Good food always makes me feel better. Mood wise and energy wise. And by good I mean delicious but healthy. I notice eating green veggies especially gives me an actual boost of energy with no guilt or crash after! Mozzarella, roasted red peppers, tomato, spinach, and hummus on ciabatta bread.... \:D/
Eta: eating this way is becoming a rare occurrence because I love me some baked goods... But as far as what makes me FEEL better...it isn't the pie.
There are a very small number people and activities that really center me, but they work every time. So I call one of those people for a long talk, or I do one of those activities (which, for me, is a long bath in the dark with candles, a walk in the woods on my own, or a spa day - or sitting in a bar all alone, getting a slight buzz, writing in my journal for hours... I can also find my zen in a cafe with coffee, cake and a journal). Sadly, many of these are not pregnancy friendly, but I'm sure you have one or two that are.
Once I get myself back a little from that conversation or activity, I work hard to stay focused on the positive. Research shows venting is actually not helpful - you have to retrain your thoughts to stay focused on the positive.
All this is helpful for me if it is a mindset thing. If my life needs a change because something really is wrong, the path is a little different. In that case, I very mindfully identify the problem, what needs to change, and how to make that happen. My journal is good for this.
Wish I could help. I go through down periods sometimes and they're the worst. Big hugs
Doing something productive (but not requiring a ton of energy!) helps give me a kick in the ole self-esteem. Something that is just for me, like reorganizing part of MY closet, or getting around to writing that blog entry. Or reading a book that has nothing to do with baby, but everything to do with sci-fi/romance/intrigue, or whatever genre you like. Fanfiction online always makes me happy, too.
Can you go for a short walk? Or do some prenatal stretching, followed by a relaxing bath? Bonus if you can bring a yummy tray of snacks and set them by your bath side, and read the book in the tub.
YouTube videos or Netflix are good, too. (Watching people getting surprised with puppies on Christmas morning can make you smile for hours!)
Some days it feels like a death spiral. I also have a list of go-to activities, but most I can't do during pregnancy. Besides journaling, sometimes music helps. I also like to garden, so getting my hands dirty and tending to plants usually lifts my mood.
If there's a specific issue or person, writing a letter you'll never send can also help. I've written angry letters to my mom and hopeful letters to my LO. And I've written letters to DH because sometimes saying the words out loud is just too damn hard. Then he knows where my head is and if I need a hug or a bath or just some alone time. I hope you find your thing! Hugs to you, you're not alone.
I'm a solitary person so for me I'm a big fan of getting out of my house (I tend to hermit myself away). Just going out into the backyard and sitting in the sun for a while and listening to birds is nice. Or when I lived in the NYC I would go to a park and watch all the people scurry by. I also go for drives. Not when I was in NYC, hell no. But here... Yes. Lots of country roads with trees. If I weren't pregnant I'd also sometimes grab my Nook and bring it with me to a bar, sit and have a few and read or talk amiably to strangers as I felt like it. I still do a version of this, but its lunch, not drinks (I have no qualms about eating out alone). I also like to watch the sky, so if there is a storm coming in I will position myself favorably to watch it approach and roll over me. Feel the sensations as the pressure drops. It might be hot, but then it gets kinda windy as the front approaches. Then the wind dies and its quiet. Then it picks up again and the temp drops. It starts to rain. Its a competely free, amazingly sensory show. Consider it next time you have some weather pass thru. Or just watch the clouds scurry by above.
I go outside. Sometimes just driving to the water or somewhere pretty nature wise (I am not a nature person) even for 10 minutes clears my head and gives me that extra boost I need. I'm a slug on the couch most days so I need something to break the cycle otherwise it's really easy to get down.
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
Sorry for the poor man's siggy...ticker won't load regardless of how many tips I read.
The last couple of months have been a struggle for my family on top of pregnancy. It has been a huge help to me to find a friend who understands the irrational sadness and is willing to just be there. Admitting I need help has always been hard but having support is worth it.
Re: "Sadurday" thoughts?
Eta: eating this way is becoming a rare occurrence because I love me some baked goods... But as far as what makes me FEEL better...it isn't the pie.
Also, take off your pants. I'm 10x happier when I'm not wearing pants. My fiancé actually just asked me why I don't wear pants anymore
Once I get myself back a little from that conversation or activity, I work hard to stay focused on the positive. Research shows venting is actually not helpful - you have to retrain your thoughts to stay focused on the positive.
All this is helpful for me if it is a mindset thing. If my life needs a change because something really is wrong, the path is a little different. In that case, I very mindfully identify the problem, what needs to change, and how to make that happen. My journal is good for this.
Wish I could help. I go through down periods sometimes and they're the worst. Big hugs
Can you go for a short walk? Or do some prenatal stretching, followed by a relaxing bath? Bonus if you can bring a yummy tray of snacks and set them by your bath side, and read the book in the tub.
YouTube videos or Netflix are good, too.
(Watching people getting surprised with puppies on Christmas morning can make you smile for hours!)
If there's a specific issue or person, writing a letter you'll never send can also help. I've written angry letters to my mom and hopeful letters to my LO. And I've written letters to DH because sometimes saying the words out loud is just too damn hard. Then he knows where my head is and if I need a hug or a bath or just some alone time. I hope you find your thing! Hugs to you, you're not alone.
Edited, spelling!
Without kids: Nap