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Not baby related** Rant.

victoriaaa1victoriaaa1 member
in August 2015 Moms
in a relationship I like to question things to an extent, not because I don't trust the person just because I feel I can.
For example my SO will get a call and I always ask "what happen?" Because his mom is pretty much the only person that really calls when she needs something or ask something and so on. Most of the time he'll tell me what was said without me asking.
Sometimes people will call him or text him to do things for them and he'll start getting dressed to go and I always ask "where are you going?" And I guess he doesn't like being questioned or I don't know what but he has a issue with me asking that. Then tells me "don't worry about it" or "why does it matter" .
Either he's just really immature relationship wise or seriously has issues with being questioned for simple things when I feel I have the right to know something as simple as to where he's going or who called? He does it to me so why can't I do it too him?
There's also no trust issues in our relationship and never been so I don't know why he's the way he is , and is even like that with his siblings and mom . Also we been together about 3 years so I been dealing with his shitty attitude for a while and I'm at my end with it.
When I say something he gets all mad and seriously makes me think why the hell am I with you?
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  • SaratiffSaratiff member
    Maybe he feels like you don't trust him? And that's why he gets defensive? I ask hubs but if he says nothing or don't worry about I drop it. I do trust him so it doesn't bother me
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  • CarelessDiva89CarelessDiva89 member
    edited June 2015
    It could be you question him to much and that's why he gets defensive with you. So maybe if you didn't ask so much he would want to tell you things more often.. also it could be a combination of him needing to include you more and you backing off more.. meeting in the middle? If anything just talk to him about it and see what he says so you guys can understand each other better.
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  • victoriaaa1victoriaaa1 member
    @Saratiff no, it's not that I don't trust him cause I do . I always drop it I'll ask him and when he starts giving me attitude I just leave it alone cause I really try my hardest to not be an asshole towards him, even though he is always one towards me in many situations . I mean that's just how I am I do it to everyone. Friend, family.. So it's not that it's only him that I ask those things too. He also does it to me or like him mom.
    And with him being defensive he gets that way with EVERYTHING! I could just be reminding him to do something or help him with something and he also gets that way . It's really frustrating.
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  • victoriaaa1victoriaaa1 member
    edited June 2015
    @CarelessDiva89 That's the thing I don't really ever question him because he always tells me , and even if he didn't I could careless . He's the one who always does it too me so why can't I do it too him when I just want to know something so simple that you can just respond "I just gotta go help someone be back" not don't worry about it and be a jerk I'm not asking every detail as to what he has to do and who he's going with .
    Like how would he feel if I just got up started getting dressed to leave and just go ? And then when he asks where are you going I responded with it doesn't matter or don't worry about it he would f***ing flip !!!
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