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For STM's, include daughter/son for ultrasound?

asc88asc88 member
in December 2015 Moms
My husband and I are probably going to be taking our DD to our 17 week ultrasound appt. She went with us to hear the heartbeat and really enjoyed it. My only hesitation is that this is going to be our first ultrasound so there is always a possibility they will see something concerning or even just flat out bad and she would be with us. She is 6 so she is old enough to understand when something is wrong and I don't want to scare her. We are trying so hard to include her in this pregnancy so she doesn't feel left out and is excited for the baby. Of course the hubby just thinks that I'm overthinking and being paranoid...but I just like to be prepared for anything that might happen.

 Is there anyone else who is considering taking their DD or DS with them for the ultrasound?
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  • kristen2bkristen2b member
    I have had this exact concern. Want to include her but worry about what to do if something comes up. So you're not alone in that thought process. But I have no advice. Other than what I'm doing which is to just take her and have faith.
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  • asc88asc88 member
    Glad to know I'm not alone! We are still going to take her but like you we will just have to have faith that it will go smoothly.

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  • kristen2bkristen2b member
    edited June 2015
    My daughter will be five by then. By the way. Lol.

    Edited because reasons.
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  • Blake&BlairBlake&Blair member
    We just told our 5 year old about the baby and she is so so so excited. I'm scheduling an ultrasound to determine the sex within a few weeks and taking her with us. I think there is always room, no matter how far along in pregnancy or delivery, for something to go wrong so I'm choosing to celebrate the excitement as much as i can. i'm far enough along that should something go wrong she'll be aware of it anyway.
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  • CmagnoCmagno member
    We had DD with us at the NT 13 week u/s, she loved it. Mind you she's only 19 months. The tech and then the perinatologist were very aware of her presence and I bet in the very off chance they had to talk to you about something upsetting or sensitive they would make sure to give you the option of having DH and daughter step out or wording it very carefully. I think it's great you are working so hard to involve your daughter! Go for it!
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  • mfargliomfarglio member
    I don't have my own kids but I got my sisters approval to take my 6 year old niece to my 18 week anatomy scan and I still haven't told her yet but I'm hoping she's excited. The thing about kids that age is they are very perceptive and whether she goes and something is wrong or she doesn't go and something is wrong she is going to feel it and she's old enough to understand that something is wrong, yes, but I also think that means they're mature enough to be there for that. It may scare them if there's something wrong but it's better to celebrate the joy of pregnancy and involve her in my opinion. And then if something does go wrong, use it as an opportunity to teach her about it.

    But most likely everything will be perfect and I don't blame you for being nervous one bit but enjoy this time with your DD and remember that the more you involve her now the better it will be for everyone when your new LO comes :)
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  • Catherine1021Catherine1021 member
    I'm a little jealous! My kids would love to go, but the place that does the anatomy scans for my OB does not allow children to be there. They told me this over and over again on the phone when I made the appointment, and then they sent follow-up paperwork, which also stated no children allowed in all caps and highlighted. 
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  • heatmillheatmill member
    I took my friends' kids to meet pregnant mama at the doctor and we all watched it together :) it was fabulous finding out the sex together. DD named him "Sherrif" on the spot =))

    I suppose this either wasn't a concern of hers or she just didn't think about that prior to inviting us. What if DH stayed outside of the room with DD until you got the A-okay from the tech? Or have another trusted adult (like how I was there with my friend's kids) to wait outside with her?

    If you're really worried, you could also just record it for her. Give her one of the screenshots they give you to keep as her own? Once you find out the gender go get a onesie and decorate it together? Hehe I'm just rambling off ideas. How fun that would be to bring a new sibling into the family :):)
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  • heatmillheatmill member
    And maybe try giving the office a call! This is clearly a common concern so maybe they have ideas.

    Either way, congrats on your expanding family and I hope all goes well!
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  • chelseymmcgheechelseymmcghee member
    We took my mother in law and son with us (who is 7) to one of our first sonograms. It was there where he found out he was going to be a big brother. I had the same concern, so my husband and I went in first to make sure everything was ok, and once we found out everything was fine, they came in and joined. 


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  • CMDDCMDD member
    You could wait until the anatomy scan- it'd be more fun for a child since the baby will look more like a baby and theres less likely to be a problem.
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  • littleSkittle14littleSkittle14 member
    My DD is 1 and comes to all my appointments. She's oblivious though haha but chances are if you're 17 weeks, you'll be ok! :) it would be so special to share that with your first born! I wish my dd was a little older. I would def take her!
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  • froofroofroofroo member
    My son is almost 5 and he has been named to both my early ultrasounds, and I plan on taking him to any other ultrasounds I will have along the way. He has also been to a couple of my regular appointments. I love including him because of how excited he is for a baby brother or sister.
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  • asc88asc88 member
    CMDD said:
    You could wait until the anatomy scan- it'd be more fun for a child since the baby will look more like a baby and theres less likely to be a problem.


    It is going to be the anatomy scan! :)

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  • laceyglowackilaceyglowacki member
    My son was 5 when I was pregnant with my daughter and very much wanted to be part of EVERYTHING that involved the baby. We did genetic testing so we knew our chances of seeing something out of the ordinary wasn't very high and had previous scans. It was a great experience for him I think. After we found out she was ok and she was a she we took him to babies r us to pick out her very first outfit to come home in and a few little things. He did ask multiple times why didn't we get her out of there today I'm ready to meet her finally. it was a really cute and I think it helped him see it as being more real.
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  • laceyglowackilaceyglowacki member
    Maybe you can ask the u/s tech to take you first and do a quick scan to make sure things look ok, and then once she starts measuring bring your daughter and so back ?
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  • ssinnwellssinnwell member
    My DD is almost 7 and is going with for the anatomy scan. She is super excited!
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  • 4puddleducks4puddleducks member
    DS is 3 years old and will probably come to some of my ultrasounds at MFM, but not the anatomy scan. His attention span is too short and that appointment is going to be, at least, an hour and half long.
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  • asc88asc88 member
    Thanks for the feedback everyone! I would take her to another ultrasound but the one at 17 weeks will be our only one! I think I will let them check me for a few minutes and then once I get the okay let hubby and her come back. Only 14 days to go! So excited!
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