February 2016 Moms
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Anyone you are anxious to tell about the pregnancy?
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For me it's my dad and my daughters father (ex husband).
My dad is VERY old school and the first thing out of his mouth will be.... "When are you and BF getting married?" Well, not today! But I'm not just going to plan on having kids with any ol person Dad!
My ex because we were together since 9th grade (I'm 30) and keep close contact because of our daughter. We coparent very well together although I am the primary parent. He's a great dad and a great friend, and there are absolutely NO feelings left from that relationship but I cannot help but wonder what's going to go on in his head when I tell him.
BF and I have been together over 2 years and I've been divorced for almost 2.5. I want a couple more children (hopefully!!!) and that just wasn't in the cards with my ex.
Blah! First world problems.
My dad is VERY old school and the first thing out of his mouth will be.... "When are you and BF getting married?" Well, not today! But I'm not just going to plan on having kids with any ol person Dad!
My ex because we were together since 9th grade (I'm 30) and keep close contact because of our daughter. We coparent very well together although I am the primary parent. He's a great dad and a great friend, and there are absolutely NO feelings left from that relationship but I cannot help but wonder what's going to go on in his head when I tell him.
BF and I have been together over 2 years and I've been divorced for almost 2.5. I want a couple more children (hopefully!!!) and that just wasn't in the cards with my ex.
Blah! First world problems.
Re: Anyone you are anxious to tell about the pregnancy?
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
Kiddo #1 = 10 cycles of trying, 1 CP and is now a toddler
Last time, we actually did not tell much family. We just let them figure it out. My friends will be excited but my family is super dysfunctional. I also happen to be the only one who is married and having kids so there is no one to share the attention with.
I had to decide that it's "my family, my business". They would be horrified to know that we are considering adopting in the future. I have a great husband, we have great jobs and our kids are thriving.
I'm very close to my dad but am estranged from my mom and have been since I was 10 when CPS removed me from her house (drugs and neglect) and my mom told me she didn't want to be a mom anymore. I moved in with my dad and my mom continued to go down a very bad path. My dad (a former marine), got me on track and I'm very thankful for that. Well, my sister is 9 years older and was away in Europe studying abroad while all of this was happening, and a few years ago she decided she wanted to help my mom so she asked my mom to move in with her. My mom is now an alcoholic (she switched meth for booze after some time in prison), and my sister is an enabler. I received a lot of pressure from them to invite my mom to my wedding and both my sister and mom ruined a lot of the day. It was humiliating.
My sis and I have never been close but she went through premature ovarian failure at 25. It was a long road and she ended up adopting, but she is open about being angry at people who are able to get pregnant. There is so much more to the story but unfortunately, with my dad living close by now, (he maintains a relationship with both my mom and sister... We are seriously fucked up), I will need to tell them either in person or in email. I'm hesitant for so many reasons- I don't want to bring up old crap for anyone, and I hate the entitlement I can already see my mom having "this is MY grandchild", etc.
Honestly I will probably wait until I can't wait anymore. Sorry so long!!!
Also - my sister in law has always wanted a family and has been trying for years with lots of health issues. We are very close and i know she'll be so so truly excited and happy for us but i know she'll be a little jealous deep down.
We told my mil&fil last weekend. . . My fil commented on the fact that my "bra size" will increase as well and mil commented on how jealous my sister in law would be. Not exactly the reaction i wanted! But they were and are very excited and supportive.
My mother and i don't have a good relationship. She's in her own world now and not very involved with mine. She used to be a nurse and actually used to work in the maternity ward at the hospital i plan to deliver at and she knows about the obgyn office I'm going to so i really want her to be by my side throughout this but she's not reliable and I'm not sure if she's emotionally stable enough to be the support system that i need right now.
I am not going to be announcing really at all. I really don't want to tell my parents. They decided once I had kids to become completely dysfunctional. Everything is about them all.the.time. It is exhausting.
Also I have a friend who just had her fourth boy and strangers come up to her and make the rudest comments. Makes me anxious just thinking about it.
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Basically, my boss quit about 3 weeks ago. No one has bothered to inform me of who I report to now, but I logged in to our HR system and it says I now report to his boss. This guy is 5 levels higher than me, one of the company bigwigs and not based in our office (or even our city). I have no idea how to go about telling him as we've only spoken maybe twice in the 2.5 yrs I've worked at the company and its not like I can just pop in to talk to him.
I'm either going to have to schedule a conference call or send him an email and both seem totally bizarre.
BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks
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Babies/pregnancies should bring happiness and not stir up old family issues but believe me - this is the real world, and we all know some people cannot let the past be the past.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
That's not so comforting sorry they weren't super excited! Oh well for her I guess.