Any advice for a son that is too emotional!

Re: Any advice for a son that is too emotional!

• KadzoKimbia member

  May 2015

  I would guess it's a phase... I think the more attention you bring to it the longer the phase might last. I don't think bullying usually starts at such a young age bc all the kids are emotional disasters. My DS is only 2.5 but somethings will send him into an emotional tailspin. My nephew is 6 and he will sometimes still lose it but it is not as often as it used to be. I know that's probably not what you were looking for as I don't have much advice, but kids are tiny balls of hormones and emotions that they don't understand... Good luck!

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• valeriegp member

  May 2015

  All while I was growing up I was very sensitive and would cry a lot and would not have the words to describe how I felt. My mom would tell me to stop crying unless I knew why I was crying, and I still carry the emotional scars from that. At the time, it didn't help me, it made things worse. You need to be careful.

  
  

  Kids your son's age are emotional and hormonal wrecks, and this is normal. They also don't understand sarcasm, so if that is how you are joking with him, he probably doesn't get it. They do not have the emotional or cognitive tools and experiences to handle life and all the changes, confusion, and crap that it brings (and this won't change for a long time, but it will get better. Read some adolescent psychology -- the brain isn't fully formed until the early 20s). They have little control over their lives and don't always know how to deal with it.

  
  

  You need to help your son start to learn how to handle his emotions in a constructive and healthy way. I would recommend that you talk to his pediatrician or a child psychologist about some good parenting books if you aren't sure how to do this. And, he may just end up being a super sensitive kid and adult. Some folks are, and if that is the case you don't want to end up being the bully you are so afraid of  him running into. And if he is that, he will need you to be in his corner, and he will need you helping him to learn how to understand, verbalize, and deal with his feelings.

  
  

  
  

  

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• Bigboobsmcgee member

  May 2015

  Dude are you for real?! He's "too emotional for your liking?" Um, suck it up. You can't force your child to be how you want him to be and I have a feeling these little talks you have with him will only make it worse because you will make him self-conscious about what just simply comes naturally to him. At 3 years old you can't really "toughen" him up.

  Have you ever thought about how hard it might be that his parents aren't together? He's 3 for crying out loud! I'm sorry but this is just sad.

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• Ya Never Know member

  May 2015 edited May 2015

  While I can understand how the crying for what appears to be no reason to you can be frustrating, I really do agree with above poster that you need to suck it up. There's always a reason why a kid is crying, but sometimes they don't know how to express those feelings or they don't understand their own feelings so they can't tell you why they are crying. We try to encourage DD to use her words instead of screaming and crying, but we also tell her it's okay to cry. You can't sensor their feelings. I'm sure it is also really hard for him to understand why him mom and dad aren't together, and if that's something recent, then I'm sure that's also really difficult for him and could absolutely be something that's causing the surge in emotions. I don't think you should worry about what school will be like for him, kids are generally different in those environments than they are at home.
  

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• Chuck1906 member

  June 2015

  Bigboobsmcgee, nice screen name btw! :-) I may have exaggerated my post just a tad. I do a lot of encouraging and I do sit him down and explain things to him like any parent should do with their child/kids. We live in a cruel world and I just didn't want him to be called the cry baby or get picked on for crying all the time. It wasn't my intention to "toughen him up" at such an early age. My mom who is a retired teacher and watches him during the week noticed the same behaviors out of him. I do think part of what upsets him is that he doesn't see me every single day so I have to be careful how I joke around with him because I know thats a sensitive subject with him. I don't like it any more than he does. I wish I could see him everyday. I thank you all for your comments.

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• Bigboobsmcgee member

  June 2015

  Chuck1906 said:

  Bigboobsmcgee, nice screen name btw! :-) I may have exaggerated my post just a tad. I do a lot of encouraging and I do sit him down and explain things to him like any parent should do with their child/kids. We live in a cruel world and I just didn't want him to be called the cry baby or get picked on for crying all the time. It wasn't my intention to "toughen him up" at such an early age. My mom who is a retired teacher and watches him during the week noticed the same behaviors out of him. I do think part of what upsets him is that he doesn't see me every single day so I have to be careful how I joke around with him because I know thats a sensitive subject with him. I don't like it any more than he does. I wish I could see him everyday. I thank you all for your comments.

  I understand this concern. No one wants that to happen to their child.
  

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• contourhands member

  August 2015

  Hi there... My son, 3 in a half is the same... It's frustrating and hard and really concerns me too.... He is really super emotional. I know I need to be more patient with him and try not to get so annoyed when he starts up over little things... I just want to say I too worry about the same things and hope it all works out ok....

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• Designermomma member

  September 2015

  I have a 6 year old that still crys a lot. He cries if he doesn't win a game, he cries if we order the wrong pizza, he cries when I tell him it's time to go to bed, and he cried when I went to the boyscout booth to get information about signing him up. No one bullys him and the school has strict policies against that. I just try to talk about possible reasons for the crying and he says yes or no. Like .. "Are you crying because you're scared? I'm sorry you got scared. Maybe next time try XYZ when you are scared." Sometimes he's so upset he can't think or talk and I just try to calm him down and make him laugh or distract him with a game etc. and then later I revisit the subject. DS has come a long way and matured a lot this year. He takes karate and I think that helps all of us not be afraid of bullies. (Starts at age 4 here but DS started at 5) I think a lot of it goes away as he matures just try to help guide him on how to deal with and vocalize his emotions.

  

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• MomAMY47 member

  September 2015

  Any chance he's getting his molars in? Both of my kids were very emotional for no apparent reason when a tooth or two were coming in, ESPECIALLY the molars!! If so, baby ibuprofen, teething tablets and popsicles help! Good luck!

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