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Surviving Pregnancy w/a Toddler

trishopkinstrishopkins member
in January 2016 Moms
My step son is 18 months old and he is like a twist top, super active, Into everything and does not listen to anyone no matter what. He hears me say what I say and smiles and does what he wants to anyway. He's getting to the terrible 2s early and is no throwing temper tantrums when I say no (I'm not to strict I simply don't want him to get hurt by climbing on the kitchen table, etc.)

I've been so nauseous and tired lately I can't cope, I find myself getting too angry with him, and yelling to much. He's not sleeping at night anymore for some reason (think he misses his mother) so I don't get sleep ether. I'm getting to the point where I want to just lye in bed and eat Mac and cheese for 3 days by myself and can't cope.

I love this little man with my heart but with me being pregnant and him being naughty it's driving me insane!

Any tips on helping me because I really need it! Please and thanks.
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Re: Surviving Pregnancy w/a Toddler

  • Monilee1017Monilee1017 member
    What do you do to discipline? Once my boys turn 18 months I started time out. I just have them sit on the stairs for 1 minute per year of age and they have to say sorry to get out. So my little one is in time out for just a minute, but once time outs started there was a clear difference in attitude and listening. And make sure he takes a nap, that's your chance to nap or just have quite time eating mac and cheese in bed. Might not be 3 days but my little one still naps for almost 3 hours!!
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  • trishopkinstrishopkins member
    I haven't tried time outs yet! I thought he was still too little and he can't talk much still, I've taught him sign language to communicate so there's less wining.

    I'm definatly going to try the time out thing, just have to find a spot for it (don't have stairs lol) .

    He usually takes 2 naps a day for 2 and a bit hours. But latlely is fighting me just to get one in :/
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  • Honeyb416Honeyb416 member
    @Monilee1017 how do you get LO to stay there? I've tried sitting my 20 month old on the step and he just laughs and gets up. He doesn't get it.

    @trishhopkins I don't have any advice except hang in there.
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  • kyliejoymccoykyliejoymccoy member
    I second the nap idea! (The time outs are a great idea too!) My daughter only takes 1 nap a day but is a bear if she doesn't get her quiet time later in the afternoon. She has books, some milk and her blankie and she stays in her crib for 30 minutes at least. I get some time to regroup, fix dinner and she's so much happier when she gets up. It's like she gets so worked up that she just needs some time alone.
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  • folkfemmefolkfemme member
    I have an 18 month old, in addition to a 4 year old. I always lay down with my older child and watch a movie while our baby naps. Without that hour of down time, I'm not sure how well I would cope. At 18 months, i don't really feel that children can grasp the concept of discipline. In 6 months from now, his ability to communicate will increase drastically and I think you'll find an easier time. Do you have him full time? Is this a new transition for him? (You mentioned him missing his mom.)
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  • Monilee1017Monilee1017 member
    @Honeyb416 The first few times I had to sit next to him on the stairs to replace him if he moved. But the time would restart everytime I had to replace him. Then I moved farther and farther away. Now he just sits there and cries until the timer goes off I go over he says sorry to me and/or his brother.
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  • leahabattleleahabattle member
    Usually a stern "I don't like that" gets my 23 month old's attention. We do time outs as well, she stays maybe 30 s and shouts "I'm ready!" And her behavior is better. I'm trying to keep from showing Dora the Explorer on repeat so I can get some quiet time.
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  • trishopkinstrishopkins member
    I mentioned him missing his mom because we had him for just about 3 weeks straight and it's usually 50/50 custody. So we get him Sunday and give him back that Sunday so on so forth.
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  • lisabbooplisabboop member
    The whole feeling crap and looking after 19 month old scares me. My little one is the same he is fine if I keep him occupied. So I'm thinking better planning means more I can have less stress. I read some where the other day a mum has a cupboard off busy bags. Just cheap things in each bag so it's easy to grab one when u have to make a phone call or go vomit for the 10th time etc. Look on pinterest for ideas I tried it the other day got egg carton poked wholesale in top and gave him ear buds he played for ages pushing them through the holes. Going to get around to making different bags . Good luck and if u need to put them in cot of a five minute break to breathe and cope someone told me Its fine they r safe n warm it won't hurt them
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