Not-so-understanding boss....small rant, sorry.

wallserve · June 2015

*Sigh* So my principal asked me when my due date was. I told him mid-November; however, due to my health issues I would be induced around 37-39 weeks IF I have a near perfect pregnancy - therefore, I could go as early as the end of October, but more likely the first week or so in November. I know it was a lot of information - but he did ask and I felt I should be honest with him. (Now I understand as an administrator you have to worry about long term subs and such, but I had already contacted my board of ed and discussed this with them and they told me I didn't even need to fill out my paperwork until we returned in late-August to September.) He, my principal, looked at me with all sincerity in his eyes and said, "Well, we need to narrow down that date."

Really sir? You know when sometimes people say things then they are like oh wait, that was crazy, never mind....yeah, it wasn't like that. He was like, "We need to narrow down that date soon..." Basically because (my assistant principal - not even him) can line up my long-term sub. The kicker is, another teacher is not coming back from her maternity leave until around November 16...they want me to "wait" until she comes back, so they can use the same sub....I kid you not...this is the conversation I just had with them. WOW!!!

VexyMommy · June 2015

I really, really worry for the children at your school since it sounds like your principal paid someone to take all of his biology classes for him.

mmk29 · June 2015

Leave it to a man to not understand child birth. What?? You mean you can't just keep the baby up there and deliver when ready??? I'm sorry you're going through this, try not to worry about it right now. If he brings it up again just say your doctor refuses to talk birthing arrangements until after 30 weeks.

dogsombrero · June 2015

wallserve said:

*Sigh* So my principal asked me when my due date was. I told him mid-November; however, due to my health issues I would be induced around 37-39 weeks IF I have a near perfect pregnancy - therefore, I could go as early as the end of October, but more likely the first week or so in November. I know it was a lot of information - but he did ask and I felt I should be honest with him. (Now I understand as an administrator you have to worry about long term subs and such, but I had already contacted my board of ed and discussed this with them and they told me I didn't even need to fill out my paperwork until we returned in late-August to September.) He, my principal, looked at me with all sincerity in his eyes and said, "Well, we need to narrow down that date."
Really sir? You know when sometimes people say things then they are like oh wait, that was crazy, never mind....yeah, it wasn't like that. He was like, "We need to narrow down that date soon..." Basically because (my assistant principal - not even him) can line up my long-term sub. The kicker is, another teacher is not coming back from her maternity leave until around November 16...they want me to "wait" until she comes back, so they can use the same sub....I kid you not...this is the conversation I just had with them. WOW!!!

That's a head scratcher. I just can't even. I'm guessing there was no response from you because how can you respond to that!??!

shortiebs · June 2015

Tell him you will let your baby know he cant come until nov 16. Im sure the baby can deal with a few extra weeks in the womb while he finds a sub

ash413 · June 2015

Were you not aware you could schedule delivery around your work schedule

DrMommaDVM · June 2015

Tell him your due date. Period. He's not entitled to your detailed health information. It was nice of you to try to inform him, but since he's a dickhead just go ahead and 'narrow down that date' for him.
And when you go early, he will have to scramble to arrange things, which serves him right. Look up his salary online... I guarantee he's getting paid enough to deal with the minor inconvenience.

kmkrushi · June 2015

Just cross your legs! It's just like when you have to pee right? Does this man not have a wife or kids? Wait, nevermind, obviously not. Because who would marry such an ass.

geekgirl613 · June 2015

Wow. I don't even know how I would react to that, plus my hormones have me on a pretty tight temper leash. Because you know...you can just hold it. That is so crazy. I hope at least ranting a little has helped you calm down.

Ceb2015 · June 2015

Wow that's insane. I'm sorry you are in this situation. Not that it's any of his business, but if he keeps bugging you then maybe see what your medical provider says about the date?

thegingeravenger · June 2015

Dammit Vexy beat me to the biology teacher joke. Have another: actually ask him to talk to the biology teacher when he approaches you with this nonsense again! Narrow down your due date... HA. In all seriousness, have a note from your doctor ready to go explaining how babies work since he may actually give you some real trouble down the line.

CarrieOct15 · June 2015

Just further reminder that we live in a man's world. Smh.

Pontot31 · June 2015

Do you have an HR rep? I would talk to them.
Mine told me I don't even need to tell my boss I'm pregnant if I don't want to. I have. But she said to deal with her and I don't have to tell him anything. When I go into labor I can just call or email her. It's not your job to worry about your sub.

ash413 · June 2015

I agree with pp, tell him your DD and let him know baby will be here no later than that date.

LauraK33 · June 2015

Wow! People can be awful...I agree with the consensus...share your due date and let him figure out the rest.

Ceridwen77 · June 2015

Like @DrMommaDVM said, only offer up the necessary information. I know you were trying to be thorough, but this guy is dense. Just give him the basics from now on as it appears that's all he can comprehend.

wallserve · June 2015

Thanks ladies. Yes...I work with his decision making skills on a daily basis. He does have three grown children of his own...also believes female teachers should wear buns in their hair, 'stockings', heels and a dress daily as well.....

VexyMommy · June 2015

wallserve said:

Thanks ladies. Yes...I work with his decision making skills on a daily basis. He does have three grown children of his own...also believes female teachers should wear buns in their hair, 'stockings', heels and a dress daily as well.....

Oh geez. Hopefully he's very close to retirement age. Maybe put out golf, fishing, and travel magazines in his inbox every day to try to put the idea in his head.

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