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"Honorary" family members...

KaylaLovesNoahKaylaLovesNoah member
edited June 2015 in August 2015 Moms
What do you think of people calling themselves your babies Aunt or Uncle, when they are in no way releated?

I know a gal who has appointed herself my babies Aunt, because I have no sisters and "a little girl needs and Aunt." #1 my husband has sisters, so our girl will have Aunts. #2 if I wanted my child to identify you as a family member, that would be my husband and my decision? and #3 we're not THAT close of friends!

I have very, VERY strong feelings about anything involving our kid, and the crazy hormones are making it even worse!

Is this something that bothers anyone else? What things are your family or friends doing that make you want to blow up?

(Don't even get me started on my Mom calling MY kid "Our Baby" All. The. Time. The woman is lucky she gave birth to me lol
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  • shmarplershmarpler member
    I'm not really a fan of that, but that's just me. Maybe when baby starts talking you can come up with a special nick name to get out of calling her aunt?
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  • KaylaLovesNoahKaylaLovesNoah member
    I've already got a plan! She'll call her Miss "" . The lady even bought a "My Aunt is Single" onsie...it was a true grin and bare it moment! ;;)
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  • prpl11butterflyprpl11butterfly member
    I'm not a fan. If any non related family gets Aunt or Uncle title, it will be my bff and DHs. That's it. These are people who have been there for us for a long time (especially DHs as he was also my friend before I met DH and the main reason we are together). Still trying to work out how to avoid MILs boyfriend being called Papa....she had my niece start calling him that after only a few months (granted it has been 4 years now) but I cannot stand him and really don't want my son calling him that.
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  • prairiedreamsprairiedreams member
    Self titleing is rude but if you decide to someone special aunt or uncle that is fine.
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  • KaylaLovesNoahKaylaLovesNoah member
    edited June 2015
    Being someone's God Parent is an important thing! Deciding on a God Parent is very serious and personal for a parent! That's far worse than being a Self-appointed Aunt!
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  • Thj417Thj417 member
    Hah! Completely understand - first it started with the parents automatically calling us their children's "uncle and aunt". I never once wanted this association with these people. They have completely screwed up parenting ideals compared to what I believe in. I don't want to be their aunt!!! And now that we've had one of our own, they automatically call themselves "uncle and aunt". NO!!! You're just a family friend!!!!!!
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  • KaylaLovesNoahKaylaLovesNoah member
    Have that issue as well!
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  • BrandiAmabiscaBrandiAmabisca member
    That's what I thought. The kicker is that it's an "online friend" that I've met IRL only twice.
    It definitely rubbed myself AND my best friend, the Auntie, the wrong way.
    She posts about it on social media. Shared my gender reveal with "SO EXCITED FOR THIS BLESSING MY GOD SON!"
    I don't even know how to address it.
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  • KaylaLovesNoahKaylaLovesNoah member
    When/if you do decide on a God Parent, make it known! You can't argue with the lady who pushed the baby outta her hooha! /:)
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  • abmommy15abmommy15 member
    Totally have an issue with people appointing themselves as auntie. I have a couple of very close friends who will get the auntie title but that is my choosing.
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  • SaratiffSaratiff member
    My four best friends from elementary school are closer to me then my sisters my soul sisters I guess . They are the family I chose not the one I was necessarily born into.

    With that said of course my sisters will be aunt so and so but that group of friends will be also. One those friends has two kids they call me Auntie Sara but husband is just Ryan. I will let my kid decide what they want to call their husbands but those four girls will be their Aunts as well.

    Now if one of my other friends just decided hey I'm aunty so and so then I would be a bit perturbed. But then again I will be doing introductions and like grandparent names to a certain extent I feel like I can shape how they address other adults.
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  • alyciamrsalyciamrs member
    I think it depends who it is. My best friend is calling herself an aunt to my child and my husband and I are too. We've been friends since second grade and are still as close as ever. Therefore she will be my child's aunt. However, one of my moms friends who we are only semi close with exclaimed the other day, "I can't wait to be an aunt". Umm, no your not. How would you even figure? Never will I be telling my child to call her aunt.
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  • kezdkkezdk member
    Where I grew up it was a sign of respect to refer to all (known) adults as Aunty and Uncle, and I will have my baby refer to my friends as such. It is a title to acknowledge adult v. Child. I can see how some might not like the self appointment...we are all different and that is what ales the world go around. I just think there needs to be some way to draw the line of respect for children to adults and I have always used Aunty and uncle to do so.
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  • bhargrave88bhargrave88 member
    lap018 said:

    messymolly08 said:

    BrandiAmabisca said:

    That's what I thought. The kicker is that it's an "online friend" that I've met IRL only twice.
    It definitely rubbed myself AND my best friend, the Auntie, the wrong way.
    She posts about it on social media. Shared my gender reveal with "SO EXCITED FOR THIS BLESSING MY GOD SON!"
    I don't even know how to address it.

    Is it just me or is that a little creepy? Lol

    A little? That's about as suspicious as a nun doing squats in a cucumber field.......
    ^^^just died!!!!! omg! Lmao!!!! Best. Analogy. Ever. Bravo!!!
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  • 13itchyBride13itchyBride member
    kezdk said:

    Where I grew up it was a sign of respect to refer to all (known) adults as Aunty and Uncle, and I will have my baby refer to my friends as such. It is a title to acknowledge adult v. Child. I can see how some might not like the self appointment...we are all different and that is what ales the world go around. I just think there needs to be some way to draw the line of respect for children to adults and I have always used Aunty and uncle to do so.

    This 100%.
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  • anderl6anderl6 member
    prpl11butterfly said:
    I'm not a fan. If any non related family gets Aunt or Uncle title, it will be my bff and DHs. That's it. These are people who have been there for us for a long time (especially DHs as he was also my friend before I met DH and the main reason we are together). Still trying to work out how to avoid MILs boyfriend being called Papa....she had my niece start calling him that after only a few months (granted it has been 4 years now) but I cannot stand him and really don't want my son calling him that.
    Omg, totally can relate to the MIL's boyfriend situation! Can't stand the guy (he's super smarmy and disingenuous) and he already thinks very highly of himself. My kid will NOT be calling him anything other than his name. Like most of the other posts, someone needs to earn the right to bear a title and should be contributing to the upbringing of the child in a positive way. Don't get me wrong, I will teach my child to respect adults (like @kezdk mentioned) but allowing an unearned title to be thrown around isn't for me. 

    To each their own! I'm sure each situation is different and parents will figure out what works best for them but it seems highly irritating when others assume their place in your child's life. 
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  • pabeybabypabeybaby member
    A friend of my dads called herself my child's aunt when we first announced our pregnancy. Um, no. Especially when you barely speak to me yourself.

    Seems like a lot of us feel the same way with calling our besties aunt/uncle, but not family friends or parents friends.
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