My mother and I have always had s really bad relationship. She is an alcoholic and avid pill popper. I have started to ween myself from the relationship over the past two years. My parents are still married and I am close with my dad which makes it impossible to cut mom out 100%. Just recently I have been getting a lot of pressure to allow her into my life and to let her come to the shower. At first I was hesitant because she always makes a scene at big events or she just gets drunk. We had a trial run recently where I had a big bbq in my yard and she showed up drunk and caused a massive scene in front of everyone. I don't want her at my shower. I don't feel like she deserves the chance to make things right. However a few people in my family say that not having Her will make me look bad and will make a larger scene then just having her. They also say that her absence is going to be distracting. We have a very large Latino family, family is a big important thing to us but I feel that she doesn't deserve to come. What do you think?