Husband rant (just a tiny one)

MouseMama817 · June 2015

I just need somewhere to vent before I lose my mind. Today is a bad hormone day.

Today my husband has been in a weird funk today where he criticizes me instead of thanking me for my efforts. For example:

I did all of his laundry, folded it, and put it on top of the dresser for him to put away (he's particular about his clothes, so I let him do that last part). His response: "Why didn't you put it away? I always put your stuff away." (Not entirely true and not the way to thank your 8 months pregnant wife for folding your underwear).

I washed our bed clothes and remade the bed by myself while he relaxed on the couch. His response when he got into bed: "Damn it. The sheets are still wet!" I felt them and apparently, the middle of the comforter was SLIGHTLY damp. I hate when it folds in on itself in the dryer and makes that cocoon that prevents the middle from drying! I yanked it all off while he was still in bed and threw it back in the dryer.

I know it may seem tiny and petty but I'm supposed to be on bed rest and instead have been up all day cleaning and getting things done. I haven't heard a single word of gratitude from him. Only bitching. It's not at all normal for him but omg when he does it I want to scream! Especially right now when my hormones are driving me nuts. Idk if he thinks that me being officially out of work until after the baby means I'm supposed to assume all of the household responsibilities but this is not the 1950's. We are both equal contributors to keeping our home running smoothly. Even if I do assume all of the responsibilities because I now have more time, I expect and deserve a f*cking thank you.

Sorry for the rant; I just needed to get this out somewhere. Thanks for listening

dkizz82 · June 2015

Goodness sounds like a case of PMS. Lol. But in all seriousness you need to get in bed and not be doing that stuff. You don't want to go into labor because you're doing too much. Good luck and I hope he's In a better mood tomorrow. I guess we all have our days.

Baby2HG · June 2015

I think he's the one with the pregnancy hormones right now.

nakoppel · June 2015

I actually had to have a talk with my husband about stuff like this. He was under the impression if I do something right I don't need to be told thank yiu because it was the right thing to do -_- and he needed to tell me when things were wrong so I could fix it. Well I told him I kike knowing I did something to make him happy. AND also I pointed out he gives his marines Pros and Cons so they know and feel good when they did something right. Doesn't he think I would like that too? Once I gave him that metaphor he's gotten a lot better about it.

emmacake08 · June 2015

Yep, men are clueless especially about the toll that pregnancy takes on you. I'm a stay at home mom so I pretty much do all the chores. I've had moments when my DH has criticized something about the way I've done a chore and I usually counter with a direct response to show him how ridiculous he's being. For example with the comforter I would have just said, if you want to strip the bed and stick it back in the dryer, go for it, I'm sitting. Or I've also said, it's a miracle I even stripped this and washed it, so a little air drying is the least of my worries and yours too...

Luckily I will say that now that we've go two LOs and almost three, my DH doesn't really do this anymore at all. He's so grateful when I can get chores done that he doesn't have to help with that any critiquing stopped.

BabyBean815 · June 2015

It must be something in the universe right now. I complimented my husband because he did a really good job of arranging the dirty dishes in the dishwasher (It's a talent!) and instead of saying, "thanks" he reminded me of how bad I am at arranging the dishes in the dishwasher. Guess who's not getting anymore compliments today?

Ambermom043 · June 2015

My husband is just the opposite. I WANT to do stuff and help out, and he's constantly trying to put me back to bed, or make me lay down/put my feet up, and get me a drink. He, for some reason LOVES to do the hard/hot work and let me rest. He's like the energizer bunny! God forbid I mention any pain or discomfort.. I'll be on bed rest for a week! I really appreciate him tho, he definitely tries to do what he thinks is right. SO I try to make sure to encourage him and thank him instead of fighting against his little efforts to be a good hubby and dad.

chavemann10 · June 2015

I swear my husband has more of the pregnancy mood swings than I do. 1 minute he's telling me that I am not supposed to be doing anything, then 5 minutes later bitches because "all I've done is sit around" for the last few hours. Crazy ass! Men have no clue sometimes!

MouseMama817 · June 2015

Apparently he did say thank you but I missed it? My baby brain is no joke so he may be right lol.

mriee · June 2015

Ambermom043 said:
My husband is just the opposite. I WANT to do stuff and help out, and he's constantly trying to put me back to bed, or make me lay down/put my feet up, and get me a drink. He, for some reason LOVES to do the hard/hot work and let me rest. He's like the energizer bunny! God forbid I mention any pain or discomfort.. I'll be on bed rest for a week! I really appreciate him tho, he definitely tries to do what he thinks is right. SO I try to make sure to encourage him and thank him instead of fighting against his little efforts to be a good hubby and dad.

This is my husband in a nutshell. I get so bored sometimes but he's assured me once the babies born I can do all the cooking and cleaning again....yay?

:-S

jessraeee · June 2015

I'm having the same issues! I do 6 days a week 9 hour shifts every day I'm 30+2 so not too far along but starting to get hot and bothered, but I have to cook every night, clean the dishes afterwards and put them away, do all laundry and putting away, hoovering dusting tidying changing beds e.t.c I have to pick his dirty clothes up out the bathroom after his shower & he even has the cheek once I've sat down at night to make me be the one to go get him a drink e.t.c! He has one job and that's putting the bins out on bin day and he's forgot the past 4 weeks so I've been doing it! Then he wonders why I snap!! I feel your pain!

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