Scared to get excited

MrsDunne · June 2015

This is my fifth pregnancy and I have one son. I'm coming right off the back of a loss at 16 weeks and I got pregnant before I had my period. I have an early scan on Wednesday and I'm just so freaked. My blood test puts me around 8 weeks now so hopefully all is ok!!

twil141 · June 2015

You always have to think positive thoughts! I'm having struggles as well with keeping good thoughts in mind. Always know that baby was given to you for a reason and that baby has a purpose! Don't stress too much!! Don't get too bummed out. Someone told me "Until you know something is wrong, keep a positive mind!"

raychelmarie33 · June 2015

Sending positive thoughts your way!

MrsDunne · June 2015

Thank you @twil141 and @raychelmarie33 I am great at being positive in the day but it is night time that I really struggle. Still Wednesday is so close and it will be great to see the skittle on the screen :x

lyannast · June 2015

I've never had a loss but I'm terrified aswell. My Mum lost my sister at 19 weeks. I was at the scan where they couldn't find her heartbeat and was one of the only people at her birth. I held her, loved her, and buried her. It was a bit experience in my life but I never understood how that experience would impact my own pregnancy... My first scan, I couldn't bring myself to look at the screen until they told me there was a heartbeat and I've never cried so much from joy.
I'm so sorry for your previous losses, but am right with you hoping for an amazing outcome for this pregnancy.
Good luck

uiltje82 · June 2015

This is my 4th pregnancy and no children yet, so I totally know what you're feeling.... I cannot find any reason why it would be okay this time... That's a terrible feeling, but with the experiences also logical I think. Have my us tomorrow... Have been counting the minutes the last three weeks, but now it comes so close I want to avoid going there.
But as pessimistic this might seem, I try to enjoy and think about all the success stories!!

ChrissyD1203 · June 2015

My husband recommends this book - https://m.barnesandnoble.com/w/power-of-positive-thinking-norman-vincent-peale/1101102278?ean=9784871876292 I think we might own it so maybe I'll give it a shot

Jamilla9 · June 2015

I feel the same way. I miscarried in March and I'm distancing myself from this pregnancy. I'm just afraid of going through that again. I hope I start feeling differently in the next trimester.

baby0708 · June 2015

I feel the same as well. I have miscarried twice in the last year so I am trying to be positive but not get too excited. I go in next Monday for the first US so praying all is well! Sending positive vibes to all of you too!

jem8407 · June 2015

Sending all of you PGAL girls some positive vibes. I do have some empathy and understanding as I lost one earlier this year and am also PGAL. In addition to my many checks, I had a crazy bleeding episode which turned out to be a subchorionic hemorrhage (1% of pregnancies get these and they are not preventable). I now spot often which is considered "normal" for my condition. I am scared half of the time and try to stay sane the rest. We are all here together and can send prayers and good vibes.

winnie1122 · June 2015

@uiltje82 I hope everything went ok today! I'm in the same boat, 4th pregnancy, no children yet. My u/s is next week, terrified. Prayers for all of you!

uiltje82 · June 2015

Hi @winnie1122, thanks for asking!! It was unbelievable.... For the first time ever there was a tiny worm with a heartbeat! I couldn't stop crying... It's still hard to believe. 7w5d, Dr wants to see me again in two weeks. Chances of another miscarriage have dropped now, but are of course still a bit higher than usual. Seeing and hearing the heartbeat made me pretty confident though, but unfortunately after a few hours the fear kicked back in

. But I must say, I feel really better now and it feels like a weight has been falling off my shoulders. So, step by step I'm allowing myself to feel pregnant, and to think about what the next 7 months will be like.

Did you hear or see a heartbeat already in your previous pregnancies? To me it makes it easier to be happy now, since I never heard or saw one.

When is your ultrasound next week and how far along will you be by then? Good luck, and I really hope for you to get wonderful news too.�

winnie1122 · June 2015

@uiltje82 That's amazing news!! So happy for you! No, I didn't see a heartbeat with any of the others, only made it to the first u/s one out of the three times and that was a mmc. My appt is next Wednesday, if I see a heartbeat I will probably die of happiness! Thanks, I'll be praying for continued success in your pregnancy too!!

Knottie07740708 · June 2015

The heartbeat is the biggest thing I worried about as well due to my previous losses. But once I saw the heartbeat I was so overwhelmed with happiness. Of course the next day i was immediately worried again and didn't know what to do. i contacted my insurance, applied to their maternity program and they shipped me a 6 month rental of a fetal doppler and I want you all to know that if you are still worried you NEED to get this ! Every single day after work I go home the first thing I do is find my baby's heartbeat to make sure that they are okay. It helps keep positive thoughts in my mind. Of course if I ever can't find it Ill attack the doctors office with concern and questions =/. But honestly, it helps me everyday be positive and happy. it gets me through the difficult waiting period between ultrasounds. Again, I can't recommend it enough !

Good luck to all of you - even having this experience is a blessing so lets do what we can to enjoy what we have been given

KimC2010 · June 2015

I've had two loses in the last year 0 kids, and I'm also scared to get excited. I'm waiting to see if we see anything tomorrow before I even change my avatar or add a ticker. I'm super paranoid. I had a breakdown the other night. Its just so frustrating. We put off having a kid until we got decent jobs and a house, didn't know that it would be so difficult.

caromartin · June 2015

This is my 7th pregnancy and I have a daughter (from pregnancy #2). u/s is on Friday, I should be 7w5d and see a heartbeat. We decided ahead of time that this would be my last pregnancy. Hoping for a miracle baby on our last try!

KaraEpp16 · June 2015

I am also scared to get excited. When you only know loss for the most part it is hard. I've become more positive recently... My next appointment is on the 25th and they will hook me up to the doppler. I'm so anxious. June is dragggiiiinnnggg.

annatouchton · June 2015

It's nice to know there's others out there with similar experiences as me. I miscarried in February at 8 weeks with a mmc (it was my first pregnancy and I'm 30). I'm so weary of getting excited this time. Ultrasound is Monday, I'll be 10w 2d....fingers crossed to hear a heartbeat

brooksdominique · June 2015

this is my first pregnancy and i am terrified of miscarriage. in my formative years my step mother had 5 miscarriages and it had a major impact on me. she did go on to have a successful pregnancy and i have the most beautiful little sister. i was 16 when she was born and i love her so much. when i found out i was expecting, fear of miscarriage suffocated me. as the weeks have gone on (im 8weeks now) i am feeling less fearful. i had some spotting last week and FREAKED OUT. doctor did some blood work to check hcg levels and then did a repeat to compare..its all looking pretty good so that has helped with the fear as well. im not sure how i will feel once i see baby on ultrasound next week. i want to be excited...but im scared to get attached to the baby..

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