Big mouths

katielyse · June 2015

My husband and I were so excited when we found out and wanted to share with our parents. I thought I was more clear about not wanting it announced...BUT my husband and my father can't keep it to themselves and seem to be telling more and more people every day! I don't think they understand the fears I have, especially since my first appointment is not until later this week. Has this happened to anyone else?

je5sc0 · June 2015

My MIL put it on Facebook. Thankfully she doesn't have many friends that even know who I am. But I was like serioussssslllyyyyy

katielyse · June 2015

je5sc0 said:
My MIL put it on Facebook. Thankfully she doesn't have many friends that even know who I am. But I was like serioussssslllyyyyy

Oh good Lord. I am glad she doesn't have many connections with you on there! I guess my dad thinks it's ok as long as he doesn't put it on FB. His coworkers that I don't know are planning to make me baby blankets.

Lindsaym5! · June 2015

My MIL's friend put it on face book! She tagged me, my husband, my MIL and my mom. Thanks lady I barely know.

kris10mac · June 2015

Lindsaym5! said:
My MIL's friend put it on face book! She tagged me, my husband, my MIL and my mom. Thanks lady I barely know.

Ooooohh. Damn. I might lose it.

Upon strict orders not to tell anyone yet, my mother told my aunt (her sister) and my aunt's boyfriend. Who, BTW, she barely speaks to and does nothing but complain to me about how horrible they are to her. Yeah. Those are great people to share this secret news with.
:-/

katielyse · June 2015

Thank y'all for sharing. I know my family is excited but I want to tell them to shut up lol

xxkberxx · June 2015

Reading everyone else's responses is making me realize I need to hold off telling my MIL until I'm ready for everyone to know. I had doubts she would be able to keep a secret. Based on your experiences I have an even stronger feeling she would let the cat out of the bag. Its frustrating that people can't keep something this important a secret.

jordans_wife · June 2015

With our first, despite being sworn to secrecy, my MIL told quite a few people. I will never again trust her with a secret. Luckily we had already seen the hb at that point.

maas0424 · June 2015

This is why I'm scared to tell anyone! I did spill the beans to two of my best friends, but I know they won't tell anyone. Trying to decide when I want to tell my mom and the in-laws!

cantobean · June 2015

This is my biggest fear! I want to tell my parents this weekend, and I totally trust them, but MH wants to tell his parents shortly after, and I'm terrified about what my MIL will do. She tells everyone everything and has no sense of tact. H assures me that in these matters, she can be discrete. I think he's kidding himself.

xxkberxx · June 2015

cantobean said:

This is my biggest fear! I want to tell my parents this weekend, and I totally trust them, but MH wants to tell his parents shortly after, and I'm terrified about what my MIL will do. She tells everyone everything and has no sense of tact. H assures me that in these matters, she can be discrete. I think he's kidding himself.

Hopefully she will be like your DH husband says. It is sad that we can't seem to trust our MILs but I'm sure its from their excitement over the situation. Good luck sharing the news!

Cheryl Renee · June 2015

My MIL would totally keep it a secret, but my FIL and both of my parents would tell the world! Hubby and I have told one person, my sister. My first appointment is in a week and a half and then we'll tell everyone.

DizzyMom1 · June 2015

Ugh, YES! My dad went and told my brother and sister before I could even though I asked him specifically not to, I hate that! He apologized, but he did it with my first pregnancy too so I'm just not trusting him in the future until I've told everyone else

MaybeMab · June 2015

Found out a couple hours ago my wonderful husband was talking to his co-workers about kids and he made the mistake of saying his KIDS and a co-worker of his caught on to it. The only people I have told is my work because there are things I can't touch or do, and my april 13 mommies group knows. Like really dude.... really.

g0lightly8706 · June 2015

omg yes! we told our close family today and before I could even make the "this is hush hush for now" announcement my FIL had already texted his sister.. I mean, come on!! DH has a HUGE family and i feel like by tomorrow every will know. ugh.

PrairieGirl45 · June 2015

I'm the one telling everyone and driving my so nuts lol he wants to be cautious cause of our miscarriage last time. But I'm not much for keeping secrets ha

funkypineapple · June 2015

I HATE keeping secrets because I get way too excited about things. We almost had to out ourselves over the weekend to some friends (which we plan on telling anyway but not before parents).

We want to tell our parents first but are waiting until after our 1st appointment this Thursday. I'm not worried about MIL at all, it's my mom I'm worried about. I get my excitement from her and this will be her first grandchild so there's no telling if she will tell anyone or not -she probably won't but there's a tiny part of me that is bracing for it, just in case.

mommatone · June 2015

Hi I'm everyone . quick question it might be dumb but why is everyone waiting to tell people ? This is my 1st pregnancy & everyone n my family are excited we haven't had a new baby n the family n a while ..

kayjay44 · June 2015

mommatone said:

Hi I'm everyone . quick question it might be dumb but why is everyone waiting to tell people ? This is my 1st pregnancy & everyone n my family are excited we haven't had a new baby n the family n a while ..

People wait because there is an increased chance of miscarriage during the first 12 weeks.

I don't even care anymore. No one is respecting our wishes. I'm pretty sure we are not telling anyone the baby has come until after we go home from the hospital at this point.

geojam224 · June 2015

Lindsaym5! said:

My MIL's friend put it on face book! She tagged me, my husband, my MIL and my mom. Thanks lady I barely know.

These bitches would be dead.

willamina28 · June 2015

That is so whack. I would be beyond furious.

Blinggal24 · June 2015

My first appointment is tomorrow and I just told my mom and my hubby couldn't hold it from his mom any longer. I am holding off on the big announcement for a little while longer.

CountryAir13 · June 2015

je5sc0 said:
My MIL put it on Facebook. Thankfully she doesn't have many friends that even know who I am. But I was like serioussssslllyyyyy

This is my MIL. She has to be the last to know everything just for this reason. The morning my water broke with my son she had it on Facebook before I even got to the hospital. That's just one example. She irritates the crap out of me.

bredoll · June 2015

Hubby wants to wait until the next US on 4/29 before we tell parents. I know his parents and my dad can keep it a secret. My 2 BFFs already know and they haven't even told each other which entertains me since I thought they both knew the other one was told. I won't make a big announcement until after the first tri.

Lindsaym5! · June 2015

If this had been my first pregnancy I would have absolutely lost it!!

It's one thing for people to let it slip to someone but why do people think they can post on facebook? If I wanted it on Facebook then I would have posted it!!

bethechangekaren · June 2015

We're waiting until after the first US for this very reason. My mom would certainly tell my grandma, which means the world would know by Thursday. Ugh.

g0lightly8706 · June 2015

CountryAir13 said:

My MIL put it on Facebook. Thankfully she doesn't have many friends that even know who I am. But I was like serioussssslllyyyyy
This is my MIL. She has to be the last to know everything just for this reason. The morning my water broke with my son she had it on Facebook before I even got to the hospital. That's just one example. She irritates the crap out of me.

OMG! I'd be so furious. I plan on letting my in-laws know beforehand absolutely no check ins or photos until we get a chance after the delivery.. we'll see how that works out $:\$

sbegnaud93 · June 2015

I feel like I'm the only person who hasn't told anyone! My husband and I are waiting until we see the baby's heartbeat before we tell. We both have massive families, so when one person knows, everyone will know. Which is how I want it. I'd like to only be happy right now but it's hard having a miscarriage previously (as I'm sure a lot of you know)!

kjschmidy · June 2015

DH and I have also told no one. When you're ready you will be ready but who and when you tell your big secret is your choice.

chelseattc2 · June 2015

With my first I told my mother almost immediately so she could give me advice and help me but I told her to tell my stepdad and brothers if she wanted to but no one else. It was her first grandchild. We live in a small town and she works at the local wood mill where most of the town is employed .... Including my FIL so she spilled the beans to some of her coworkers and we had to tell the Inlaws earlier than we had planned too

I've confided in her this time (only 4w) because she has just retired and am hoping the excitement will have dulled a little bit being the 2nd baby

Aussiechicka · June 2015

Last time round we told my family who are all in Australia and my best friend here and that's was it til 12 weeks.
This time round we've told a few friends + some family but only the ones we've trusted with other secrets before.

If someone posted this on FB I would livid!

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