July 2015 Moms

Any teen moms? :)

Any teen moms on here? I'm 19 years old I'm just curious if there is , what's your life like now? I go to school still trying to get my high school diploma but only go 4 hours a day and my bf works full time I find mySelf really bored at home all day I wish I could work this last month :( or give birth soon! Lol

Re: Any teen moms? :)

  • 19 as well. I'm only working weekends though because my feet swell up like balloons if I work more than that. 36 weeks though so hopefully my little man will be here somewhat soon. Can't wait!
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  • Im 20 but i was 19 when i found out i was pregnant if that counts lol . Im done with high school but am going to hair school . Im going to take a year off though to stay home with the baby. I was going to work but my boyfriend works full time , and hes the one that told me he wants me to stay home . Im bored at home to while he works . I cant even keep my self busy setting up the baby's room or anything , because we're moving the end of july . So im just waiting patiently these next few weeks . 8->
  • I'm 20 years old now but when I got pregnant I was 19 ... I'm in college and work part time. 34 weeks pregnant now so I'm just "hanging in there" >:D<
  • zmombiezmombie member
    edited June 2015
    I had just turned 20 when I got pregnant with my oldest. So I wasn't a "teen mom" but very young. One thing I wished I did was get my GED. I dropped out at 17 and had finally decided to go to school. Was getting my GED, and going to go to school for hair and nails. I found out I was pregnant and I dropped everything... Best thing you can do for your child is be something more! Now I'm 27, having my 3rd child, all while trying to get my GED finally, so I can do this beauty thing! Lol it's bout time right?
  • @mers90 i love how you said that . I know im young ( 20 ) but i cant wait to be a mom . It wasnt "planned" but we also wernt not trying . We been together 6 years , on our own for two . Weve finished school , an i was working but i left a month before i found out i was pregnant. My boyfriend works full time , and we don't rely on anyone for help so noone had the right to not be supportive. The only reason we are not married is because i dont believe you have to rush and get married because your having a baby together. Also because i want a huge wedding that we have been planning since literally the 8th grade . Which means i have to save alot of money so we will probably be getting married when we're 25 lol . I just believe what you said it's all up to you an i know we will be awesome parents and couldn't be more excited.
  • parisviolaparisviola member
    edited June 2015
    I'm 19, Found out when I was 18. I've finished with school and college years ago because I live in the UK I worked full time 40hrs a week just up till yesterday I'm due in 7wks can't wait just want to meet his little face ha. Yes I can relate to the bored ness now being at home whilst my boyfriends out all day and everyone's at work i just go shopping or walk my dog or meet my mum for lunch on her lunch break just to get out the house . Well done for sticking with school I could only imagine how hard it must be , but all worth it in the end x
  • I am far from being a teen, and this is my first baby but I wanted to say that age doesn't matter as long as you are motivated. I graduated from college last month after 12 straight years of part time courses. It never occurred to me to quit, it just took me a long time. The last semester was tough being pregnant but I did it, and so can you! You can do whatever you want as long as you are determined!
  • I'm 19 but I'm in college :p I feel yeah with the being bored at home deal! I finished my semester a month ago and ever since I stay home unless I'm at a doctor appointment because my fiancé works full time. But our little bundle of joy will be here in 3 weeks so I'm excited
  • shelbyngideonshelbyngideon member
    edited June 2015
    I'm 19 too! I put school on hold for now but plan to start back up again with online classes next fall. I graduated high school last June and have only taken a couple college courses. I work two jobs for a total of 52 hours a week and am soooo ready for some time off. My fiancée plays football for his college, goes to school full time, and works part time so we are a busy little couple. It'll be interesting to see how things slow down when our baby girl gets here. I'm not used to having "down" time. Only 6 weeks to go!
  • I'm 17, 36 weeks today(: , graduate in 2 weeks, have baby in 4 or sooner, maybe later lol. Pregnancy was not planned , but I would not regret the decision of keeping this baby. It's helped me push through this last year of high school ! Hope all you other moms are doing good
  • I am 26 but my question is about my cousin. She is pregnant and just turned 16, she will have my nana and her mom helping her but just wanted to know if there's any advice I can pass along to her or even for the family? All of you ladies should be proud of yourselves for your accomplishments and love of your children. :-)
  • oh and because I obviously can't read, what's your life like now?

    This may get long winded and I apologize.

    When I got pregnant it was planned. Yes, I was silly at 19 and thought that was what I wanted. It has taken a long time (and some therapy) for me to be ok with my life. I love my kids and my husband but certainly not the easiest life and not the one I would have picked if I had a crystal ball and could see into the future. I was in college when I got pregnant and had to drop out because of cost. My BF (now husband) also had to drop out of school because we couldn't afford life. I was around four months, had no health issuance and hadn't seen a DR so finally sucked it up and went on medicaid. Had the baby spent the next two years barely being able to pay rent, feed ourselves etc because we didn't qualify for food stamps and we both worked min wage jobs.

    Fast forward DH joined the military which was our saving grace. We both are 25, we have two boys who are 6 and 4. We both currently have AA degrees and are working on going further but military has other plans like sending is to South Korea right now lol. We have two cars, we don't own but we rent a really nice house, we can afford to take our kids to do things, fly friends and family to see us etc. However, without the military this would all be a dream.

    I may seem like a debbie downer but it was not an easy ride and I didn't even have it that bad. I'm married to the man I fell in love with in high school and we have been married for 5 years now. We have two soon to be three great boys but, I was very naive and thought it would be a walk in the park and its not especially if you don't have family to lean on.  For me it was and sometimes still is an uphill battle. We are still paying for mistakes we made then such as credit card debt.


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    Married 03/18/10
    DS #2 Born 05/19/11
    DS #3 Due 07/26/15


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  • I got married at 18, had my first little girl at 19 (she was planned), now I'm 22 and I'm 36 weeks with my second girl! I've been a stay at home mom since my first was born and I absolutely love my life!
  • asun123asun123 member
    edited June 2015
    I'm 20. Had my first son at 17. Now having my second son. I'm so glad I'm having my kids early so I will have so much time to spend with them!
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  • mers90mers90 member
    mirrenrue said:

    I am 26 but my question is about my cousin. She is pregnant and just turned 16, she will have my nana and her mom helping her but just wanted to know if there's any advice I can pass along to her or even for the family? All of you ladies should be proud of yourselves for your accomplishments and love of your children. :-)

    I would just remind everyone involved that the child is her child, she's the mom, and both decisions and responsibilities fall on her side. I'm telling you this because I've seen a lot of teen moms around me who still live with their parents that keep partying and they leave the kid to be the parents responsibility, and parents don't let them make any big decisions! Is like they're the sisters or something and I think that's messed up. The mother has to act like the mother, quit partying (for now), quit dating (for now) and focus on her career and child. The grandmother has to understand that she's just the grandmother. I have a couple of friends like this are the children are really affected by it.
  • 18 was 17 when I found out but graduated high school in February an enrolled in college now. I really don't hang with many people I can't do a lot the kids my age do. An a lot of them aren't mature to understand I had to grow up. So I spend a lot of time with family. Wasn't planned an am single but still happy for my baby !
  • I am also 19. I work Monday-Friday but being that I'm 36 weeks its such a pain to get out of bed. My feet are beginning to swell which makes it almost impossible to get things done on the weekends. Maternity leave is definitely in the works within these upcoming weeks.
  • Thank you @mers90 !! My nana is welcoming any advice poor thing. I will definitely pass this on.
  • I'm 18 but in the UK so finished school already and in my second year of college (we finish at 16) so for me it's quite good, I finished my course early too just incase baby came early!my tutor was really understanding and putting in the long days and hours earlier on have certainly paid off, im 36+5 weeks and just waiting for labour pretty much now, bored of being pregnant especially now i have done all my college work!i go in still just for the company and something to do lol! Split up from my baby's daddy when I was 10 weeks and not sure how things will be between us when she's born, as havnt spoken for months.. But will soon see I suppose :)
  • Ooh so many 19 year olds haha, just to add to the bunch I'm 19 too, 35+2 today. I'm im Australia so we graduate at 17, my fiancé and I started trying for a baby in early 2014 when I was 18 because we were both financially stable working full time jobs, took us 6 months to fall pregnant. I've always wanted to be a mum, he is a little older and wouldn't have been ready to have kids when he was 19 so we met at the right times in our lives. Soul mates right :P I'm looking forward to being able to keep up with her a lot more than if I was older
  • I am 23 found out when I was 22. I was married at 19 my husband was 22. We never prevented a baby. It wasn't in the cards it seemed like. We went to a fertility doctor when I was 21 to see what was wrong with one of us. And we found out we were fine but had a 2% chance of getting pregnant on our own. And IVF in San Diego was 26,000 dollars. So I was giving up going through some slight depression and I finally was coming to terms with it August around our 3 year anniversary and 3 months later found out we were pregnant. So I have been planning to have a baby since I was a teenager.
  • I am 23 found out when I was 22. I was married at 19 my husband was 22. We never prevented a baby. It wasn't in the cards it seemed like. We went to a fertility doctor when I was 21 to see what was wrong with one of us. And we found out we were fine but had a 2% chance of getting pregnant on our own. And IVF in San Diego was 26,000 dollars. So I was giving up going through some slight depression and I finally was coming to terms with it August around our 3 year anniversary and 3 months later found out we were pregnant. So I have been planning to have a baby since I was a teenager.

    Very Similar to our situation. I am 24 and my husband is 30, we found out 1% chance of conceiving and we tried for 4 years, so when I was 20 and finally we are pregnant :) fertility specialist was really surprised and so were we haha age is not a big deal, it is more about the mentality of the person and couple and what stage they are at in there lives :)
  • I found out I was pregnant at 20, I'm now 21. I'm a full time college student and getting ready to transfer to a University in a year. I also work part-time, I'm a single mom but the dad helps a lot cause he works full time and loves the baby already. Not planned at all, we've been best friends since 17. Things could be a lot worse, I don't find myself very bored cause I'm either grocery shopping, cleaning, or organizing for the baby, and looking for housing. I've got the momma mindset on and I'm ready to be a mommy. I'm just scared, super scared, for labor and taking care of her. But I'm sure that is a very common feeling.
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  • Well I am 20 now and pregnant with my second, I had my first a month before I turned 19. I was going to school full time with my first and only worked the first three months due to my school schedule. This time around I am still going to school full time but this last week was my last week at work. I have a very supportive husband who has helped me a lot. So all I can say is good luck to everyone and trust me, you will not go stir crazy when the baby gets here. He or she will keep you on your toes! Lol
  • I'm a teen Mummy in the UK! Fell pregnant with my first At 17 and turned 18, 3 months after he was born. I am now 19 and due to have my second baby boy in 4 weeks! People say I'm crazy which yes I am but I love my boys to pieces and I wouldn't have my life any other way! I also have the most amazing family supporting me as well which I don't know what I would ever do without them! Just always remember anything is possible and never think you can't fulfil your dreams because your a young mum!!xxxx
  • I'm 19, almost 20, and I go to college full time and I am graduating in December. It's been pretty tough. I was forced to give up a lot and I've had to grow up faster than I wanted to, but I couldn't be happier. I married my bf when I found out. I knew I was going to marry this guy, but years from now. It's been extremely tough bc he's in the Army and has been in Hawaii the entire pregnancy and will be leaving for Kuwait in 10 days. I've lost a lot of friends, had to give up an amazing internship at Disney, quit my job that I loved, and spend most of my days alone but I knoe it's all for the best and I can't wait to meet my baby boy! I've learned so much and have grown into such a better person than the party girl I was 8 months ago. I couldn't be more thankful.
  • beeishbeeish member
    edited June 2015
    mers90 said:

    mirrenrue said:

    I am 26 but my question is about my cousin. She is pregnant and just turned 16, she will have my nana and her mom helping her but just wanted to know if there's any advice I can pass along to her or even for the family? All of you ladies should be proud of yourselves for your accomplishments and love of your children. :-)

    I would just remind everyone involved that the child is her child, she's the mom, and both decisions and responsibilities fall on her side. I'm telling you this because I've seen a lot of teen moms around me who still live with their parents that keep partying and they leave the kid to be the parents responsibility, and parents don't let them make any big decisions! Is like they're the sisters or something and I think that's messed up. The mother has to act like the mother, quit partying (for now), quit dating (for now) and focus on her career and child. The grandmother has to understand that she's just the grandmother. I have a couple of friends like this are the children are really affected by it.
    This! @mirrenrue
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