very protective of DS's information and have posted no photos online of him. Fortunately, our family and friends have been very respectful and respected our wishes. It will be the same for this LO too.

TurtleMeg · June 2015

I will not post pictures online. My husband is in high tech PR and I hear too many crazy stories. I'm not paranoid about it but I definitely won't be putting my baby out there. Now to get my MIL to understand my concerns and go with my wishes...good thing I have 8 months to work with her!

Blueyedsky · June 2015

If your post is private, then other people can't share it. Of course, they can always download the picture, but if you're emailing it to them they could post it anyway. I think I will post some things, but probably not with their name, and definitely nothing with and address or school information or anything that could clue someone in on how to nab them.

SullyN · June 2015

I post pictures of my son. My husband was deployed from when he was 3mos till 15mos and it was our main source of contact other than skype. We also have family that lived all over the country and facebook was the easiest way for everyone to be updated, I would never remember to email pictures to people! Everyone was told they were not to share pictures and that if I found out about it then I would no longer be posting pictures.

We don't check in places, and I do try to make it so I am in most of the pictures or that they are "less desirable" for a crazy person to steal.

failuretofly · June 2015

I agree. I had similar issues with my family and my wedding photos. My mom would've posted all 1000 of them if I had let her! I haven't told her about the pregnancy yet (only 7w3d) but I am not looking forward to the 'No Facebook' discussion. Especially since this will be the first grandchild. We will have to find different venues for photo sharing. I already text her photos regularly, but the problem is she wants to share everything with all of her friends! (She really likes the attention... don't get me started lol) I'm hoping if I bring out her protective Momma-Bear side it will help her understand!

steph_pegasus · June 2015

I understand your concerns. That is one of the reasons I don't have a fb anymore. I use instagram and twitter but rarely post pictures. I have private photo streams of dd on my apple devices and dh has a google+ one that we use to share pics with family.

SummerOH · June 2015

@TurtleMeg Yes! My cousin's husband is pretty high up in the military and refuses to let anyone post pics of his family anywhere on social media. Facial recognition us a very scary thing.

mommiesandbabies · June 2015

I really don't worry about this at all.

mcrane8 · June 2015

I'm with the other military peeps on here. I don't think I can keep myself away with everyone so spread out. Hubs went to Navy as well so even his college friends are around the globe. His friends literally would have no idea what we were up to if it wasn't for facebook.

Take the good with the bad I guess. I totally understand the fears and they are creditable!! I am really careful about checking with moms before I post any pics of their kids. I worked with autistic kids for a few years after college and that was one of the big things they stressed right off the bat. Especially with special needs kids who are in many ways more vulnerable to the creeps out there.

Ug, shutter, people are so messed up.

danasphillips · June 2015

mkatefin303 said:
I read a scary thing online about these crazy people who co-op pictures of other people's kids and pretend they are their own. Certain types of pictures make it more likely (just kid by themselves, looking at camera, rather than with parents/others). For that reason, I limit pictures of my little one on facebook. I use instagram for baby pictures mainly, as its harder to steal others pictures and my settings are entirely private.

This happened to me on Instagram. Someone stole hundreds of photos of my son and used them for baby role play.

CBWifey · June 2015

We got off fb a few years ago because of a fanatical crazy family member. I recently got back on to promote my business, but we will not put anything personal about either of us, also because we are military, and the threats towards military and their families.

Carr2016 · June 2015

I will not be posting pictures of our baby on Facebook.. My husband and I both agree on this.. We feel it is unsafe, and neither of us live through Facebook anyways.. The tough part is going to be monitoring and making sure family does not post pictures.. We are also cleaning up our friends lists before the baby is born just to be safe in case a picture is leaked.

stinamarie412 · June 2015

We barely post photos and family knows that they are not to do so either. We also have made it clear that no one is to be sending photos to others (via text,email) that we are her parents and we will send photos to those we choose to. Neither are very popular with our families as mine is spread out over several states and DHs is insanely close and feels entitled to our child. However, she is our child and we made the decisions to do so to keep her safe so they can suck it.

Jamilla9 · June 2015

All of my family lives all over the country/ world except my mom. We share lots of pictures and I post what's going on in my son's life as a way of interacting with family I only see once or twice a year. I'll do the same with this baby. I'm not a paranoid person and I tend to think it won't happen to me in most situations so the threat doesn't really bother me.

babybluu · June 2015

Dh and both have extended families (multiple divorces, at least 2 on each side) so keeping everyone updated via text message, or phone call is not practical. Even email for me would be too stressful to update 100+ people (people who care about us and our baby and want to know what's going on). So we will definitely be using fb and Instagram. We are also a military family so I already watch what I post and my fb is private for the most part, but I will be updating my privacy setting before baby is born. I don't mind sharing pictures of my own kids on my own fb because I personally know everyone on my friends list pretty well, but I'm not sure how I feel about family or friends sharing pictures. Maybe one once the baby is born but after that I don't think I want them sharing pics and will make sure my settings don't allow it.

TinyDancer51510 · June 2015

I will post some. We have too many relatives out of state not to. I don't think any of my relatives or in-laws will post much on FB and if I make them non-sharable, most of them aren't tech savvy enough to download it and repost. Lol.

This conversation is exactly why I don't post pictures of my nanny kids or their names. My FB is pretty secure but I'm not risking getting my bosses kids in trouble.

flutepharm87 · June 2015

You can set your privacy settings so that others can't share your posts. That's what we've done. Too much of our family is active on FB for us not to post pictures of the kids on there.

l4rk · June 2015

I actually want to post on Facebook. I keep my circle fairly small, but I also don't think privacy concerns outweigh the benefit of sharing my life with my friends and family.

MssyMmmy · June 2015

My family shares photos through the iPhone photo share feature. Only people invited to the album can see it. Works great. It's like a mini facebook and you can't share or save the pictures. I guess any one can screen shot but it's just immediate family and grandparents that see it.

mamaksweez · June 2015

I have a daughter that just turned 1. I've posted a ton of pics of her on Facebook. (Privacy set to only friends can see). I plan to post her 1yr photos and our baby announcement (which is a pic of her.) After we post our announcement we plan to not put pictures of her online anymore. Our thinking is babies all look like babies (of course ours is the cutest, just like yours - but pretty much they all look like babies.) Anyway, now that our daughter is 1 she looks like a child and you can easily like pick her out in a group.
So.... With this kiddo we will probably post pics for the first year as well and then no more. I've read too many articles about horrible things that happen when you post pics of kids online, but as a baby I just want to show them off!!

jezygal · June 2015

I post very few pics of my daughter on face book, I have all her pics in a custom album that actually has family members blocked from seeing them. I know that the people that can see the pics aren't going to share them. If my family members want to see her they can do it in person or have a printed photo. The only people that have digital pics of her are my parents and they know if they shared them they wouldn't get anymore. It may sound a little over the top, but I know my family members and I don't trust them to do what I ask.

vintagevice · June 2015

This is such an interesting topic!

Do you ladies remember being a kid and a distant relative would approach you at a family reunion or event. They would know your name and try to give you a hug, but you would have no idea who they are? That used to freak me out as a child.

I was reminded of this yesterday at the grocery store, when I almost approached a woman and her child because I recognized them as the daughter and granddaughter of my husband's boss. The only way I knew that was because of all the photo's his wife posts on Facebook of the granddaughter. I stopped myself, because I realized how creepy it was of me to even know who they were.

At that moment I knew that I will personally post very limited pictures and info about my baby.

kgcnyc · June 2015

I've often thought about this. I am still undecided as it feels like the easy solution since my fam lives in CA and I'm in NYC. BUT...I work in marketing and recently went to a seminar and listened to someone on a panel say "this next generation's entire identity is going to be based on ratings (likes)" and that thought REALLY freaked me out. I thought, "how sad". Then there is the other thought of, if you don't share pics online from day 1, will your child feel left out when they realize they don't have the online footprint that their peers do? Will it be equivalent to only having a handful of baby pics while your friend's mom had dozens of albums in our day? So much to think about with potential heavy consequences...

amargaret24 · June 2015

I will only post to a private FB acct for family/close friends, fiancé's family is all in Australia so it's helpful. No instagram or pleasure/look at baby posting. That's more because I'm one of those people that get sick of baby after baby after baby in my feed. Who knows where all this info is going too also.

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