So.. I've known for the last like 3 weeks, that I look horrible. My skin is extra oily at the end of the day. My face has decided to break out in acne (something I've never really done). I have bags and dark circles under my eyes. My hair gets nasty after a day of not washing it. I have no energy and let me just be blunt.
I look like crap. I feel like crap.
I know it's all part of pregnancy. With my son, I never felt this way. I was so energized. I even had a sex drive.
This pregnancy, nothing. I don't want to get out of bed to do anything. And forget about sex. It's happened twice in the past 8 weeks.
Yesterday DH and I went out to dinner and we had to stop at the store on our way home. It was probably around 7:30 or 8ish..
He said to me, that this pregnancy is "taking my beauty away".
Now..
I took that as "you're getting ugly.". But he meant it as "maybe we're having a girl." (Because of that old saying. A girl takes your beauty away because of the extra hormones in your body).
DH is a real sweetie, and I know he didn't mean how it sounded. I was just being super hormonal, as ice cream from dinner had upset my stomach and I was in bitchmode.
Any other moms going through this rough patch of "avoiding all mirrors at any cost, because you're afraid of what you'll see".
Re: DH has noticed..
Did you hit him? I would have!
My hair looks like crap these days. Just lifeless and oily. Waiting for the pregnancy shine to kick in.
At the beginning of my pregnancy my acne mellowed out and I was thinking "yes!" Now, it's back. The oily complexion is worse- I swear it drips off my face. My hair i don't even want to talk about it. I wash it 1-2 times a day, it's still oily and no matter how much conditioner I use it's still dry and nasty.
I feel so attractive! I've been thinking about a brown paper bag- but the oil would just seep through the bag.
I love DH more than anything. I was so mad last night. But I took a step back and saw he was only trying to be., nice in a way.
(I've been telling him it's a girl, and he knows I've wanted a girl for two years now.) so it was his way of saying, "hey baby I think it's what you want."
Though a healthy baby boy would be perfect too.
I just feel gross. All the time. But DH says I'm beautiful.
This morning called me adorable.
I know DH means well.
Hopefully we'll all be glowing by 12 weeks - if not we need to share tips on how to combat the oil.
Good for you all who can manage makeup and dressing up. :-)
When I told him I was pregnant he said, it felt sneaky because he forgot about the conversation we had about going off birth control and trying to get pregnant. Then he said, "I don't really care" later I found out, he meant he didn't care how close in age our kids will be. (We have a 1yr old) Then he told me, "now you can get fat again." Omg... I was like, IM GROWING A HUMAN!!
Don't get me wrong my husband is awesome and supportive, he just doesn't quite now how to say the right thing. Ha.
Then there's me.
I feel like when we go out people stare because DH is good and I'm a slob.
I'm pale white. (Thanks to my red hair), freckles are everywhere! I now have (like mentioned in my OP), greasy hair, oily skin, acne everywhere. I get rid of one, two more come in. Dark circles, bags under the eyes.
I wish pregnancy was on my side.
Like I said twice, DH means well. He would never hurt me like that on purpose. He's always thought one thing and said the opposite. He's a good husband to me.
I just wish I didn't look so much like a slob.
Hopefully I'll feel differently when I see the U/S next week.
Although there were no compliments the other day when I missed the toilet with my sickness and he had to help me clean up the vomit! Not so pretty when that happens haha
I have one guy at work who had a dream that I was pregnant so now 'thinks' I am. He said I was glowing but that day I looked pale and had bags under the bags under my eyes... Anyway I just keep hoping it will pass really really soon... Hubby has done well so far to keep saying he loves me and that I'm beautiful, but luckily I haven't been 'too' hormonal yet... I don't think...