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Inviting coworkers to shower

dev85dev85 member
in August 2015 Moms
Sorry if this is a duplicate, I searched but didn't find anything this specific.
I'm looking for input on inviting coworkers to my baby shower. I just don't know if I should or not. Another girl at my job just invited everyone to her shower. I don't really want to invite everyone because I think that some people may come that I don't really like. So I was thinking of just inviting a few people but I don't want to be rude to others. Also this shower is a diaper coed diaper BBQ thrown by a friend and I don't want to overwhelm her with a lengthy guest list.

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Re: Inviting coworkers to shower

  • WSatisfiedPWSatisfiedP member
    I had a work shower, so I wouldn't invite those people to a second shower.  Do you think they will be having one for you at work?
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  • SassetteSmurflingSassetteSmurfling member
    Are there people at work that you talk to and hang out with outside of work? Those would be the people I would invite. For me there are about 35 people in my department. I think I had maybe 5 that were invited to my shower.
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  • J&D2007J&D2007 member
    I debated, but decided not to invite any coworkers to our coed BBQ type shower. I think it's impossible to invite just a few without hurt feelings, so I haven't mentioned anything to them at all about even having a shower.
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  • Seed0824Seed0824 member
    I would only invite a coworker if you are friends outside of work.
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  • dev85dev85 member
    Thanks for the advice. There are a few that I chat with at work but haven't ever spent any time outside of work with them. Maybe I'll just not invite any...
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  • puccagirl77puccagirl77 member
    With baby #1, I had a work shower, so I did not invite any of my co-workers to my other shower; it seemed like double-dipping. I included 1 co-worker for my sprinkle, but it is no gifts and I made it clear to her that she doesn't have to come. She is my best friend at work and we also socialize a fair amount.

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  • knorton19knorton19 member
    I was having the same problem. But then again they threw me a shower already. So i pretty much decided not to which made it a lot eaiser for me lol. I hear you though, if you invite one you may feel like inviting them all. Especially so you don't hurt anyones feelings. Good luck!
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  • shmarplershmarpler member
    I decided against inviting coworkers. I felt like I would have needed to include everyone, but since there has been a lot of drama at work lately, I decided that I would enjoy my shower more without including them. I had a blast at my shower, and don't regret my decision at all.
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  • netters625netters625 member
    I invited everyone, even the ones I don't like because I couldn't bring myself to leaving anyone out. I hate the feeling of being left out and I was feeling guilty about causing anyone else to feel that way. I fully expect the people I dont really talk to, not to come but I didnt want other people talking about my shower around them and them not get an invite.
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  • Kimk1616Kimk1616 member
    There were some coworkers I wanted to invite and others I didn't so I just put up an invite at work so as not to exclude anyone. I mentioned quite a while ago to those who I was closest with the date and time to be sure they were free. So far no one that I didn't want to come has RSVP'd and my shower is next weekend.
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  • MiddleSister22MiddleSister22 member
    I considered this and ultimately chose not to invite any. There are a few co-workers I am closer with and didn't want to exclude anyone. Also in the past when someone has a baby, everyone pools together to get them a gift/gift card. I didn't want these people to feel as though they had to buy me two gifts.
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  • stow2009stow2009 member
    I invited my coworkers who I have spent time with outside of work, which was six women. 
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  • SashaDenn25SashaDenn25 member
    I have been with my employer since I was 16, at 24 I am now over people that were my peers and I felt weird even inviting people I was close with because I have become their boss not a coworker. It was also delicate because since ive been there so long people felt like they should be invited because theyve "watched me grow up". So, in order to not hurt feelings I made inviting very discreet and asked these people not to post on social media. They have all been very kind and said they wouldnt because they know its a delicate situatuon, but everyone invited I am very close with (i.e. lunch buddies, see outside of work regularly).
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