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Older siblings adjustments and problems

ElRubyElRuby member
edited June 2015 in June 2015 Moms
How are all your other children adjusting to new baby? And what are their ages?
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  • hswan26hswan26 member
    DD is 4 and the ultimate big sister/helper. She loves the baby and jumps to help anytime she cries. DH just went back to work and works evenings so he gets gown after she's in bed. There have been a couple nights she was weepy at bedtime but all in all she is adjusting well. I try to make sure ahe gets some time individually with each one of us whenever we can even if it's just to run an errand or something.
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  • Sammy KSammy K member
    LO isn't here yet and we're already having issues. DS is 2.5 and seems excited but he's really clingy and we're having sleep issues. I'm not looking forward to the next 3 weeks.
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  • ksimo6ksimo6 member
    DD is 19 months and loves the baby. Lots if kisses and hugs for her brother. But... She also is testing her limits more and more. Time outs have started in this house as of a week ago... Her brother is two weeks old. She also needs 1x1 mom time everyday, which I am happy to give her!
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  • LaurenAnn0405LaurenAnn0405 member
    DD is 3.5 and she's doing pretty good with her little brother. She always wants to hold him and wake him up when he's sleeping which is something we're obviously discouraging but in general she is including him when she talks about her family (Mommy, Daddy, Izzy, and Noah) but something that is happening that I'm not keen on is she's regressing in her potty training. Whenever we were in the hospital and my parents were taking care of her they said she didn't have a single wet or dirty pull up the entire time. When we took her home with us, that night she pooped in her pull-up and it's been a constant battle to get her back on the potty since. I was worried about this happening but was really hoping for the best because I don't have the energy to deal with this right now!
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  • hswan26hswan26 member
    LaurenAnn0405 said:

    DD is 3.5 and she's doing pretty good with her little brother. She always wants to hold him and wake him up when he's sleeping which is something we're obviously discouraging but in general she is including him when she talks about her family (Mommy, Daddy, Izzy, and Noah) but something that is happening that I'm not keen on is she's regressing in her potty training. Whenever we were in the hospital and my parents were taking care of her they said she didn't have a single wet or dirty pull up the entire time. When we took her home with us, that night she pooped in her pull-up and it's been a constant battle to get her back on the potty since. I was worried about this happening but was really hoping for the best because I don't have the energy to deal with this right now!

    Our pediatrician said it takes about 6 months for older children to adjust to having a new baby in the house. As fustrating as the potty training regression is since she's still in pull ups I would probably just praise her when she goes potty and be very matter of fact on changing her if she has an accident. Maybe setting up a reward system would be helpful too. Nothing crazy, stickers that she can't put on a chart and maybe a prize after a certain number of successful days ect without an accident.
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  • WestypetWestypet member
    ElRuby said:

    DS is 3.5... He wavers between wanting to hold and talk to his baby sister and wanting to send her back .. He has become very attention-seeking and I worry that when DH goes back to work it's going to be so hard giving him the special attention he is demanding.

    I am going to sign him up for some summer classes so that he has something to do and also gives me some alone time with baby... Also looking into some ideas for home activities... Today we may make soap crayons if I can gather up the energy to make the mess and clean it up!

    I just looked that up on Pinterest! Such a cute fun idea to do with a child!!
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  • amabarneamabarne member
    DD is 8 so we have a little different dynamic in our house. She is amazing with DS and loves to hold him and go get whatever I need for him. She would just sit and stare and coo at him all day if I let her! I sure hope this doesn't wear off! SD is 7 and indifferent. She will kiss him goodnight or goodbye but really doesn't have much to do with him. She has a 2 year old brother though so I don't know if that is causing the differences in attitudes.
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  • ElRubyElRuby member
    @Westypet super cute and fun craft.... But they didn't really write too well and sort of fell apart in his bath last night :(
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  • ElRubyElRuby member
    I find it really helpful to involve DS in "big boys jobs" and also to make things about him too... Yesterday we were taking newborn photos so it was an opportunity for destructive jealousy to strike so I asked DS to set up his Legos so we could take pictures of all his buildings ... Worked like a charm and it helped him to stay busy, get creative, and feel super proud of his "photo props".
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  • hswan26hswan26 member
    ElRuby said:

    I find it really helpful to involve DS in "big boys jobs" and also to make things about him too... Yesterday we were taking newborn photos so it was an opportunity for destructive jealousy to strike so I asked DS to set up his Legos so we could take pictures of all his buildings ... Worked like a charm and it helped him to stay busy, get creative, and feel super proud of his "photo props".

    This is a great idea! We are having newborn pictures taken this week and of course big sister is going to be in some of them so we went shopping and bought her a special dress for it. Also, we will do the ones with her and family first and when it's time to take ones of just LO I'll have DH take DD to go do something else so she isn't feeling left out.
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  • Sammy KSammy K member
    Here's a great blog post I just read. It's a little late for some of you. I really like how she suggests having the older sibling meet at the hospital. I think we're going to try it!

    https://www.pregnantchicken.com/pregnant-chicken-blog/dos-and-donts-of-bringing-home-baby-20?utm_source=babycenter.com&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=pubexchange_facebook
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  • laurendutchlaurendutch member
    klkonwi said:

    @laurendutch send that kid over to my house! I'll let him attempt to cut this baby out..... Lol...... Too far?
    Probably. Desperate times!

    I'm surprised I'm not already in labor with this kid and his shenignans!

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  • agapeflower117agapeflower117 member
    Sammy K said:

    Here's a great blog post I just read. It's a little late for some of you. I really like how she suggests having the older sibling meet at the hospital. I think we're going to try it!

    https://www.pregnantchicken.com/pregnant-chicken-blog/dos-and-donts-of-bringing-home-baby-20?utm_source=babycenter.com&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=pubexchange_facebook

    Great link! Thanks for this!
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  • Melindafuller34Melindafuller34 member
    edited June 2015
    My 15yr old daughter calls lil bro torture due to I had her babysit while I went to the grocery store lol and my 17 in a real big hurry to move out now when he turns 18 smh!!! And my 12 yr old just goes with the flow of things lol I will be ordering these shirts I found online to take a family Photo pics coming soon :D
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  • akaniniakanini member
    My 14 year old just told me that her friend told her I won't love her anymore once the baby comes. Lol
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  • CateOfChicagoCateOfChicago member
    @ksimo6 My 19 mo old doesn't even acknowledge her brother unless we ask her to. She is deft acting up a bit and doing things she knows she isn't supposed to. It doesn't help that I rock her to sleep each night and haven't for 2 weeks. I'm sure she is confused.
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  • AlyLynn07AlyLynn07 member
    Our 22 month old is somewhat interested in baby - for a few seconds anyway. He will randomly come over and say "hi" or "baby" then goes right back to playing. He loves the gift that we got for him "from baby" and tries to say his name.

    The day after we brought baby home, he had his first big cry during a diaper change. Our sweet DS1 stared at him, his eyes got real big and he looked so concerned. He started bawling along with baby and I joined in soon after. It was the sweetest, saddest thing and I couldn't help but run over to hug him. I miss mommy and me time alone time with him. It's so tough not being able to pick him up and run and chase after him this soon postpartum, but I keep reminding myself that this stage won't last long.
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  • ElRubyElRuby member
    My son was interested in breastfeeding and watched a few times... It helped when I explained it is like how cows and dogs give food to their babies.... I also explained that is how he ate.... He just accepted it.
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  • Melindafuller34Melindafuller34 member
    @akanini she will get over it & start helping my daughter felt the same way at first. Until I took her on a mini shopping spree lol
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  • marlener25marlener25 member
    DS will be three in September and he is obsessed with his new little brother!! He always wants to touch him and kiss him, so we tell him he can kiss his toes. When he saw me breastfeeding for the first time he said "baby Bryce eat mommy's booby".
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  • SarahBaby87SarahBaby87 member
    My two year old is doing ok. He likes to give kisses to the baby but offten plays a little too rough. We've had to start a no touching rule for now until he can understand how to treat the baby. He has started throwing some tantrums that he didn't throw before. It's hard to tell it those are baby related or just a new two year old phase...
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