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gmehau · June 2015

Lately I've just been feeling so insecure with what this pregnancy has been doing to my body. I mean I know it's normal to gain weight or getting bigger breast and even not being able to fit most of my clothes but it's still just making feel so gross with myself. I'm so use to being a petite fit person and now I'm 147... not to mention literally right before I got pregnant I gained 20 pounds within a month. I'm a fairly short person (4'11) and I use to be 110 lbs, so this is all new to me. For the past two days it seems like my insecurity on the weight gaining has gotten worse. It just not a great feeling and I honestly just feel miserable

LiveNLove44 · June 2015

Weight gain and body changes aren't easy. I think we see pregnant women and assume that they love their baby bump and there isn't any more to it. What we maybe don't see is the whole part of pregnancy leading up to when that bump really appears and when the body begins shifting and changing. I think it's important to acknowledge how you're feeling and make sure you can talk about it with someone in your life: your doctor, your family, etc. You aren't the only one who feels that insecurity! I think it's fairly common. Just remember that it's short lived, and eventually your body will be your own again. Focus on making good food choices as often as you can and stay active when possible.

LiveNLove44 · June 2015

Also, someone just posted this: https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12582894/baby-weight#latest Where you might find some like-minded individuals who can offer insight, too!

Krysta6 · June 2015

I suggest stopping paying attention to the scale! I gained about 10lbs prepregnancy (holiday food!) so I started this heavier than I've ever been. I've already gained around 13 lbs. I only weighed myself regularly in the first trimester to make sure I wasn't ballooning. Otherwise I weigh myself the morning of my dr appointment (I don't want to be shocked at dr). I'm comfortable with gaining weight for this baby, there is a purpose to my weight. But if I focus too much on the numbers I obsess and feel terrible. We are all so much more than a dumb number on a scale and I refuse to allow this baby feel anything but loved from me in my belly. I feel like if there is a problem with my weight gain my Dr. Will tell me. Also I'm only 5'1" and everyone tells me we short girls grow out more so I'm slowly trying to prepare myself that I'll be bigger than my tall friends. Hang in there and don't let your brain tell you anything except you are beautiful!

Thunda88 · June 2015

I can relate. I am only 5'1" and have never been this big. In the beginning I was extremely insecure but now that I actually look pregnant and can feel my baby it makes it easier. I am learning to embrace it and hope that you will too. Good luck and just know there are a lot of us who totally understand your feelings. What we are doing with our bodies is incredible. Hugs!!!

vamomtobe · June 2015

It's tough! It really hit me after my first was born and my body didn't magically snap back into place. I don't know what I was expecting, but I felt so gross. I got rid of half my wardrobe thinking I'd never fit in any of it again. I rolled my eyes at pictures of stretch marks with captions of tiger moms earning stripes or whatever. Buuuuut! I did lose the weight slowly over the course of a year, my boobs shrank back to a normal, human size once my son was weaned, and I really honestly had become comfortable with my new body. Now to go through it all again - ugh! But I at least know I won't feel gross forever. You are allowed to feel crummy now, but remember it's temporary! Small comfort now, but hang in there! Your body is going through all this because it's MAKING A HUMAN! You are awesome!! And don't give away your clothes, because it totally sucks when you are back to your pre-baby size and your favorite outfit is gone.

kirsty100 · June 2015

I feel you!! You don't feel sexy or anything I avoid going out because I can't be bothered with it and I'm constantly having people comment on my weight or calling me fat it hurts my feeling especially when 2 days before I was stating how insecure I felt about my weight gain I've never in my whole life been this size and I go to throw clothes out because I forget I'm pregnant it's not that don't love the fact I have a baby growing inside me that's amazing it's just I don't feel pregnant I feel fat!

przemosbabe · June 2015

The weight gain doesn't bother me much because I know for me personally it will go away. It's the stretch marks that are bothering me because those won't go away, and if they do it won't be quick. It's not even the stretch marks it's the color of them. Red and purple and dark brown. I'm getting cosmetic treatment after I have her!

brittanispears · August 2015

I've been feeling EXTREMELY insecure lately. I haven't gained a ton of weight but I still feel ugh. I feel like I'm not pretty, either. And sometimes I feel like my husband doesn't think I'm attractive. Yesterday, we were around a few of his friends and one of the girls was really cute and I felt super insecure. He tells me I'm beautiful but I don't feel that way. Sometimes, I feel like he could've done so much better than me in the looks department. I'm damn near in tears as I type this but I had to vent. I kind of want to talk to him about it but I don't even know where to begin. I hope this passes.

babybumb1229 · August 2015

You aren't alone I'm 5'1 and oh how I have gained not only that I am getting attacked by pimples on my face and on my chest and I haven't had good sleep so I have bags under my eyes it does make me feel insecure but I try to stay positive like I know this is all for baby I'm going to have a baby and won't be having all this forever.

morgy_bee · August 2015

For my first baby I gained 40lbs and at my 6 week check up I had lost 36. I have only gained 15 this time around and I'm confident I will lose that easy. Just remember that most of the weight is baby, fluid, placenta and swelling. Your body was made to do this, embrace it! At least you will get a baby in the end :-)

Blinkbaby · September 2015

50lb gain here. I was 127 prepregnancy at 5'7"...up to 177 and feeling ginormous at 33weeks.

What's hardest for me is that I had just hit my goal weight after being overweight for years and working my butt off. I just keep telling myself I did it once, I can do it again (and it's so worth it)

briraeh · September 2015

I have gained about 30. Super hard to look at the scale. I've never weighed this much in my life. I lost 15 pounds and was finally comfortable with my body before I found out I was pregnant. Can't wait to get my body back!

Casseylemon · September 2015

I'm 5'1 and gained 40 lbs so far (33 weeks)! I hardly recongnize myself, but I'm just embracing it and trying to love every minute. Life is short and I'll only get to carry this this baby girl once! It's temporary and you'll feel better once your little one is here and your hormones get back in balance haha

keep up the good work Moma!

amberrmariee20 · September 2015

I gained 59 lbs with my first, lost it all plus more by the time he was 18 months. I gained about 35 so far this time !

Katarzyn · September 2015

The best advise is to stop looking at the scale and what people tell you... I was told I look big for the weeks I was carrying for and it really annoyed me for a while but then one of my friends said ask her what week she's at even though she's not pregnant ... made me laugh!!!! .... I believe I'm over 180 pounds now and know I gained weight before the pregnancy because I was doing 10 months of full time online school and full time work and barely found the time to ever hit the gym or cook. It was a struggle! But with my new GD diet I heard that sometimes you lose weight before giving birth (but I sure do miss pizza, potatoes and dessert!). Going to the docs today so curious to see how I did in the last two weeks.

My advice is to try to stay as active as you can. I was at the gym yesterday and was ready to curse everyone out as I really did not want to be there, but really trying to stay active -- heard that by being active the labor is easier and also it helps me regulate my blood glucose levels which in my case is very important.

Louisl · September 2015

Another shortie here and I've already gained 30. Dr says expect another 10 lbs. I didn't think it was possible. My mom only gained 20 something with each kid but we were tiny babies and this kid is a tight end I'm convinced. I've never weighed over 105 so this is very uncomfortable for me, especially after dealing with eating disorder issues as a teen. But I'm just focusing on how close we are to being done. And then we get our bodies back to do with as we please! (Well, sort of...)

@babybumb1229 is your bday 12/29?

meghan82 · September 2015

i am also short (5'2) and while i haven't gained that much with 4 weeks to go (i think around 26 total now), i now outweigh my husband!!! that was a huge thing for me to get over at first. in 2014 i had worked really hard to lose an extra 10 lbs by training for a sprint triathlon, but then gained pretty much of all it back with the holidays, and soon after found out i was pregnant, so the number on the scale is definitely hard to see sometimes because compared to my "ideal weight" i am up by around 36 lbs-- a lot for a short person!!

i think @thunda88 hit the nail on the head-- it sounds incredibly cheesy but i really try to focus on the awesome thing my body is doing by growing and nurturing this baby. my prenatal yoga class is really helpful for this too and has instilled a sense of confidence in me that was really lacking at times during my pregnancy. there are pregnant women of all shapes and sizes just like there are "regular" women of all shapes and sizes and we should celebrate what our bodies can do! hang in there, i know it is easy to get discouraged.

Sweet Sadie Mae · September 2015

I have no idea how much I weigh or how much I've gained. Its a natural process for your body to keep that baby healthy. Try not to stress over it. We all go through it.

Leabyrd · September 2015

5'3 and have gained around 35 (it fluctuates daily) 32 weeks on Friday. Overall I feel pretty good- UNTIL I go to the doctors. The doctor keeps telling me she's concerned for my weight and made me get 8 different blood tests done this week.Makes me feel horrible, all I can say to her is that I exercise daily and have not stopped since getting pregnant, I work over 40 hours per week and eat a NORMAL healthy diet- what else do you want from me lady! I was already obsessed with my weight pre pregnancy and it's definitely over load now but like pp's have said, try to focus on the baby it's not about us anymore as long as baby is healthy we are doing our jobs! I'm sure once we see our little angels faces we won't care what the scale says! At least we are in the last stretch! We all can't look like Giselle while pregnant!

justyh · September 2015

brittanispears said:
I've been feeling EXTREMELY insecure lately. I haven't gained a ton of weight but I still feel ugh. I feel like I'm not pretty, either. And sometimes I feel like my husband doesn't think I'm attractive. Yesterday, we were around a few of his friends and one of the girls was really cute and I felt super insecure. He tells me I'm beautiful but I don't feel that way. Sometimes, I feel like he could've done so much better than me in the looks department. I'm damn near in tears as I type this but I had to vent. I kind of want to talk to him about it but I don't even know where to begin. I hope this passes.

Defiantly feeling the same way!

raygarza13 · September 2015

Can I just say how relieved I am to hear someone going through the same thing as me? I am 4"11 as well was 80-90 pounds pre-pregnancy and am now at 148 at 36 weeks. My doctor has told me at almost every visit to watch my weight gain but I just keep seeming to gain more. I've always been very thin and now I've outgrown almost all my maternity clothes even! All that fit me are leggings and my husbands shirts (I've outgrown all my new maternity bras and underwear as well!) Not to mention people are always asking if I'm having twins and I'm covered in stretch marks when I've never really had any before... I'm crying myself to sleep and worrying about every little thing I eat. I keep looking at post pregnancy pictures hoping that I might one day get my body back. I'm just so ready to hit the gym and have energy again. I feel awful about myself... My baby bump is so much bigger than the other women I see and my hips have grown about 4 inches. I'm definitely going to buy a bellefit girdle to hopefully help get my body back.

kmama37 · September 2015

Just remember most of us taller ladies had much more room for our baby to grow without stretch marks and looking huge I'm 5'9" and I have stretch marks. Just try to relax about everything. It will be over soon and it will all be worth it. You can worry about your body and trying to be comfortable in your skin later trust me its easier when your holding the beautiful baby that "ruined" you.

beanie1977 · September 2015

I've only gained 20 pounds (a miracle!) but I was overweight to begin with and my bump is fat and lumpy rather than cute and popped. I'm self conscious of it and have to wear two belly bands just to feel comfortable walking around because my stomach is so big! I also just posted about hating my boobs.

I'm almost 33 weeks and so uncomfortable I can't imagine what the next several weeks will bring.

CCasey2015 · September 2015

I know the feeling. I'm 5'5 with a starting weight of 144. I'm 183 now & I'm 36 weeks.

chris&haley · September 2015

I'm 5'2", have gained 45 with twins and started a little heavier than I wanted to be, but looking at pre-pregnancy pictures I realize I was not big at all! I also feel pretty unattractive right now, but I think we're all just uncomfortable and not used to this particular "shape". I bet once our babies are here we will look back at pregnancy photos and think they're beautiful because we were creating the little people we love so much!

sanderskn · September 2015

I'm so sorry your doctor made you feel like that! If you are eating mostly healthy and staying active, your body is just doing what it needs to do and everyone is different.

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