NICU moms - going home without baby

Re: NICU moms - going home without baby

• gotdiesel2007 member

  June 2015

  #2 came home with us but the next day he was in a Nicu 2hrs away for a month. I honestly don't have any suggestions other than visit often and use this time to take care of yourself.
  
  Since my guy was two hours away I couldn't be there everyday so I spend my days doing anything I could find to keep myself busy.

  DS #1 Born 01/23/09
  Married 03/18/10
  DS #2 Born 05/19/11
  DS #3 Due 07/26/15
  
  
  
  

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• rainbowBOOM member

  June 2015

  I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Sending you strength and good thoughts during this tough time.

  

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• AziaNick member

  June 2015

  My brother and I were in the PICU and NICU, I was in there for about 2 1/2 months and my brother in there for almost 2 months. I spoke to my mom and dad on how they handled it because I was worried about our little one. My mom basically said that she spent a lot of time talking with us and reading to us she couldn't make it every day BUT whenever she went she always brought things from home to make us feel at home and also sang to us. She did have postpartum depression wifh both of us since she couldn't hold us right after and she also couldn't breast feed any of us. But she said that my dad was her greatest support system and they took it day by day. it's always hard when you can't bring your little one home with you and you have to leave especially when you just got him/her. But know that your baby is in good hands and you will see your baby soon

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• fullhouseofboys member

  June 2015

  My first was born at 29 weeks and spent 2.5 months in NICU. We lived only a 2 minute drive from the hospital and would visit most every day. I feel horrible for saying this but I didn't have a very strong connection to him.. I was so unprepared having him, didn't get to hold or breast feed him to bond. When you visit I suggest keeping a journal and write in it each day you're there with his progression, what you did while there, etc. We did it with our son and it's been nice to go back and read (I think he'll enjoy reading it too someday). Sing songs and just enjoy your time when you are there. Take pictures to post around your house if that helps. Good luck!!

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• xstacyannex member

  June 2015

  I'm currently in this situation as well, and this may sound crazy8-} but I haven't left him over night and I know that's not possible for eveyone. I would say every time you do go always ask to hold, your baby needs to be held once a day at least... I always participate in "cares" (taking temp, feedings, changing diaper) things like that, I always sing, read and talk to my son as well just tI let him know I'm there.

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