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Frustrated by family's comments

Megan133Megan133 member
edited June 2015 in November 2015 Moms
Hi y'all. I know others have had issues with family members and finding out the sex of the baby. I have a 9 month old little boy. The light of my life. And my SIL, married to my husbands brother, kept telling me that my son was a girl. Then was disappointed a bit when he was a boy. This go round she has been more insistent making jokes of its a girl, I need a girl, ITS DEFINITELY A GIRL BECAUSE WE NEED A GIRL. I was frustrated already but then we found out last weekend we ARE having a girl. I'm very excited for healthy baby. She is perfect and growing and now she has a name! But I was not looking forward to telling SIL. Because she was going to be snarky. I texted everyone because phone calls were too long. So, I texted SIL, before I can say its a girl, she texts back "GIRL!" "BUT if its a boy its ok too I guess". She gets my response of "Yes" in the middle of all that and proceeds to call me at the same time and says "Well,what is it already? I was right, huh!!!" :/ at this point I snapped and said if she had let me finish my message and been patient she would have read my info correctly.
Is it bad I really don't want to be around her for a while? She didn't GUESS it was a girl, she demanded I have a gir for HER sake. :/ why can't we just be happy for another baby? I feel like my son won't get the appropriate love from some family once my daughter arrives. They are both my miracle babies after trying for so long. I think I'm being too emotional... And I'm usually very logical. I'm just frustrated. Anyone else have similar feelings?
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  • KeHill08KeHill08 member
    Ohh yes! I got quite frustrated with my MIL telling me we HAVE to have a boy because she wants a grandson. Then she changed it to we should have a girl so we can have all my brother in law's stuff that our niece outgrew, etc. I feel like well, can't we all just want a healthy baby? You can't put orders in for what sex you want the baby to be! You get what you get and be happy that Iit's going better and things are developing properly this time!
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  • Megan133Megan133 member
    Yes yes all of this yes @KeHill08
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  • SquirtgunSquirtgun member
    @Megan133 That is really frustrating. My SIL just had a son, and the first thing she told me was: "well, now you can have whatever you want because now we have both!" (Speaking of her son and my daughter). Um... Glad to know I have your permission when it's a 50/50 chance, right? (Although I think in her case it was more trying to be funny, where that does not sound like the case for your SIL).
    Honestly, in your case, if she's crazy enough to try to treat your son differently because he's not a girl, I'd just limit the time she has with both kids, telling her why, until she corrects her behavior! Hopefully you have plenty of other family around who will love all of your children no matter how they pee.
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  • VexyMommyVexyMommy member
    That does sound incredibly annoying and the fact that they would treat your son differently is awful.  Are you sure they would actually treat your son differently though or might it be a sensitive subject and so easier to perceive slights?  My bf and I have this problem frequently with our children when we first got together.  We were both very, very sensitive to how our child was being treated and so often perceived slights when none were meant. 
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  • thegingeravengerthegingeravenger member
    That sounds obnoxious. When she starts talking about how she knew it a girl this time, please tell her that your hubby's swimmers must have heard her or something. She really needs some sass thrown her way.
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  • lyankowilyankowi member
    OK as bad as this is I treat my neices and nephews differently. I just have more in common with girls I have an older and younger sister (a brother too but never hung out with him) I'm a girl that has a long of girlfriends and not many guy friends. I want another girl I am just more comfortable around them. I didn't know I was treated them differently until it was pointed out to me. Maybe if it does happen point it out (nicely)
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  • urby87urby87 member
    BIL's wife told me that I have to have a boy because her brother and his wife are also expecting later this year and they are having a girl.  The kids on my side of the family are all boys, though (two nephews and my stepson), so I'm hoping for a girl.  I didn't take it offensively, as I'm sure it was not meant to be taken seriously, but I did kind of think it was a strange comment to make.  Side note: my maternal grandmother recently told me she had been looking at "girly stuff" and my stepson is also hoping for a girl.
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  • babyclark0102babyclark0102 member
    I would just laugh it off and roll my eyes
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