TTC After a Loss
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TTC AFTER LOSS
Sheasoobadd
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I had a mc at 19 weeks. I never thought I could be so depressed in my life. But I had to bounce back because I have a 3yr old already. OB told us we could try whenever we were ready & finally I am. AF showed up 35 days after Aiyden's arrival. I have decided to start charting. I have been taking my prenatals as well as taking extra folic acid. I will be adding soy ISO on cd 3-7 to mature my eggs. I know it sounds crazy but we are TTC twins. Lol. I'm currently waiting for AF to approach soon. If any members have any suggestions please feel free to send them my way. Baby dust to every one!
Re: TTC AFTER LOSS
I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board.
While I hope that you have a successful and healthy pregnancy in the future, I do feel the need to point a few things out that spring to my mind.
Watch taking supplements without the direct supervision of your doctor. Soy contains compounds including phytoestrogens that can have an effect on reproduction, and while I am sure that is why you are taking them, they do not always have the effect we think they will.
There are so many joys with the birth of twins, but there are also so many devastating risks. Over the years on these boards I have seen so many TTCAL women have subsequent pregnancies with twins. I can think of one that didn't end up with a life-changing NICU stay, and those life changes are sometimes terrifying and sometimes tragic. Pregnancy with multiples is generally high-risk, both for the life of the babies and for the life of the mother. Even a young and healthy mother can find herself in hospital bed rest for months waiting for the babies to mature to the point that they might survive if the complication that placed her there worsens. At minimum, the cost of a comparatively short week-long NICU stay common to twins can bankrupt some couples, even after insurance pays their part. Twins are a blessing, but the true miracle is when they come without complications. If you want twins, I hope nature obliges you, but be very aware of the risks so that you can have support in place early.
Finally, for those that are newer to the loss community, please be aware that one of the most painful and offensive terms out there in TTC-land is 'baby dust'. I am absolutely positive that none of you meant anything offensive when you said it. You were just intending to wish positive energy to those around you in their TTC endeavors, and that is wonderful. However, I personally ask that you file this particular term away in the 'best not to use' file, along with retard and a host of others offensive terms commonly found in use. The reason for this is that many women in this community have lost their pregnancies at a stage that cremation was an option, and the visual of having baby dust tossed on them is both jarring to painful memories and horrifying in a way that is difficult to explain to someone who hasn't lived that reality. I am absolutely not suggesting someone who uses the term would ever intentionally hurt a fellow member of this community, but I am bringing it up so that we can be aware that the term is hurtful and to ask that we please avoid its use in the future. In full disclosure, I am one of those with cremated remains.
All advice given based on lengthy personal experience.
I am not a doctor, I just have a working medical vocabulary.
Always available to answer questions about loss, infertility, and TRP.
All advice given based on lengthy personal experience.
I am not a doctor, I just have a working medical vocabulary.
Always available to answer questions about loss, infertility, and TRP.
