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Missed my chance

ashleytiffashleytiff member
in July 2015 Moms
FTM not attending any birthing classes.

My husbands schedule isn't very easy to work around and he wanted to go with me so we finally called yesterday to see if anything was available but they're all booked.

Women have given birth long before any classes so it'll happen either way ahaha

But any suggestions on websites/books I should read?
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  • SucitUpSucitUp member
    On my 3rd also and never attended any classes either. I've heard from people who took the classes and when it came down to d-day they skipped everything they learned because they stayed in "the moment".
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  • ashleytiffashleytiff member
    @NYMominCA @gotdiesel2007
    My husband is a little more concerned about it than I am so I'm trying to humor him. It's more like he wants to know what I should be doing so he can be helpful.

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  • KAR8706KAR8706 member
    I'm am a FTM and haven't done any classes as well. My Dr. recommended looking on youtube, or anywhere online for info but isnt worried about me not attending any. 
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  • gotdiesel2007gotdiesel2007 member
    My suggestion is he does as you wish. You want a back rub he better give one. There is no right way and everyone will want different things from their spouses. For me DH knows that he needs to keep my water bottle full of cold water and that's about it. I don't want to be touched and I'm very vocal about my wants needs and the fact I hate being in the hospital. I am not a nice person in labor lol
    DS #1 Born 01/23/09
    Married 03/18/10
    DS #2 Born 05/19/11
    DS #3 Due 07/26/15


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  • NYMominCANYMominCA member
    ashleytiff said:
    @NYMominCA @gotdiesel2007 My husband is a little more concerned about it than I am so I'm trying to humor him. It's more like he wants to know what I should be doing so he can be helpful.
    Awww that's sweet of him! Like I said, we're on baby #3 and I think DH is still a bit clueless. LOL (The other day I ordered our crib mattress and told him it would be here in 7-10 days and he was like, "Well, we won't have a baby before then." You know, because he can predict when this baby is coming...) He really doesn't get any of the signs or anything of labor, and honestly most people would interpret him as second-guessing me but I just attribute it to his cluelessness and absolute hatred of hospitals. ;)

    But if there's a book you think he'd look at with you, try this one:
    https://www.amazon.com/The-Birth-Book-Everything-Satisfying/dp/0316779075

    Even if their birthing philosophy isn't what you have in mind, it is a good book that walks you through the birth process.


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    J -- 9/04
    L -- 11/10
    E -- 7/15


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  • NYMominCANYMominCA member
    And I agree with @gotdiesel2007, just stress that his job is to do whatever you request of him until that baby is out!
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    J -- 9/04
    L -- 11/10
    E -- 7/15


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  • confuegosuzyconfuegosuzy member
    Birth will never go as planned, so classes aren't the end of the world. I didn't take any (or really read books) with my first and it was fine.
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  • Miz_LizMiz_Liz member
    JennyJensing said:
    See if you can at least schedule a tour of the hospital if you're unfamiliar with it. That was my main takeaway from our parenting/birthing classes. While there, make sure to ask what is provided and what you should bring. You will be just fine!

    This exactly. Other than seeing where the delivery rooms are, where to park, what to pack, etc., the class wasn't too useful. Not sure if your hospital sends you a welcome packet, but most of this info was in my packet as well. Don't worry about not taking a class.
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  • BerlyTownBerlyTown member
    I had signed up for a 6 week birthing class, a breastfeeding class and another class that goes over what to expect when you bring the baby home and had to cancel all of them when I was put on bedrest. I figure people go into labor all the time who haven't taken the class and an putting my trust in the nurses and doctors to walk me through everything. I've already been admitted to labor and delivery twice so at least I know where to go!
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  • Bugs1718Bugs1718 member
    edited June 2015
    We did take a class with our DD and my 2 takeaways were 1. take a tour of the hospital (this was more for my DH than me as he was the one running the errands) and 2. I'm getting an epidural. :) In my class, they showed several natural births and the women just looked miserable. I then talked to a few friends that had done epidurals and made the decision it was right for me. Glad I did it too, had a great birthing experience.

    Other than that, you can pick up any book on Lamaze if that's what you're interested in. I found the "what to expect" book relatively helpful but as everyone's experience is so different, it's hard to know.
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  • theletlerstheletlers member
    At our class they gave us a booklet put out by a company called InJoy. It's a good reference site with some videos and such that might be helpful. I haven't been on the site myself yet but the booklet seemed helpful!
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  • leelee1112leelee1112 member
    I went to a newborn basics & safety class last night. Kind of a waste of time. I figured most of the info will be given to me at discharge. The only useful piece I learned was cpr & choking (all of 10 min).
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  • ashleytiffashleytiff member
    @Bugs1718 my husband actually delivers medical gasses to the hospital we'll be at so he has gotten familiar with the hospital already and has made friends with a few of the staff there.

    I planned on an epidural long before I heard any stories.
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  • ashleytiffashleytiff member
    @Miz_Liz they do give me a packet, I'm about to go through it again and see if they have a list of what they provide...otherwise I'll ask at my next appointment.
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  • mharold921mharold921 member
    Google free online birthing class through babycenter. There is a free video course that teaches you a ton of stuff.
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  • mers90mers90 member
    Is it too late to get a Doula?
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