Some FTM concerns--anyone know the answers?

blovemama · June 2015

1. So my SIL had her little boy in May. We live in Florida. She bundles him up from head to toe (hat, footie pjs, etc.) every day. Is this necessary in 90* weather? People/stores definitely pump out the AC this time of year, so maybe it is? I just have no idea! With our baby coming in August, I kind of figured he'd just be living in basic onsies. Do I need to stock up on newborn/0-3 month winter clothes? How will I be able to tell if my baby is cold? I assume if he's hot, it'll be more obvious. Newborns sweat, right? Or maybe they don't! LOL, I am so clueless!

2. How do I know if I have inverted nipples?

3. The practice I see has you rotate physicians so you know the doctor who delivers your baby. I have a very barebones birth plan (epidural, episiotomy only if it seems necessary, delayed cord clamping for 5 min). Since I don't know who will be delivering the baby, who do I communicate this to and when? I haven't actually been seen by any of the Drs in the practice because I just moved.

benmel31 · June 2015

Clothing: you may want some footsie pjs and hats, but I am in PA and expect to keep this little guy in rompers and onesies most of the time. I will use lightweight Aden and Anais blankets when we got out.

Honestly, I have no experience with inverted nipples, can't help you there.

As for your birth plan, it should be turned in to your OB. It will go into your file that way all the docs have access to it.

Miz_Liz · June 2015

As for dressing the baby, you always dress a newborn one layer warmer than you would wear. So if you are wearing a tee shirt, you can put a light long sleeve on them or you can put a light blanket over them, but I don't think you need winter clothes in FL

. As for the nipples, inverted nipples don't "pop" out like regular ones do. They can be mildly inverted though, not something to stress about, if there are any issues the LC at the hospital will help you through it and provide you with domes/nipple shields if necessary. You can give your birth plan to the L&D nurses when you go into labor.

Perfect Sonnet · June 2015

1) I had my first in May. It was very hot and I definitely did not bundle her up like that. I would usually put her in a onesie and socks. I always had a blanket handy to cover her up if it got too cold where were going (like a store or restaurant). I will be doing the same thing with this one. I wouldn't buy Winter clothes until Winter time.

2) Eeek. I have no idea.

3) I have Kaiser, so it is similar...I had no idea who would actually be delivering my baby. While in the hospital laboring, I actually had different sets of nurses and doctors checking in on me before it was time to go. The first nurse attending to me asked me if I had any requests or special instructions and had a white board in the hospital room to write it on. I didn't have many special requests, but everything was communicated to the next shift through the process. Hopefully it is the same with you!

chavemann10 · June 2015

1. I live in South Texas, so I know the heat and humidity! All 3 of my last ones lived the first few month in onesies. Only my September born baby was bundled up before 3mos of age. I do always carry a pair of pants and a blanket and socks in the diaper bag incase it's needed in a store or something. Also, I carry (wrap) my babies so they also get my body heat as well. For home since we set our AC on 72, I put them in footed pj's at night and a light blanket to wrap them in, or a onesie and heavy blanket. Depends on the baby.

2. I have no idea, sorry!

3. With our doctors office, they ask for it to go in your file, but also for you to give it to the nurse at L&D and to keep a copy with you while you are there. That way, if you can't go to bat for yourself for whatever reason, your SO can with your birth plan.

raelynch87 · June 2015

I'm also a FTM and I had the same questions about dressing a newborn. Right now in Portland we're having 90 degree days which is unusual for this time of year so everyone is thinking we're going to have a blazing hot summer. I've read newborns have trouble regulating their body temp so I wasn't sure what to bring my baby girl home in or how to dress her. I purchased a cute a dress with matching diaper cover and blanket... Is that okay for home coming?

hclzmm14 · June 2015

https://www.breastfeedingbasics.com/articles/flat-or-inverted-nipples

Perfect Sonnet · June 2015

raelynch87 said:

I'm also a FTM and I had the same questions about dressing a newborn. Right now in Portland we're having 90 degree days which is unusual for this time of year so everyone is thinking we're going to have a blazing hot summer. I've read newborns have trouble regulating their body temp so I wasn't sure what to bring my baby girl home in or how to dress her. I purchased a cute a dress with matching diaper cover and blanket... Is that okay for home coming?

I think that onesies and socks are the perfect newborn outfit for hot weather. If the AC is cranking and you think she will be cold, use a blanket. I like to keep things minimal in the warm weather. Plus, the less they're wearing, the less you have to change when they have a diaper blow out or throw up on themselves.

I think that outfit sounds fine for bringing your baby home.

cosplaymom · June 2015

This is my second summer baby. I love Carters layettes, a short-sleeved onesie and pants are great; light cotton long-sleeved footie pjs at night plus an Aden & Anais swaddling blanket. Sleeveless dresses were fine inside during a hot day while she was being held or passed around.

cosplaymom · June 2015

Your OB should ask for a copy of your birth plan before your due date; make sure to bring another copy (or two) in your hospital bag to give to the L&D nurses.

emmacake08 · June 2015

If you are concerned about your birth wishes being communicated you can hire a doula. They are there for labor support and to advocate for you during labor when things become too difficult to communicate. You would also have the peace of mind of knowing who you're getting and are trained to help you communicate with all the staff. I've known of doulas who see episiotomies about to happen voice out loud "would you be okay with an episiotomy? Do you understand the reasons the Dr has given you?" Your partner could do this too but in my relationship, I don't think my DH would notice certain procedures and ask me clear questions about it.

jlsweets · June 2015

I have read many times, best way to check the baby's temp is to feel the back of their neck. If their neck is normal (room temp) they are perfect. If cold, they are cold and clammy, too warm

My son was born in May and it was hot from the time he was born on, I basically just kept him in light sleepers or onesies around the house- no need for winter clothes

puccagirl77 · June 2015

We will probably be spending the majority of our time in the AC, so I plan to dress baby in lightweight, LS sleeper-type things. If we will be out in the heat for extended times, then I might just do a onesie.

Miz_Liz · June 2015

Here is a link regarding dressing a newborn: https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/baby/diapers-clothing/Pages/Dressing-Your-Newborn.aspx

lvrunningirlie · June 2015

1. I usually bring layers. Since theses are end of summer babies, I'll have mostly light weight clothes and some lighter blankets to put around her if we go inside and it's really cold. You can tell if a baby is cold by touchin their skin (just like us). If they're hot they will sweat and will probably be cranky on top of it. I usually always keep socks on though (old wives stuff that I've always followed lol)

2. No idea! Sorry

3. I would say just have something simple written to give to the nurses/doctor who shows up that way you don't have to rely on someone else to deliver the message. My doctors is the same way where we have a possible 5 different doctors that could be on delivery that day, no idea who I might get. But I also don't have a birth plan other than have the baby (didn't have one for the last time either).

jenandbrett · June 2015

Yes, you can dress baby in one thin layer more than you are comfortable in. That's it. Keep a blanket handy if you end up somewhere frigid. Don't judge their comfort based on hands or feet regardless of what every older lady in the checkout line will exclaim. Feel their stomach. If it's cold or hot, adjust. Hands and feet are too fickle. My feet are always cold!!

AshleyR84 · June 2015

In my breast feeding class, the instructor told us to stand in front of the open freezer with nothing on from the waist up. It will be apparent pretty quickly if you have inverted or flat nipples

CanDGrrl · June 2015

These are great questions to run by your OB! I used to keep a notepad by my bed and I'd write down all the questions as they arose. Every time I had an appointment, I went in with my list of questions. I hope that helps you.

You're being a mom, trying to prepare for all that will come along. As someone who likes to be prepared, I'll let you know that there's no way to be prepared for everything a baby will bring into your life! That's probably not very comforting.

Enjoy every second of it and ask all your questions!

~Candie~ with an -IE

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