Baby #3, would have been 3&4

amkiefer · May 2015

Hey, my first posting. My sweet little guy/girl is due November. We are so thrilled. It is my third, and I have next to.no torso, so I get BIG fast, even more so with each pregnancy. Sadly this pregnancy we found out we were having twins as we were losing one right at 8 weeks. (Even more crappy on my birthday) Because I get so big, I hear the jokes all the time "you sure it's not twins" or "maybe ones hiding". I have a hard time not snapping the heads off people. But really, what are you supposed to say to a stranger or even a friend whom you chose not share that particular news with. Most of the times my retorts have been sharp and putting strangers in their place. Idk, not really a question or asking, but maybe people should just say Congrats, and pray for a healthy baby, or heck nothing. Pretty sure most women hate these comments even when their isn't a back story.

dogsombrero · May 2015

I'm so sorry for the loss of your twin. People are generally idiots around pregnant women. If you are tired of friends/family saying that you could solemnly look them in the eye and say "It was twins, sadly we lost one, I don't want to discuss this further". If it is a stranger you could just say: "That is very rude" and go about your business. I'm sorry people are so clueless.

VexyMommy · May 2015

Congratulations on your child and I'm sorry about the loss of his twin. PP is right, people can be really rude.

mariabedolla · May 2015

I'm very sorry about the loss of one twin, but I agree with what PP said about sharing that bit with people you know and ending the discussion before you get more upset or saddened.

urby87 · May 2015

I would probably tell them straight-up if I were in your situation, but then I'm very blunt. It would definitely shut them up and make them think about what they're saying in the future. So sorry to hear you've had to deal with that!

lakesideknitter · May 2015

Congrats on your pregnancy and so sorry for your loss. Be blunt and don't feel bad about it. As PP's have said, people turn into idiots when they find out you're pregnant.

tayzav · May 2015

So sorry for the loss of one of your littles. That has to be hard. But congratulations on the other one. Stay positive mama. And I just don't think a lot of people have any common sense these days. Put them all right in their place and walk away, and don't feel bad later.

Elyse1384 · May 2015

I'm sorry for your loss and I hope your little one stays nice and healthy in there. Like others have said, if someone is bold enough to make an obnoxious statement like that, make a bold statement right back. You have every right and hopefully those individuals will think twice before commenting in the future. All the best!