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Another MIL story

gokahne9gokahne9 member
in August 2015 Moms
FTM here and this week has really made me question my MIL's judgement. She kept my SIL's 2 boys while they were out of town on a cruise. She told me the 3 year old almost fell in the lake when she turned her back for a minute. He's not supposed to be out there without a life jacket and she told me not to tell his mom. Then she told me that she left him in the car while she ran in the grocery store because she didn't want to wake him up. The next day, she was going to let the 6 yr old spend the night with me and DH. I said that we need to ask permission from his mom first. If I left my child in someone else's care, that's where I expect him to be! She told me it wouldn't matter because they were driving her crazy. Does she really think that I'm going to let her keep my baby after all this?
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  • gokahne9gokahne9 member
    toccoaparker said:

    She left him in the car?! ~X(

    I know! Apparently she hasn't been made aware that this is a huge deal and that people get arrested for this now!
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  • CarelessDiva89CarelessDiva89 member
    Miz_Liz said:

    Not only would she NEVER be watching my child, but I think you need to tell your SIL - she is putting her children at risk and she has a right to know. I know I could never live with myself if I chose to stay out of it not to rock the boat and the next time something happened to one of those poor kids. She sounds like a ding-bat.

    This ×1000. exactly what my advice would be. The safety of those kids definitely needs to come first & your SIL deserves to know. And nothing boils my blood more then people continuing to leave kids in cars!! So not okay. Good thing you know how she is so you won't put your child in that situation. [-X
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  • Starynightsky24Starynightsky24 member
    She's putting their lives at risk. Their mom deserves to know. Their life is more important than SIL being mad/upset with you. Tell her.

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  • gokahne9gokahne9 member
    Yall are all right. I think I will say something to her. I'd want her to tell me!
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  • bpwife&mamabpwife&mama member
    Ummm no. That's ridiculous.
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  • emmacake08emmacake08 member
    I agree with everyone, not okay!! My aunt once told me how she would let her grandson eat his breakfast every day while she took a quick shower every morning. He was literally 2 years old. Needless to say she has never and will never watch my kids. If that's someone's baseline judgement then no way. How the heck am I supposed to trust your judgement ever??? It's by the grace of God that some kids have survived thankfully!
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  • mpmom1518mpmom1518 member
    Sometimes I think it is amazing that our husbands survived their childhoods after hearing MIL stories like this! I would warn your SIL for sure (nothing bothers me more than someone asking me to keep a secret for them! They know it was wrong or they wouldn't ask you not to tell!). I would also be grateful that your SIL had kids first so you can be pre-warned going in. I'm the first and I'm so worried about things like this!
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  • gokahne9gokahne9 member
    edited June 2015
    True. I should point out that MIL is actually my DH and SILs stepmother. (Their mother passed many years ago.) She never had kids of her own. Not sure if this makes things worse or better. But either way it's bad!
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  • julesventurajulesventura member
    melissannette13 said:

    Sometimes I think it is amazing that our husbands survived their childhoods after hearing MIL stories like this! I would warn your SIL for sure (nothing bothers me more than someone asking me to keep a secret for them! They know it was wrong or they wouldn't ask you not to tell!). I would also be grateful that your SIL had kids first so you can be pre-warned going in. I'm the first and I'm so worried about things like this!

    My thoughts exactly! The horror stories my husband tells me about his childhood were enough for me to say Nope! My MIL or FIL have never had to watch our kids because I keep thinking about their poor decisions lol BIL has a baby and when this child was only 4-5 months old I walked in on MIL giving the baby donuts dunked in coffee! Another time FIL was almost going to give their baby a pacifier dipped in honey!!! That's a huge no-no before they turn a certain age isn't it?? When I explained why they can't do that they replied with well that's what we did with our kids and they're alive aren't they? Ummm yes they're alive, but so many things could've killed them!
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  • kat+1kat+1 member
    My mom is the issue. She has smacked my sons hand for pulling her hair, I was sitting right there and told her not to do it and she spitefully did it a second time needless to say I freaked on her.
    Then she was the worlds nastiest cold/ flu and she is biting grapes in half and feeding him. I had to explaine that she was going to make him sick. He now has a nasty cough and had the flu yesterday.. She makes fun of him when he ask for thing because he can't talk yet so he wines and I explain that he can't talk yet so that his way of communication and to stop making fun of him.

    Calls him lazy for crawling instead of walking.
    Come on he's 11 months old he can't be lazy.


    I have 2 weeks left in my vacation aty parents house and feel like I have to watch my mom more then my 11 month old
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  • AshK1027AshK1027 member
    Not okay! I wouldn't let her keep my child for 2 seconds. You may want to think about telling your SIL, as well. It's a safety concern!!
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