Lack of sleep

Re: Lack of sleep

• mnbando member

  June 2015

  If you are getting super frustrated, remember that letting him cry for a bit won't hurt him. I would set him down for a few minutes and step away to get a little break and maybe get some water or maybe a snack. (The crying might wear him out) To help him sleep - swaddle, use a pacifier, have some white noise, and some babies prefer a slight incline so you can stick something under the mattress to get a slight incline.
  
  Hang in there!

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• seamama525 member

  June 2015

  Your baby may be going through purple crying. Check out the website below for more info. As the pp recommended, it is ok to walk away from them for a bit and collect yourself while they cry. Sorry you are having a tough time. Must be really frustrating but you can do it!
  https://purplecrying.info/what-is-the-period-of-purple-crying.php

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• MrsKindy40 member

  June 2015

  I suggest you talk to someone. Is there anyone who could watch him for a few hours during the day while you nap? I'm not really sure what you mean by you're "getting rough with him". You do realize he's not crying to inconvenience you? He's a newborn baby. This environment is much different than what he was used to for the last 9 months.

  

  
  

  
  

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• marijaa333 member

  June 2015

  mnbando said:

  If you are getting super frustrated, remember that letting him cry for a bit won't hurt him. I would set him down for a few minutes and step away to get a little break and maybe get some water or maybe a snack. (The crying might wear him out) To help him sleep - swaddle, use a pacifier, have some white noise, and some babies prefer a slight incline so you can stick something under the mattress to get a slight incline. Hang in there!

  Yes to all this! Swaddling helps a lot (they think they hate it, but they actually love it as it prevents them from waking every 50 minutes when their sleep cycle resets).

  
  

  And yes, it's fine to leave baby to cry for a bit and take a breather for yourself.  Hang in there, you are a good mom and you need your sleep as much as the little one does.

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• rosannewild member

  June 2015 edited June 2015

  I'm awake a lot through the night and though I'm not emotionally strained with her, I'm not my usual patient self with others. I'm trying out different swaddle techniques. My daughter is getting better with waking for two feedings at night and then going back to sleep for 2-3 hour stretches. It takes time to get her back down. She wakes for good at 5:30 or 6. I play with her until 7:30 or 8 and then have my mother in law care for her for a few hours so I can Sleep and be human. There are issues with my MIL. But having her watch my baby while I sleep has helped soften me a bit...until she takes a liberty.

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• trishadobel member

  June 2015 edited June 2015

  I am really sorry you are feeling this way. I understand how frustrating a newborn can be. I was a mess with my first son, and I felt like a horrible mother. I honestly thought my son hated me, and that was why he cried all night long. Don't be afraid of putting your son in his car seat or somewhere else that is safe and stepping away for a few minutes. If possible I would suggest hiring a babysitter for the afternoon or morning and catching up on your sleep, it will do wonders. I also got to the point with my first son that I would sit down in the recliner and let him nap laying on my chest, and I would doze off along with him. I am an extremely light sleeper, this isn't the best practice but at the time it is what I needed to do. This is tough, but any sleep you can get will help.

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• shelles423 member

  June 2015

  My LO sometimes does this but i figured out she's still just hungry and sometimes will end up eating close to five ounces when she normally only eats three. She just has some moments of being extra hungry and goes right to sleep once she's full

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• SmrBrd2012 member

  June 2015

  I've been having similar problems lately too. The first week we were golden. The only time LO cried was if he was hungry. Now we're approaching week 3 and he cries pretty much all the time when he's awake and not feeding. We usually cycle through everything it could be, let him cry for awhile, and then cycle back through everything again. Sometimes he ends up being hungry after all. I've definitely found myself losing patience at night though. It's really hard when all you want to do is sleep and you can't. Do you have a partner that can help you out when needed? I'm usually on my own at night since H is back at work and I'm not but every once and awhile if it's too much for me I ask for his help.

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• duynguyen51 member

  June 2015

  skupski83 said:

  I find myself being less soothing with each moment that LO fusses and cries instead of going to sleep. I've tried everything, fed him, changed him, rocked him, burped him and he won't go to sleep. He cries everytime I put him back in his bassinet. I'm getting rougher with him as the night goes on and I'm afraid that I may accidentally hurt him. I'm so tired, all I want is to go to sleep myself. I even yelled at him to go the f to sleep. I'm a terrible mother. Is anyone else feeling this way or struggling?? I'm going insane.

  Omg I feel the same way. My baby is so good during the day and just sleep and sleep. Around dinner time to bedtime he would get fussy (witching hours). Then after he fell asleep he would wake up to eat and stayed up for hours. I tried everything you did, does not work. He fell asleep on my breast everytime when I breastfeed him but he would cry everytime I put him back in his lil bed. I'm so tired and I wish I could just have a good night sleep! I'm getting more and more zombie as days goes by, I wonder why it take so long for him to go back to sleep after I fed him. Hang in there mama, keep on telling myself there are light at the end of tunnel.

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