Not sure about you girls but we have our baby names picked out (team green) 2 for a girl and one for a boy but I'm still questioning myself. Anyone else feel like this? Or maybe second time mamas can empathize with this feeling?
I was team green, had her a week ago. My dh was arguing with me during labor about her name, he got to pick it out. We had no middle name until the 2nd day. But I wasn't completely in love with her name but its grown on me.
We've only managed to come up with one boy name that we've liked throughout this whole pregnancy, and whilst we're happy with the name it kind of feels like it's been chosen by default. So it still doesn't quite feel right - but since I'm due on Friday I think that it's very unlikely to change!
Yeah..... we've picked Owen, but then thought Oren is nice and Ori is a better nickname than Owie..... But we'd been calling him Owen for so long now I really do feel like that IS his name..... I think we're going to do a wait and SEE him, then decide....
Default exactly! We chose Calvin and while I really like it, I feel like we are settling on it because it's pretty much the only one my husband and I can agree on. It feels weird. But he's scheduled to be born at 7:30 tomorrow morning, so I don't have much time to figure anything else out.
Our top girl name is a family name for DH. It has become popular, but I'm not in love with it. My consolation is we are using my Grandmother's name for the middle name - and we have a back-up name that I love (but would mean not using my Grandmother's name).
DH loves the name, and it means the world to him. So we will probably just use it, and I will learn this is the beginning of real compromise in parenting together. Or we will have a boy and all will be fine :-)
Glad some other people are feeling the same way! I love my girl choice (Audrey) but not 100% about our boy choice (Evan). Dh reassures me by saying he/she will grow into it.
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Our names are picked and family knows (team green) but last week one of my patients named their girl a name I absolutely fell in love with. So sad that I didn't even consider it when we were making our short list. DH won't let go of our girl choice, and I do still like it so...maybe the next one.
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So glad to hear I'm not the only one feeling this way! We have only really liked Celia or Eleanor this whole pregnancy but never actually decided and keep saying "hopefully we'll know when we see her" when people ask so now I'm already overdue and we are desperately brainstorming to see if something else jumps out at us.. I'm so stressed about it, I just want to love her name!
Its funny to me that this was mentioned. We are also Team Green, and WAY back in the day both DH and I each came up with a boy name. We both agreed each others name was a good name, but couldn't come towards each other at all to accept the others' name as THE name. So we scrapped those names and ended up agreeing on two or three other backup names, and were going to decide which to use should we indeed have a boy. Well, now he tells me he has come around on my original name and is OK using it. Which should make me happy, right? It kinda does, but on the other hand we had agreed on using one of these other names, so now it feels weird to me to NOW be thinking again about my name choice. And then I feel kinda bad cause I didn't come towards his name choice at all. Well, whatever. We'll decide after we meet him - if it IS a him. For a girl we have had a name chosen forever, but I'm a little afraid at this point it may not suit her, and we have no backup names
I feel like there is always an adjustment period to naming a baby. I joke all of the time about my DD that you should get time to get to know them before you have to name them. Her name is Hope, although she is very sweet her name is a wee bit to innocent for her. New baby's name popped into my head early in pregnancy before we even knew it was a girl. I had another name come up that I liked not too long ago but DH vetoed it because he felt like her name was already set. That's what we know her by. I remember it feeling strange to call Hope by her name when we first came home but it just becomes normal.
Our names are picked and family knows (team green) but last week one of my patients named their girl a name I absolutely fell in love with. So sad that I didn't even consider it when we were making our short list. DH won't let go of our girl choice, and I do still like it so...maybe the next one.
Maybe you should reconsider naming her the new name. You may look back and be bummed about it or only have boys the next time around
So glad to hear I'm not the only one feeling this way! We have only really liked Celia or Eleanor this whole pregnancy but never actually decided and keep saying "hopefully we'll know when we see her" when people ask so now I'm already overdue and we are desperately brainstorming to see if something else jumps out at us.. I'm so stressed about it, I just want to love her name!
I had a VERY short list, and DH vetoed them all. Celia and Eleanor were both on it :-)
I liked DS's name before he was born, but not in love with it. Now I can't imagine him as anything else. I like the name we have for LO, but again, I have some reservations. Unfortunately this time, DS is already using the name, so if we change at the last minute he'll be confused. I think this is pretty common. Names are hard!
We have a list of four and we are planning on choosing when we see him. I'm in love with a different one every day! Haha. I'm hoping it clicks when he's born, but if not we'll just choose one and go with it.
LO is a Jr, which I'm happy about...but "Curtis" isn't something I would have picked. I'm thinking people will call him "CJ" ..also "little curt" is starting to grow on me
DH vetoed my girls name-I always wanted an Elizabeth but he suggested Isabella and it grew on me and now I can't imagine calling my little girl anything other than Izzy! For this LO he originally vetoed the name I wanted so we were exploring alternatives but about a month ago he said we could go with my original name which made me very happy! We did change the middle name but kept a family name as the middle name which was the main important part for me. I'm a little worried that DH doesn't truly love the name but I think it's slowly growing on him and it will fit LO when he's born!
Caroline was born a week ago, we had a really hard time agreeing on her name, but when we finally came up with one we could both live with we started calling her Caroline. While it still is not my favorite name ever, it started feeling like it was HER name. I guess this would have been harder if we didn't know the sex.
My DH has one name he loves and I'm not "in love" with. I have one name I'm in love with and he's not "in love" with.
!!!! Who knows.......
Saaaaaaame!! My husband and I read through lists and lists of names, one day I threw "Brooke" out there thinking he would shoot it down like he did with every other name but he ended up liking that name and nothing else.
I feel like I don't have a choice. I like the name, I just don't love it. I've fought him about it. No dice.
In two pregnancies, we've only ever agreed on girl names. LO#1 is a girl so that's all good, this one the ultrasound tech was "pretty sure" it's a girl so we have a name but with the uncertainty of the ultrasound tech, we have tried a ton to come up with a boy name. If it does end up a surprise boy, we don't even have a top contender for a name that we agree one so, yes, we have uncertainty too!
I don't know what we're doing anymore. We never totally settled on a name, but now it's like I don't even like any of the ones on our list. We'd narrowed it down to three, then added more new ones in . . . now we've got about ten "blah" names! I think this is representative of a whole lot of ambivalence going on in my head about the whole transition to motherhood thing. He'll end up with something, and it will be fine.
My poor little niece... Everyone was sure she'd be a boy (not sure why, no ultrasound confirmation or anything) so my brother and SIL only picked boy names. After two days of not naming her, they decided just to change the spellings and use their boy name. It took me 5 years to be ok with her name (I know it's not my baby... sue me).
Lol, such a Dear Diary post. Sorry, my mind is a disaster!!!
I don't know what we're doing anymore. We never totally settled on a name, but now it's like I don't even like any of the ones on our list. We'd narrowed it down to three, then added more new ones in . . . now we've got about ten "blah" names! I think this is representative of a whole lot of ambivalence going on in my head about the whole transition to motherhood thing. He'll end up with something, and it will be fine.
This is my second; my daughter is 16 months old and I feel the exact same way. We knew her name at 4 months in (if she were a girl), but this time is so different.
He can't stand my picks, and I can tolerate a couple of his... Depending on the minute, I actually like them. But, I'm so sick of stressing over it, I go from not caring to being obsessed with finding the right name.
I try to remind myself that I will love my new daughter, and as long as I like the name - I will come to love it on her (I hope!!!)
We have a short list for both boy and girl names. It somewhat annoys me that I have come up with every single name. I'll ask DH if he has anything that he wants to add to either list and he always says No. I do let him veto anything on the list, so at least he is doing something. I know we wanted to wait to see the nugget first, but really?! You don't have one single name that you can add to the list?!
We are using the first letter of my MILs name ( she passed away about 4 years ago). After she passed away and we were talking about babies we agreed on this boy's name right away. I have loved it for a long time and so happy we both love it. The weird thingi s a coworker of mine ( who I do not get along with) has a son with this name and this has always made me slightly hesitant. I am switching schools this coming up year so I am completely done with working with her but I still get weird pangs about giving my son the same name. We are still using it and I'm sure as I start a new job I won't think about it. Not really sure why it even does bother me.
Re: Anyone not "in love" with their baby name choices?
DH loves the name, and it means the world to him. So we will probably just use it, and I will learn this is the beginning of real compromise in parenting together. Or we will have a boy and all will be fine :-)
For a girl we have had a name chosen forever, but I'm a little afraid at this point it may not suit her, and we have no backup names
My DH has one name he loves and I'm not "in love" with.
I have one name I'm in love with and he's not "in love" with.
!!!! Who knows.......
We have first and middle name and then a nickname.
The nickname is what I'm in love/obsessed with, but we've been second guessing the first and middle names this week.
Thank goodness we haven't told people! I don't like many boy names. haha!
I feel like I don't have a choice. I like the name, I just don't love it. I've fought him about it. No dice.
Lol, such a Dear Diary post. Sorry, my mind is a disaster!!!
Also I apologize for all my dear diary posts lately....
He can't stand my picks, and I can tolerate a couple of his... Depending on the minute, I actually like them. But, I'm so sick of stressing over it, I go from not caring to being obsessed with finding the right name.
I try to remind myself that I will love my new daughter, and as long as I like the name - I will come to love it on her (I hope!!!)
Even if you don't have something you love, it can't be as bad as some of these.