Husband too loud!!

HOLLYSODEN · June 2015

This is just a rant but I just spent an hour breastfeeding from 4-5 am. My husband gets up to go to the bathroom and makes a ton of noise, closing the door hard etc...anyway baby wakes up! He is like a professional baby waker! He says sorry as he goes back to bed! He's a good guy, but since he's not the mommy or the one with the boobs, he doesn't understand the struggle! Anyone else have this problem?

canadianmom89 · June 2015

Omg yes! I put LO to sleep in my arms the other night and husband complains that he works all day and misses her so he wants to hold her some more before bed which is sweet don't get me wrong but I told him if he woke her I would be mad. So I hand her over and go take 10 mins for myself while within 5 DD is screaming so DH hands her over and says good night and goes to bed and I had a cranky baby for the next 2 hours! I was not impressed to say the least.
Also he said he would give me a nights break and stay with her all night ( she still only sleeps on someone's chest and not in her bassinet yet ) well I woke up at 1230 to pump and he hands the baby over says I don't know how you stay up like this all night and goes to bed!!
He's a great guy and dad don't get me wrong and he does a lot to be helpful but he definitely doesn't get the struggle!

Hawk&Eye · June 2015

DS1 is 3 and the struggle is still real! I can tiptoe through this house and not make a sound. I always say DH is "not a 'respector' of nap time!". And I can already see the trend will continue. Maybe I should make a house rule: you wake'em, you take'em.

caseheela · June 2015

LOL this morning my poor sweet SO was getting ready for work (430am) and he opened the closet door and it made the LOUDEST creak ever. DD stirred and started getting fussy and I shot him the most evil daggers ever. He apologized for 10 mins (think I scared the crap out of him) even though she didn't actually wake up.

gkrenzel · June 2015

Ugh DH totally does this. The other day I finally get DD down (she even let me put her down in bassinet!!) and he decides to check on her. I hear him talking to her through the baby monitor and 2 min later fussy baby. He comes out denying he talked to her...
He's super sweet with her but sometimes he just doesn't use common sense!

saric83 · June 2015

Since neither DH nor I are exactly graceful or quiet people when trying to wake up, we've gone out of our way to make sure there is always noise happening around DS, so he's not adapting to only sleeping when it's quiet. Maybe starting to do a bit of that would help when you can't get DH to be a bit more quiet?

Amber Woods · June 2015

My husband sleeps on the couch since he wakes up at 430. Problem solved

khaleesi123 · June 2015

Omg yes yes yes!! It drives me crazy like why can't you whisper when you can see me desperately trying to put her to sleep? And I have to get up to her at night because if he does he is just too loud and she is stimulated too much that she can't go back to sleep and it's all crying all night

rositalynda2014 · June 2015

I must be crazy cuz during the day I yell at anyone that DOES tiptoe. MIL always yells at the dogs for barking when she comes or at DH if his sound is too loud on his phone when he's holding DD. Drives me insane. I don't want a baby that can't sleep through regular noises. If she can sleep through the dogs barking I don't have to worry about doors creaking and whatnot

TBsquared · June 2015

With my first we tip toed around but this one no way! Be loud it's so much easier when they can sleep through noise!

sailaplay · June 2015

I find that each baby is different. My first would go literally days without sleeping for more than 20 minutes at a time and would wake to every sound. This one sleeps through most anything. Didn't do anything differently with them.
If you have a sound sensitive baby you're forced to respect that or neither of you ever sleep! My first is 10 now and sleeps very soundly but man those first couple of years were challenging!

danibonello · June 2015

I agree... we don't go out of our way to make noise but we never ever keep quiet around baby. So far the sleeps through noise, which is important because our old house has SERIOUSLY creaky wood floors... including in the nursery and hallway right outside her door.

SammieJ1113 · June 2015

I am so grateful that we did this with DD1. We made sure to keep the noise at a regular level when she was sleeping and now she can sleep through most things. We're doing the same thing with DD2. It's almost impossible to keep DD1 quiet now that she's 2.

MrsWhiteToBe · June 2015

DH and I decided before she was born that we wouldn't go out of our way to be quiet so she would hopefully sleep better. DD is a champ at sleeping through noise, but sometimes she looks so peaceful I want to keep quiet for her, but then DH will come barging in the room talking in a normal voice and shutting the door loudly. She still doesn't wake up but it gives me a mini panic attack sometimes.

MrsElizabethPlano · June 2015

I had this problem, it went away one night that DH was too loud but wasn't sleeping. He was playing video games in our room and kept randomly being too loud waking up baby. That I could deal with but he did it so many times that baby got TOO tired and was inconsolable. If DH was sleeping or went to sleep then nothing would have changed, but since he was on xbox and couldn't hear anybody or anything except our crying baby it got real for him. He sincerely apologized and eventually assisted in soothing baby. He moved the xbox to the living room and now I don't even hear him get up in the morning. One night just make him sit there awake with you. When baby isn't nursing then daddy is holding, burping, soothing them.

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