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Baby Blues

Kye042Kye042 member
in May 2015 Moms
Im a FTM and never knew about the effects of the baby blues. How long did your blues last? What did you do to get rid of them?

Along with blues I have a huge sense of separation anxiety when it comes to my DH. He went back to work today and I have been a wreck - I miss him so much!
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Re: Baby Blues

  • nursej519nursej519 member
    I would say the actual baby blues lasted about a week for me BUT I struggled immensely with breast feeding (baby wouldn't latch, i wasn't producing any milk, wasn't sleeping from breast feed-bottle feed-pump cycle) and I was still incredibly emotional for another two and a half weeks until I finally gave up and realized it wasn't working for us. I felt a different emotional strain after the first week though.. And didn't feel like it was so much of the baby blues as it was frustration and lack of sleep.

    It is different for everyone though .
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  • justkeeptryingjustkeeptrying member
    I was very similar to you in the baby blues and anxiety about DH being at work. This first week he went back was AWFUL for me. This is the second week and it's going a lot better.

    If you have any family or friends nearby to support you, REACH OUT TO THEM!!! My mom, sister and SIL were amazing. I spent a day at my moms with the three of them caring for DS while I slept. They just woke me to feed every few hours.

    I've found that having at least one friend or family member over each day has helped immensely. Even if it's just for part of the day. It helps to make the time that DH is at work go by a lot faster.

    My LO turns 3 weeks tomorrow. I feel like my baby blues have passed now but we're still pretty strong a few days ago. They can still creep up at times but that's when I step away for a bit or call my mom or my sister.

    Sleep was the biggest asset to me getting over the hump. My SIL came over one night from 10-1:30 just to hold him so I could sleep when he wouldn't let us put him down. That was a huge blessing for me. I could actually rest knowing he was still being held by someone.

    Good luck! Know that this will pass. But please reach out for support to whoever you have available!
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  • SmrBrd2012SmrBrd2012 member
    My baby blues were super intense in week 2 when H went back to work. I cried or felt weepy every night from 6pm to bed time or whenever LO cried too much. I was filled with this intense fear of how life will never be the same and how my H and I had less time to bond with each other. The tiny bit of time we had to cuddle after we finally got LO to sleep just made me sad. I was a mess. I'm into week 3 and I'm feeling A LOT better now. It's still obviously a ton of work and I'm still emotional but no more crying or feeling as blue which I'm so relieved about!
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  • rositalynda2014rositalynda2014 member
    SmrBrd2012 said:

    My baby blues were super intense in week 2 when H went back to work. I cried or felt weepy every night from 6pm to bed time or whenever LO cried too much. I was filled with this intense fear of how life will never be the same and how my H and I had less time to bond with each other. The tiny bit of time we had to cuddle after we finally got LO to sleep just made me sad. I was a mess. I'm into week 3 and I'm feeling A LOT better now. It's still obviously a ton of work and I'm still emotional but no more crying or feeling as blue which I'm so relieved about!

    Ugh reading this makes me cry lol exactly how I feel.
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  • jerseymommatobejerseymommatobe member
    SmrBrd2012 said:

    My baby blues were super intense in week 2 when H went back to work. I cried or felt weepy every night from 6pm to bed time or whenever LO cried too much. I was filled with this intense fear of how life will never be the same and how my H and I had less time to bond with each other. The tiny bit of time we had to cuddle after we finally got LO to sleep just made me sad. I was a mess. I'm into week 3 and I'm feeling A LOT better now. It's still obviously a ton of work and I'm still emotional but no more crying or feeling as blue which I'm so relieved about!

    this is exactly how I am feeling right now. can't wait for it to pass soon, baby will be 3 weeks tomorrow. Thanks for sharing this!
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  • 13odesiama13odesiama member
    I have never had it with previous pregnancies but got hit hard this time around!!  It is starting to get a little better each day but I agree it was the worst by far in the second week.
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  • Kye042Kye042 member
    My doctor gave me progesterone to help level out my hormones .. It seems to help but I'm still not myself.

    I still get overwhelmed and cry or cry because I miss my DH so much.
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  • mrswynn2014mrswynn2014 member
    Can baby blues start at anytime? My Lo will be one month tomorrow and just recently I have been really down. I don't mind getting up at night, or taking care of her all day, but I feel so lonely. Even when DH is home. Yesterday I started getting emotional and needed some time just for me. I took a car ride which seemed to help but I felt bad for DH. I think he felt kinda helpless. And this all started a few days ago. Idk what triggered it
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  • anatripanatrip member
    My LO is 5w5days and just this week I found myself having some anxiety over DH going back to work (he had a 6week leave) and just general sadness. We are very supported as we are living w my parents until September but I still find myself stressing out about getting back to my normal self, time w DH, work goals/life balance, money and even getting back to giving my pets more attention. The other day I randomly burst into tears in the car w DH Bc I suddenly became afraid of getting a random illness and not being around for our LO. DH had to get off the highway and bought me smoothie and assured me we r both healthy lol. It seems silly now but in the moment I was SO emotional.
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  • duynguyen51duynguyen51 member
    I'm not sure if it's baby blues but Im just frustrated with lack of sleep at night. I feel so crazy for not having the patience I should have with my newborn, he wakes up every 2-3 hours to feed and stayed up for 2 to 3 hours each time. I probably get 3 to 4 interrupted sleep each night. I wasn't taking naps because I wasn't use to take them so I was always exhausted. I've always been moody when not getting my sleep, I guess I will learn to deal with it soon. I also miss being me, I hardly dress up because I don't go anywhere so that also made me feel blah. I will start taking baby out in a week when baby is a month. I know it sound crazy but I am keeping him in bc I don't want him around ppls and germs yet.
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  • rae430rae430 member
    My LO is four weeks old, and I've been getting progressively more emotional as the weeks go by, probably because of frustration and lack of sleep. I'm struggling with an overactive letdown and oversupply of milk that results in LO gulping milk and air, choking, spitting up whole mouthfuls of milk, and crying multiple times while eating. Since his stomach is filling with more air than milk, he falls asleep while "full" and then wakes up 20 minutes later wanting more. This has been happening for two weeks straight, and I'm getting max 3 hours of sleep a night. I cried three times at the doctors office today while working with the lactation consultant and I cry every time DH hugs me. The frustration and exhaustion is just completely overwhelming. I would love a solid hour to just cuddle with DH without awakening to pitiful screams :(
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