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I just wanna know it's all gonna be ok

taylorherrgeselltaylorherrgesell member
in November 2015 Moms
Everything with baby is fine my doctor said today heartbeat sounds wonderful! But everyone in my family has been constantly putting me down telling me I'll be a bad mom because I'm "too young" me and baby's dad are currently broken up and I'm not really one to have girl friends so at this point I'm spending a lot of time alone feeling like I'm already a horrible mom I'm not sure what to do it feels to early to go shopping and get excited for baby and I can't do much to distract myself given that I'm exhausted all the time just looking for some reasurrence I guess I just wanna know it'll all be ok :(
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  • MariSlaterMariSlater member
    Young or not, your own family shouldn't be attacking you.

    From the moment I held you in my arms, I knew it was meant to be.

    I adore her smile,
    I cherish her hugs,
    I admire her heart.
    But most of all,
    I love that she is my daughter.      


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  • beautyundefinedbeautyundefined member
    Age does not determine how good of a mom you'll be! Don't let anyone get you down, you'll be a great mom!
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  • Laura&brad1Laura&brad1 member
    I was a young single mum and it's hard work but definatly age doesn't make you a better mum I am 10 years older and pregannt again and I don't feel any better off this time as it has been so long! You will be a great mum please don't listen to their negative comments I have started by laybuy things for the baby so I can pay them off its expensive having a baby so I like to start early and be prepared! Find some good parenting and pregnancy books and read up to keep you busy! All the best! Chin up! :)
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  • taylorherrgeselltaylorherrgesell member
    Thank you guys so much! I just wish November was a little closer or just being able to feel my little one move would make me a whole lot happier it's just harder now being emotional and just looking chubby :) Thank you for the kind words and advice it definitely made my night a lot better!
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  • oliarnmom1517oliarnmom1517 member
    Being young has nothing to do with it.. My close friend had her daughter at 17 and is the best mother ever..she even graduated 6 months later as the valedictorian of our class of almost 200 people... I know you will be a great mom!! Don't let other get to you!!
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  • ashleywuliashleywuli member
    As everyone else has said, age has nothing to do with what type of mother you will be! Don't let your family put you down. Keep your head high and do what is best for you and baby. Good luck!!
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  • thefithuntressthefithuntress member
    I'm sorry you're going through all these tough feelings. It sounds like you're already acting like a responsible mother and that you love your baby. I hope you're connecting with some of the other young mamas on TB to have some ladies to talk to. :)
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  • LivHamidLivHamid member
    Maybe you can find a local meetup for moms to be or check out books from the library on pregnancy :)
    It sucks having negative people around, when you just want to be happy.
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  • Escheffler34Escheffler34 member
    I'm a young mom to be (21) and I'm so sorry that your family is not being supportive! That's not fair to you. I'm sure you will be a fantastic mommy, with or without your baby's father. If you ever need to talk to anyone, feel free to message me! :)
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  • kwaldykwaldy member
    Everything eventually works itself out one way or another, that's something you gotta remember. I had a friend in your shoes a few years back and she has turned out to be the best mother, despite the fact that everyone had doubted her. It was her motivation to go and do great things for herself. Easier said than done, but try to let the negativity roll off your back and focus on the amazing things that are to come.
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  • lyankowilyankowi member
    No advice other than I am doing it by myself too. Good luck mommy and it will get better
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  • Ivyblue92Ivyblue92 member
    It's such a shame your family are giving you grief at a time when you need support. As pp's have said age does not determine the kind of mum you will be. Try finding some local mummy meet ups in your area this will help you a lot. Keep your chin up & head held high you can do this :)
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  • dogsombrerodogsombrero member
    Ignore the haters. Take parenting classes and meet other parents to be. You care enough to let this bother you so you care enough to work at being a great mom.
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  • FilbertTreeFilbertTree member
    I was 21, in my final year of university, in a weird on-off long distance relationship with LO's dad (in different continents), and my relationship with my family was at an all time low when I found out I was 26 weeks pregnant with Kiddo1.0. It was not ideal to say the very least... Sometimes you need those trying times to push against and prove to yourself that you are stronger than the world gives you credit for. You sound like you've got your head on right, and you've reached out to find support. It IS going to be ok. As previous posters have said, try and find mummy groups local to you. A bit like finding the right online community it might take a while to find one where you feel right, but it's so worth it.
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  • Elyse1384Elyse1384 member
    Like everyone here has said, age doesn't determine the type of mother you will be.  One expression that I always hated is "with age comes wisdom".  I believe that with experience comes wisdom and whether your a 20 year old FTM or 40 year old FTM the playing field is even. It is how you evolve from the experiences that motherhood brings which will determine what kind of mother you are.  If your post is any indication (just the fact that you care about being a good mom), I'm sure you'll be just fine.  It is tough, but don't doubt yourself.
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