Sex during Pregnancy

Knottie08098442 · June 2015

I was wondering who all found sex during Pregnancy interesting? Cause im so opposite and my man thinks its him. What can i do?

ASalton1 · June 2015

I'm a FTM and sex for me was scary the first few times, I was so afraid that we would hit something in there and I would bleed/or miscarry. Thankfully first few times I asked my fiancé to be very gentle and easy and felt like I was able to relax without feeling at as if he was hurting the baby. I haven't bled at all through this pregnancy even though I've heard it is normal to spot a little after sex. The only other way sex has been interesting is because I feel awkward carrying so much extra weight around my middle, I'm off balance and a little clumsy.

shortiebs · June 2015

What exactly do you mean by "interesting"? Enjoyable? Weird?

blackcat3163 · June 2015

i really cant get into it

makeoutside7 · June 2015

We only did it once or twice during the first trimester. We stopped because I bled both times. So we just played it safe and also, I was never in the mood because I was constantly sick. I'm 18 weeks now and got my mojo back. I enjoy it again and want it all the time. I know it's hard to feel sexy sometimes with the weight gain, big bump, new mom boobs, and acne...my list can go on but I still got sexual needs! I say give it a few weeks and it will come back. Good luck!

jsawicki · June 2015

We did it maybe once a week during the first 3 months which was a pretty major decrease for us. I was nervous and he could tell so it wasn't as enjoyable. Plus I felt crappy and tired! Now we have picked up speed but just in the last few weeks and im not nervous. It is funny feeling clumsy with a belly but he thinks it's pretty sexy and I do kinda want to show off my larger breast! But he leaves it up to me every time, kinda waits for me to initiate.

Knottie08098442 · June 2015

Enjoyable is what i mean

cfletch88 · June 2015

Not really enjoyable for me. It's really awkward getting comfortable. My belly keeps getting in the way :-/

veckia · June 2015

It's super sensitive and kind of uncomfortable, but also way more orgasmic.

buckwheatpancakes · June 2015

During the first tri, it was so uncomfortable sometimes and I would get frustrated because I felt stuffed in every way possible. Then there were times when it felt awesome. Sex is so important for my partner and I, even if I'm not in the mood, I just try and relax, and ask for a little more foreplay before intercourse. We also have our small handful of comfortable go to positions, and have had to eliminate more of the crazy/intense/exploratory ones. I find it helps to put a pillow in between my knees if we do a sideways spoon position, and I also stuff some blanket under my belly for support. I find trying to keep the belly supported and stationary works for best comfort.

Just keep trying and you guys will find something that works! Most of my sex now is slow (find fast/hard thrusting to be uncomfortable) but it's a new discovery we're enjoying, and know that this is just a temporary adjustment

lots of cuddling, kissing, lube, and dressing sexy will help get you in the mood!

ElleMF728 · June 2015

My last pregnancy I had some spotting issues so we took it easy and only had sex 2 or 3 times during the 1st trimester. After that it was back to normal and still active several times a week up until the night before I gave birth.

This time no spotting so it hasn't slowed any. I've been much more sensitive since I gave birth to DS and sex (while always good) is even better now. Some positions are uncomfortable and occasionally there is laughter due to LO kicking at inopportune times, but nothing that would put either of us off. Plus, its so easy to get lost in being Mommy and Daddy to our 2 year old and life can be so stressful and busy, it really helps me and DH connect at the end of the day and be our old selves again.

T-Square is a great position for pregnancy!

amwright33 · June 2015

I'm still on pelvic rest so no sex for us. I want to so bad though. I'm taking notes for postions to try when we get the all clear. Great advice girls!

MiMary80 · June 2015

So I totally feel like I'm in the minority on this one. I couldn't wait for the 2nd trimester to start so our nights could get back to normal...yet I still feel a big fat zero in that department. I feel guilty and my husbands has not complained a bit, but I do miss it! I just have no desire whatsoever and can't wait to fall asleep. Super bummed how things have changed for me!

VexyMommy · June 2015

My sex drive has been pretty good throughout. Like a PP said, I sometimes need a lot more foreplay right now but I'm usually good to go once I get started.

kmkrushi · June 2015

MiMary80 said:
So I totally feel like I'm in the minority on this one. I couldn't wait for the 2nd trimester to start so our nights could get back to normal...yet I still feel a big fat zero in that department. I feel guilty and my husbands has not complained a bit, but I do miss it! I just have no desire whatsoever and can't wait to fall asleep. Super bummed how things have changed for me!

You're not alone. I have ZERO sex drive. Nothing... it's depressing because I'm mostly feeling better, but I just have no desire.

happymama25 · June 2015

I'm 16+2 and last night was the first time we had sex, where I was totally into it. I thought to myself oh sh!t is the second trimester as amazing as I've read?? Haha

AnnamariauDoris · June 2015

Had sex yesterday after almost 2 months...i feel pain even now...it's a burn like sensation. And the worst is that my favorite lube(which we bought in the uk and can't find here) expired this month and we saw after the act. That added even more to the burn...i don't see any sex in the near future to be honest....

BostonBaby1 · June 2015

Try grapeseed oil. I guess I'm like Nike and my slogan is just do it. Unless of course it makes you bleed and your doctor tells you not to.

oxley09 · June 2015

My sex drive has been off the charts high the entire pregnancy! We're that mushy, gross, handsy couple with too much tongue in public. :0 Some positions need adjustment with the belly, but where there is a will, there's a way!

The best advice I can give is to find a position that puts you the most at ease. Later in pregnancy, that usually means on my side spooning, standing and leaning over something, or on my back with my rear near the edge of the bed. Also, diet and hydration can really play a part in mood! And if you're just not feeling it, that's okay too. There are plenty of others ways to be physical or show affection.

Dayvia28 · July 2015

I want to have sex but he doesn't, not even other sexual things that don't involve penetration. Anyone else experiencing this? It's so frustrating.

mamax6 · July 2015

I'm 22 weeks now and I will say this past week was the first time I had desire to even try doing anything since getting pregnant. It's been great now that we can spend some time together to release some stress for him and desire. I know that come the last few months I will not be in the mood again or it will just plain be uncomfortable so I'm getting while the getting is good lol.

oliveoil95 · July 2015

I'm embarrassed to have someone see me naked.

I have like love handles sort of now. And I have this big stomach and my thighs seem thicker and my boobs are bigger and I just look gross now naked. My baby's dad and I aren't together but I tried having sex with him a couple days ago and it was a bad experience for me.

We've always been so attracted to each other. He was having a hard time staying hard and I honestly think it was my fault because of the way my body looks. He didn't even finish he just told me he did so we would stop. And I honestly just put my hair in my face so he wouldn't see that I was crying. I just felt my heartbreaking I'm feeling like he isnt attracted to me anymore.

BowWowBowie · July 2015

The first trimester I was so sick sex was off the table, now both of our drives are out of this world. (and so are the orgasms!)

lwentland · July 2015

Dayvia28 said:
I want to have sex but he doesn't, not even other sexual things that don't involve penetration. Anyone else experiencing this? It's so frustrating.

Same here but I don't even ask for it or talk about it. We didn't have sex the whole pregnancy with my first either. I was upset that time but now I just try to roll with it. Sad, I know.

lraubaugh · July 2015

I have no desire at all..... Luckily he hasn't complained and also it kinda freaks him out. Since we are having a girl he feels a little awkward about it

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