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Friday rants

devyns2nddevyns2nd member
edited June 2015 in June 2015 Moms
Didn't see one so I'll start one because I have a major rant.

As if I wasn't emotional enough today DH text me and told me we had an issue. Apparently my MIL informed him that we needed to be out of "her" house (it's our rental house and we put her in the deed for insurance reasons), our farm house is being remodeled and it's about two weeks from done. I'm due to be induced Tuesday and DD is extremely sick. She claims she has an abuse report (verbal abuse from an argument we had recently...I may have called her fat). She had been acting strange lately buying her own food, paying the electric, and mowing before anyone was awake. I told DH she's building a case or something. I was right! What set her off today? She found the kittens we had hidden upstairs because I was afraid they would run off again. We were moving them to our farm as soon as they did ok with hard food. She has also been keeping a video diary of everything including the bad things we say about her when she's gone.

Worst thing is this is OUR house. DH let her stay here because she needed a place. We even remodled it for her. She's added to the deed so with the verbal "abuse" papers we have to pack up our 6 children and move in a house that doesn't have flooring or cabinets. I'm pissed!!!

ETA because I needed to add a curse word
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  • devyns2nddevyns2nd member
    JessHeppell said:

    holy shit. thats crazy. shes crazy. im so sorry you have to deal with that.
    on a side note (may be a UO) i dont feel that calling someone fat is a big scandal like everyone acts like it is. you calling her fat should not be clause for an abuse report.

    could you try to talk to the authorities about it and let them know the situation on your end?

    Good thing is DH is close with all the officers here. Bad thing is it's embarrassing so he may avoid it. She's called me fat before but, she had me on some secret tape. She's using the things we said in private too. I have no idea what all she has taped there...honestly it could be bad things but they were said in anger and in private.
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  • LaurenAnn0405LaurenAnn0405 member
    edited June 2015
    @devyns2nd wow that is horrible! I am so sorry that you have to go through this especially so close to your new LO coming. T&P to you and your family! Today must be the day for crazy MILs because today DH and his mom got into a huuuge fight. They don't get along normally but today things just reached a boiling point. It all started when my in laws decided to tell us that they weren't getting the TDaP shot. We told them a long time ago that we wanted them to get the shot. I got it DH got it and my parents got it. But they decided to tell us the day before I'm due that they're not going to get it. So DH told them they couldn't see the baby then. Everything just escalated from there because his mom started calling him names and vice versa. I wasn't actually there for any of this, I was at work but DH called me at work and told me all about it. The end gist is that he never wants to see them again and they're not allowed to see DD and they'll never meet DS. Not sure how the rest of this is going to play out but I really didn't need all this drama the day before I'm due!! ETA: I'm not trying to start a debate about the TDaP shot this is just our personal belief and everyone in the family said they were on board in the beginning and it was super frustrating for them to constantly go against everything we want!
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  • bbnmama2012bbnmama2012 member
    edited June 2015
    Seriously?! You deserve to vent! She is insane! There has to be something wrong with her psychologically.
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  • LaurenAnn0405LaurenAnn0405 member
    The crazy thing is MIL is type 1 diabetic and doesn't use a pump so she's constantly giving herself shots! It's their stupid way of saying nobody can tell them what to do-it's so childish! ~X(
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  • devyns2nddevyns2nd member
    We don't think she can do anything since we are on the deed and we have children but she's good at this legal shit. The house was paid off by DH years ago. If anything maybe she will cause a scene and I plain on being super dramatic (pulling the pregnant card) and maybe she will be the aggressor and have to leave but, she's well known here. It's a super small town (5000 ppl) DH had a sorry wife and he raised his five kids alone so it'd be a battle of who's the bettter person.
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  • Zeuskay01Zeuskay01 member
    edited June 2015
    Wow...I am so sorry you have to deal with someone like that!! If it is legally you and your husband's house, how can she make you leave ?? Ugh. I'm pissed for you!
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  • Sammy KSammy K member
    Holy hell that is crazy. I'm so sorry you're dealing with that. I don't know what else to say.
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  • rklinge0rklinge0 member
    Sorry that is awful! I am sorry you have to go through this so close to your due date
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  • KaLikeAWindKaLikeAWind member
    Serenamarr said:
    @devyns2nd your story really struck a nerve with me and I've been doing a little Googling research... Don't just roll over on this and leave the house! If you leave willingly it will be extremely difficult to get possession of the property back from her. Obviously I'm no lawyer, but I did find that there are 12 states (not sure where you are) that say it is illegal to record a conversation without consent from ALL parties being recorded. In most other states, the recording is legal only if done by one of the parties involved in the conversation. Bugging a private home and recording a conversation that "can be reasonably expected to be private" is almost ALWAYS ILLEGAL! Even with all that aside, the legal definition of verbal abuse does not extend to third party conversations. So, talking ABOUT someone privately to a third party when they are not present does not constitute verbal abuse. So whatever she recorded is useless anyways!!!

    This too! I was thinking about the likely illegality of these supposed taped conversations. I was thinking they couldn't be used against you unless you either knew you were being recorded or she was present during the conversation. I also second not leaving the home. Then you are setting a precedent for both her and any legal ramblings that may follow. I'm not in any kind of law anything, but the above info makes sense
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  • HayesRN13HayesRN13 member
    Serenamarr said:

    @devyns2nd your story really struck a nerve with me and I've been doing a little Googling research... Don't just roll over on this and leave the house! If you leave willingly it will be extremely difficult to get possession of the property back from her. Obviously I'm no lawyer, but I did find that there are 12 states (not sure where you are) that say it is illegal to record a conversation without consent from ALL parties being recorded. In most other states, the recording is legal only if done by one of the parties involved in the conversation. Bugging a private home and recording a conversation that "can be reasonably expected to be private" is almost ALWAYS ILLEGAL! Even with all that aside, the legal definition of verbal abuse does not extend to third party conversations. So, talking ABOUT someone privately to a third party when they are not present does not constitute verbal abuse. So whatever she recorded is useless anyways!!!

    This.. You need to run HER out

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  • KaLikeAWindKaLikeAWind member
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  • JessHeppellJessHeppell member
    edited June 2015
    my rant/annoyance:
    Husband has been going out to drink a lot lately. and imo drinking way more than necessary. like (went out wednesday night, 9 beers last night, 11 last thursday, he also went out on saturday that just passed) its ridiculous and he doesnt seem to care that i dont approve of it. i totally understand that you just want to go out before the baby arrives.. but its getting ridiculous.
    and today because he is an idiot he managed to dehydrate himself through not drinking enough water/drinking 6 cups of coffee. and honestly? im so annoyed with his going out, that i dont even feel bad for him, like im playing nice and bringing him water, but im just annoyed with him.

    so much for his "im not gonna drink while youre pregnant"
    (also upset because i have no real friends/anyone to hang out with while he is off with his buddies, and considering i dont even get invited.. i feel very left out)

    ETA: not to mention the money it is wasting..
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  • lovethatcolosunlovethatcolosun member
    @devyns2nd it's official, your MIL wins the award for the craziest MIL I have ever heard of. I'm with the other PP, don't leave, find out your rights and take her ass off the deed if you can. That lady needs to leave ASAP for the wellbeing of your entire family. She has violated your rights and is creating her case out of nothing. Pretty sure everything you have said about her both to her face and in private is the truth. Regardless start keeping a journal of the crazy crap she does. You should also file animal abuse charges if she continues to pursue this. If you can cut her out of your life for good. You don't need negative people like that around you or your kids. Sorry your date night was ruined.

    @LaurenAnn0405 I'm sorry you have to deal with crazy in laws too. Maybe when things calm down in a little bit (if that happens) you can tell them maybe they could see LO after s/he has their first round of vaccines (2 mo). I'm personally not uber concerned about unvaccinated close friends and family unless they pose an immediate risk (have been around a sick person, if they are sick themselves, or have compromised immune systems). Obvious rules apply too, no kissing on the mouth, face touching, Required hand washing and the basic hygiene rules. Just my opinion though...I don't want to push anyone to do something they aren't comfortable with. Good luck. Sucks to have drama right before such a big event.
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  • klkonwiklkonwi member
    Oh.my.goodness. The amount of crazy from both of your MIL's is just insane.
    I'm so sorry :bz
    I thought my mil was crazy for telling me I needed to have more than 3 cans (I have 3 already) of formula and distilled water ready before my baby was even born for supplementing........ She also reminded me that she was only allowed to gain 15 lb back in those days and I shouldn't have gained the 22 that I have...... Eek. I will try and be thankful for her annoying suggestions/opinions from now on......
    Damn crazy ladies.....
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  • SerenamarrSerenamarr member
    klkonwi said:

    Oh.my.goodness. The amount of crazy from both of your MIL's is just insane.
    I'm so sorry :bz
    I thought my mil was crazy for telling me I needed to have more than 3 cans (I have 3 already) of formula and distilled water ready before my baby was even born for supplementing........ She also reminded me that she was only allowed to gain 15 lb back in those days and I shouldn't have gained the 22 that I have...... Eek. I will try and be thankful for her annoying suggestions/opinions from now on......
    Damn crazy ladies.....
    @devyns2nd @LaurenAnn0405

    Oh god what your MIL would say about me... My mom gained 45 pounds with me. At 67 years old she looks like she's 40 and is so thin! I've gained 42 and can only pray I am able to bounce back like her.
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