Freind of mine decided to congratulate me on my newest baby on FB, and note she didn't see the announcement picture. She did this on my wall. HELLO you didn't see an announcement because we haven't anounced it on FB yet!!! Our close friends and family know and those who see my growing belly and have figured it out know. But at 17wks we still haven't anounced it on FB. My husband actually just told his family last week. We have a lot of distance family and friends we haven't told yet.
This is my 4th baby and I know people are going to think we are crazy for having another (all 5 and under) So I was going to try and wait until 20wks to do it.
But seriously send someone a PM don't post it on their wall! Especially if you see NO mention of a baby ANYWHERE! Is it just me or is that a lack of common sense?? I really wanted to call her an idiot but was nice about it and just deleted it and sent her a PM.
Ok rant over
Re: FB etiquette
That said, I can see where it would be annoying to have your news scooped. Once word is out though it's out. You can't control what other people do with your information.
I guess I see it differently, if I hear something second hand I tell that person in private if I don't see anything publicly posted. I don't know I guess I see it as respect for other people.
And I don't find it creepy at all to check someone's FB first to see if they have mentioned anything on a big announcement; engagement, babies, a new house, ect..
Just wanted to vent, now wish I hadn't
This is our 4th and my oldest is just over 5, honestly this has never been an issue for us with the first 3. I didn't even realize but with some of them I didn't post I was pregnant on FB until 18-20 wks and we told people we were preggo right away! This time around we just started telling people.
I did the same thing. There is also a setting where you can preview and accept/reject timeline posts and comments before anyone else can see them. This way people can still write on your timeline for other reasons but you can filter them.
OP: I would be frustrated too if I were you. Actually, I was you when my sister outed me to my family when I was like 4 weeks along. I didn't get a chance to make a special announcement to them when I was ready. Now sharing on FB is all I have left!