Officially a stay at home Mom

lizzierider · June 2015

I'm officially done work at 29w4d. As a toddler teacher it was getting too much with the rib & back pain. I was hoping to work up to delivery but my body has defeated me. Anyone else feel like a let down not making it all the way?

emmacake08 · June 2015

Don't feel bad! I admire the heck out of the ladies that work up until delivery but if you are able to get off work sooner and you are getting too uncomfortable, there's no reason to feel bad. Enjoy your nesting time and being able to take it easy for a while

kedbach · June 2015

Don't feel bad!! I've been working from home the entire pregnancy and I don't see how any of you ladies work the whole time!! Being high risk means I have more appointments, but even just in general, you ladies are amazing!!

lilhoek · June 2015

I have been working from home for 16 weeks and am running out of steam for even that! I worked until my dd with my other babies, but i work at a desk- not chasing little ones!

jadetree1080 · June 2015

I was really hoping I could be done with work. My office was offering a layoff to one person in my department. Of you get laid off you get a severance package, unemployment and you can keep your health benefits for e months. Unfortunetly someone else got it. So now I have to work up to delivery or I loose my medical insurance. Can't deliver a baby in the good old USA without medical. So if you can swing it I say more power to you.

LilLee11 · June 2015

Don't feel bad! I say enjoy the extra time off, nest, make freezer meals, and relax!

bpwife&mama · June 2015

I'm jealous! I have a 3 year old and work 40 hours a week. I have to work up until delivery too

DaddyMx · June 2015

I have lived in 5 countries + in my previous position I was the head of Hr for 20 countries. It ALWAYS shocks me to see the small amount of maternity leave you have in the US; especially the previous one before the baby is born. Its your right and sorry to put it like that but is inhuman to make a woman work until her due date or days before. So dont feel bad is just the system who wants you to feel like that.

cosplaymom · June 2015

I wish FMLA was a year. Who cares if the maternity leave is mostly unpaid; being able to take the time to nurture a baby and come back to have your job again would make life a lot better for Americans. I would have loved that, we could easily have managed on one income for a year.

As it is I became a SAHM by choice and don't regret it. I went back to my job after being on maternity leave for about 20 weeks. I thought it was just too soon, even with grandmas taking care of her, not daycare. I needed to nurse her and instead I was only seeing her for a couple of hours at night. So I quit after a couple of months of that. Thank goodness my husband has a great job. Money is tighter but we are still pretty comfortable. I may go back to working after both kids are in school, so that we can afford better education for them. But for now I am happy being a SAHM!

BrandiAmabisca · June 2015

Because of severe hyperemesis, I had to leave work around 10 weeks. I was devastated, and I hated not being able to contribute financially or at all, since I was sick ALL the time.

Don't beat yourself up. You are doing what's best!

lizzierider · June 2015

My Husband is Military and will be deploying for 10 months just a few days after our baby girl is born so we are taking this time before to get as much time together as possible also so if that means having to scarifice things to save money so be it.

Starynightsky24 · June 2015

I'm a teacher. Last day of school was 3 weeks ago. I'm SO EXCITED to be taking at least two years off. I love teaching, but I'm not looking back.

CaliforniaDream87 · June 2015

DaddyMx said:
. Its your right and sorry to put it like that but is inhuman to make a woman work until her due date or days before. .

While I agree that the maternity policy in the U.S. Isn't great I think it's a bit dramatic to say "in humane" for a woman to work up to her EDD. Some women dont have as many complications. I worked up to my EDD with DS and I plan to do the same with this one.

OP, enjoy your time off

puccagirl77 · June 2015

I would stop working now if I could. I am feeling so miserable.

HarleenQuinz86 · June 2015

I wish I could be a SAHM again but financially it's best for me to work as long as I can while pregnant take my 12 weeks fmla and then go back to work. I'm sort of hoping my boyfriend will go back to work for the county or somewhere that pays well and I can at least move down to part time. It's hard enough finding sitters for the two kids we have already when we both have to work I'm not looking forward to finding one for all three.

gulimz · June 2015

I've been on workman's comp since 4/18 due to a injury at work. I'm a nurse and have a great paying job, but honestly, I have no intentions of going back. Hubby owns his own business and does pretty well, so I was basically working for health insurance. Our budget is going to be tight with me not working and paying out of pocket for insurance, but it's my first child and I want to spend as much time with her as possible. I'll eventually go back to work -when she goes to school- but I can't imagine going back 6 weeks after birth even if my mom and my MIL would be the ones watching her .
I don't feel bad that I didnt make it thru the end, I honestly had no intentions too. Even at 20 weeks I was constantly sick and swollen and hurting and dehydrated.

GirlOnTheBeach · June 2015

I work part time during the school year but full time during summer. So starting last Friday, I went from working 20 hours per week to 50 hours per week until I deliver. I'm high risk and have been miserable both days now. I don't know how I'm going to manage :-( I could hardly walk today after work.

daniellepanda · June 2015

I'm pretty jealous! I have to work full time up until 3 weeks before I'm due, and my 4 year old will be out of school at that point until September so not much of a break at all o_O

kettlekitten · June 2015

I agree with @DaddyMx. The article linked below is worth a look, it makes me angry and I don't even live in the USA! U.S. policy doesn't seem to really encourage women to return to the workplace OR to care for their children. I could never have returned to work full time after only 12 weeks - I was a wreck for the better part of a year with a non-sleeping child.

So OP, don't feel bad! There was nothing you could have done. You American mamas have it tougher than the rest of the developed world!

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2014/dec/03/-sp-america-only-developed-country-paid-maternity-leave

bran4799 · June 2015

I work a full 40 hour week and am at 29wk2days. Will most likely work up until delivery, take 6 weeks off, then back to it.

Perfect Sonnet · June 2015

CaliforniaDream87 said:

. Its your right and sorry to put it like that but is inhuman to make a woman work until her due date or days before. .
While I agree that the maternity policy in the U.S. Isn't great I think it's a bit dramatic to say "in humane" for a woman to work up to her EDD. Some women dont have as many complications. I worked up to my EDD with DS and I plan to do the same with this one. OP, enjoy your time off

Agreed. I worked two days past my due date with number one and it really wasn't a big deal. However, I can see how that wouldn't be the same for someone on their feet all day though. I just lounged in my chair and typed on my computer. While I will be doing so from home with this one, I will still be working up until I have the baby...and probably doing a lot of work while I am on "leave". Honestly, I wouldn't have it any other way.

OP, I am glad you had the opportunity to make the decision that works for you and your family.

neludelu · June 2015

CaliforniaDream87 said:

DaddyMx said:
. Its your right and sorry to put it like that but is inhuman to make a woman work until her due date or days before. .
While I agree that the maternity policy in the U.S. Isn't great I think it's a bit dramatic to say "in humane" for a woman to work up to her EDD. Some women dont have as many complications. I worked up to my EDD with DS and I plan to do the same with this one.

OP, enjoy your time off

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^^this^^ and why should people who don't have kids pay for those who do? Companies need to profit and continue to run. While the situation with maternity leave is less than ideal, it is your responsibility to figure out how to take care of your child, not the rest of the country.

kettlekitten · June 2015

neludelu said:

CaliforniaDream87 said:

DaddyMx said:
. Its your right and sorry to put it like that but is inhuman to make a woman work until her due date or days before. .
While I agree that the maternity policy in the U.S. Isn't great I think it's a bit dramatic to say "in humane" for a woman to work up to her EDD. Some women dont have as many complications. I worked up to my EDD with DS and I plan to do the same with this one.

OP, enjoy your time off
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^^this^^ and why should people who don't have kids pay for those who do? Companies need to profit and continue to run. While the situation with maternity leave is less than ideal, it is your responsibility to figure out how to take care of your child, not the rest of the country.

Why? Because you're helping to raise the next generation. Sure it's your responsibility to raise your own child, but if society helps you to raise your child, society benefits from your child. People who choose not to have kids are still going to benefit from your kids... After all who is going to be the next generation of doctors, carers, social workers.... Etc etc.

neludelu · June 2015

kettlekitten said:

neludelu said:

CaliforniaDream87 said:

DaddyMx said:
. Its your right and sorry to put it like that but is inhuman to make a woman work until her due date or days before. .
While I agree that the maternity policy in the U.S. Isn't great I think it's a bit dramatic to say "in humane" for a woman to work up to her EDD. Some women dont have as many complications. I worked up to my EDD with DS and I plan to do the same with this one.

OP, enjoy your time off
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^^this^^ and why should people who don't have kids pay for those who do? Companies need to profit and continue to run. While the situation with maternity leave is less than ideal, it is your responsibility to figure out how to take care of your child, not the rest of the country.
Why? Because you're helping to raise the next generation. Sure it's your responsibility to raise your own child, but if society helps you to raise your child, society benefits from your child. People who choose not to have kids are still going to benefit from your kids... After all who is going to be the next generation of doctors, carers, social workers.... Etc etc.

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While I can see and appreciate your point, I still have to disagree. Society pays for education. I just feel that it isn't fair to expect the government and those who can't or won't have kids to pay for our time off because we want kids. I do feel that childcare is out of control and if we had a more reliable, affordable and accountable system maybe our thoughts about maternity leave would be different.

LSquared3960 · June 2015

I thought this segment on Last Week Tonight was spot on regarding paid family leave.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zIhKAQX5izw

sjra1028 · June 2015

I wish I could work up until my due date!!!! I'll officially be on leave when I'm 33 weeks and my c-section is scheduled 4 weeks later! My OB wants me to relax and take it easy the last month bc of my pre-eclampsia.
Future finances have given me almost a nightly panic attack. I won't be going back to work at the same company though bc they've treated me terribly during my pregnancy.

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WSatisfiedP · June 2015

I'm done in two weeks, at the very least going to part time.

fionalouise007 · June 2015

I have two more weeks on my own and then a week training my replacement.. I am counting down the days! Enjoy the time off to nest, prepare, be excited and RELAX.. We won't have much of an opportunity to do that when our babies get here. Sleep in as often as you can! That's my plan.

ashleyo1992 · June 2015

32 weeks today and I finally got to stop yesterday. It feels wonderful and scary at the same time. My dh likes to make jokes and little comments and I know he's gonna make one to many and cause a fight. But I was waitressing 6 days a week for majority of this pregnancy then went down to 4 days. I just really couldn't handle it anymore. Plus it's so hot I felt like I was suffocating. So glad to not have to stress about it anymore and I'll get to hang out with my kiddos all day and get some quality time before this little one comes.

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