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Any other FTM also step moms?

kaylacrainkaylacrain member
in July 2015 Moms
Hey just wondering how many other first time mommas also have step kids out there? I have a 6 year old step son and he is super excited for a baby brother or sister!
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Re: Any other FTM also step moms?

  • shaley29shaley29 member
    I have a 7 year old step daughter, although I just call her my daughter. She is super excited to have a babu sister! She has an older brother on her mom's side but he is A LOT older.
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  • MjstineMjstine member
    I have an 11 year old step daughter. Our relationship has been challenging. She and her dad lived just the 2 of them for years before I came along, so I was seen as a threat. We have worked through so much, and are doing pretty well now. Unfortunately her mother is crazy and manipulates her and tells her to treat me badly. She only sees her mother 4 days out of a month. But those 4 days are usually pretty damaging.

    She seems to be very exited about her brother coming soon. But we are having a hard time getting her to understand her role in the family is to be the best big sister, not a third parent. All of the things we got at the baby shower she refers to as hers or as though they belong to the whole family, rather than our soon to be son.

    I think she will be very helpful, and really happy to be so. But we know we will have some trouble with the adjustment in attention she will be getting. We have conversations with her frequently about it. She seems to understand but we worry once our baby is here she will forget it all. She is very emotional and often let's her anger get the best of her, especially when she doesn't get her way.

    She has made great improvements over the years, but we know we also have great challenges in our future.
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  • SnarkasaurusRexSnarkasaurusRex member
    No personal advice to share here, but I do know that there's a 'Blended Families' board on TB where you might be able to find more ladies in a similar situation to you! https://forums.thebump.com/categories/blended-families
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  • LibbyC730LibbyC730 member
    I have an 11 year old daughter and 15 year old son from DH's previous marriage. 15 yo doesn't seem super interested, but I think that's to be expected of any 15 yo! My 11 yo is pretty excited, especially since baby is due when she isn't in school! Their mom has a new 18 month old little boy, so the kids have already experienced being older big siblings and they do great with him! It's always fun to watch them play with him. Their mom has given us a ton of hand me downs, too, so that's a plus!
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  • rw3190rw3190 member

    I have a three year old step daughter

    Just turned 3 in march

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  • confuegosuzyconfuegosuzy member
    I'm a STM with step kids. My stepdaughter is 13 and my stepson will be 10 a week before my c section. Their dad and I also have a 4 year old son together. The kids are excited, but their mom is stupid with jealousy and manipulates them. It's very frustrating.
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  • shaley29shaley29 member
    Yuck to cappy biological moms. It's so hard to be diplomatic with my daughter about her mom. Especially when she tells me her mom doesn't like me but she (my daughter) doesn't understand why because she loves me. Her mom is quite crazy and doesn't always have her kids best interests in mind. She rather buy a new tattoo than get her kid a pair of sneakers that fit. We just try to provide her with the best we can and set a good example. Thankfully we have her 50% of the time.
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  • Knottie99627423Knottie99627423 member
    I have a 12.5 year old stepson. He's pretty excited about the baby. We like to tease him and tell him he's going to have to get up in the night and change diapers. Lol. I'm really thankful this is all happening during summer vacation. I think it will help everyone adjust easier.

    I have a caaaarrazy bio mom too! We do week on/week off. I will say, the crazy has definitely calmed down over the last year. I think the fact that we don't engage with her helps a ton!
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  • kaylacrainkaylacrain member
    My (step) son was not excited about diapers lol he has an almost 2 year old sister at his mom's house but other than that he is excited!
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  • abrinleyabrinley member
    I have a 3 year old and a 5 year old. Both girls. Not technically step daughters since me and the fiancée arnt married yet but I love those girls. The mom and I are actually pretty close. It makes things easier. But they have a little sister from their mom and step dad. And their step dad has 3 kids of his own! So there's no shortage of siblings with these girls. Lol. They are very excited about a little brother though and they talk to him and rub my belly. Its adorable.
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