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My parents - same situation, anyone?

lsu78985lsu78985 member
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Hi

We’re going to be first time parents @ the age of 42.

I am struggling with MY parent’s actions…. I have lived out of state and abroad for the past 18 years for work.  They have visited twice in the past 18 years.  Yet, I go to visit them once per year.

Upon announcement of the baby, they have already booked 2 flights to visit.  Don’t get me wrong, which is great.  But a small part of me is bitter, hurt and wants to call them out on it.  And be like, don’t bother coming…you’re probably busy.

Can anyone offer advice, maybe I’m just venting.  Was anyone else in the same situation?

Thanks for listening.

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Re: My parents - same situation, anyone?

  • Mic512Mic512 member
    We lived 10 hrs away from in ILs when DS was born, they came to visit twice right away then did not visit again for 2 yrs until we bought a new house, then not again until LO was born - if they do not come often now don't expect a sudden flurry of visits to continue. In my experience it does not
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  • Tarebear17Tarebear17 member
    edited June 2015
    Let me put this in a different perspective for you. I have friends who lost a parent to cancer. They would give anything to have another moment with their loved one again. I just lost a loved one before they even got to meet my first baby. Take every moment you can get. Cherish every bit. Life is short. Its cliche, but true. If you must say something, say, "You know, you don't visit enough and we would love to see you more. We want our baby to know his grandparents."

    Take the high road. You can still feel bitter, but at least you'll always know you tried. Sometimes I believe you have to let people decide what is the right thing to do. Or, express what you need to if you can't get over it. You be the judge. Can you forget it and just enjoy their visit? Or, is confronting them imperative to move forward?
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