Telling people your Due Date

jamiem522 · May 2015

When my sister was pregnant with her last (#5) she told people she was due in January- just the month. It annoyed the hell out of me, until now. Now I tell people mid November (even though it's the 8th) to alleviate pressure because I know it's so unlikely baby will come on time anyway. I've told people the first time they ask me the actual date but the more I'm asked I just saw mid-nov. Well, now my mil is acting like we don't know the due date and telling family we don't know when the baby will be born- which is creating more questions. Soo annoying!! She knows the date and why I'm being more relaxed with the time frame.

How are you guys dealing with due date pressure?

urby87 · May 2015

I don't know, I feel like it's a given that babies don't always come right on time. They come when they're ready, and sometimes (read: most times), that's not your due date. Most people know this, so I don't have a problem with telling my due date. :-??

olga1311 · May 2015

I dont feel like its a pressure... I tell ppl end of nov usually because no one cares for exact date. Sometimes i say the exact date. Most people knpw its approximate, so its not like you are going to ne held responsible if LO is blrn not on that exact date....

SarRes08 · May 2015

I say Thanksgiving even though I'm due the day before. My DH doesn't like that people will automatically associate our baby with the holiday, but it's just so much easier than giving specifics.

nattyhoping43 · May 2015

I feel your pain. With my daughters I was both times a week + overdue. Everyone would say silly pressurey things. So I have decided just to say late Nov. Tell your MIL graciously that she is being annoying. I would!
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Pontot31 · May 2015

Oh there's pressure! I totally understand. I feel like people start asking a few weeks before your due date. It gets annoying very fast. Don't be afraid to tell people that.
I say end of November but it could be December. I'm due Thanksgiving.

We started a blog with my first daughter to put pictures and updates for family. We still keep it going. I remember just before my due date putting a rant on there about how we weren't going to not tell anyone that the baby was born so to stop calling and asking every day because the pressure didn't help! It didn't go over very well but they got the point.
I would tell people to back off now rather than later.

sarahsnowball · May 2015

I'm glad it's not just me! I've been saying "end of November" but I've just had my dating scan and my due date is now 1st dec, but when I change to "early December" I feel like people will think I sound vague and confused!
My close family and friends know the actual date we have been told. IMO other people are just making conversation and I don't think they really care about the date. They are just showing an interest.

TacoSarah · May 2015

I've been really vague saying 'sometime in November', my sister warned me not to give EDD as it gets really annoying. The only downside to saying sometime in November is then they think I'm huge but whatevs.

Pontot31 · May 2015

There really is a 4 week window in which most babies come.
I can remember a coworker telling me she cried when her baby was not born on her due date because she really thought they came when they were supposed to!
My daughter was due January 15 and I remember telling people it could be as early as December or it could be as late as February. She was born January 22nd.

dogsombrero · May 2015

I told last time and he was overdue so people were annoying the heck out of we with "haven't you had the kid yet!!?!" calls, texts, and emails. As if they were inconvenienced by me being overdue with a 10#+ watermelon inside me! This time only our parents know the due date everyone else gets told early November.

helsbels222 · May 2015

There's no pressure. I just say November. DS was due in November too but he was born in October. So you just never know.

wulfpackgirl · May 2015

I'm due 11-20 but I usually tell people we're due around Thanksgiving and joke that I have a butterball cooking in my oven. Maybe he'll be here by Thanksgiving. I hardly ever say the actual date. It helps that it's around a holiday.

RaisingJulian · May 2015

My due date is November 26th so I just tell everyone Thanksgiving. I had my son early so I'm sure this one will be early too.

laleiste · May 2015

If people ask privately and they're close friends, I'll say... but other than that, I try to keep it vague... *shrug* just saves the hassle.

VexyMommy · May 2015

If people ask, when I'm due I tell them the month. If people ask what's my due date I tell them the date. It's not a big deal for me, but that doesn't invalidate the way you feel about it. I also didn't go over due with my first. She was 2 days before the date so I didn't have people bugging me about it or have my expectations to be done by a certain date dashed.

Gapeach83 · May 2015

last pregnancy was easier for me. I just said Christmas eve which was true. She ended up coming new years eve. Everyone expected her early because my first was a little early. Nope they annoyed me till she was hear a week "late". Second ones aren't always early even though people expect them to be. Her sister was early and she was late every pregnancy is different and thry come when they want.

This time I say early nov. I am due the 7th. I Agree most people don't care about actual date. And they annoy you if you even a day late. Not on purpose but you are more ready than they are. It just makes it worse

anneof2 · May 2015

I will not give out the date unless specifically asked. My pregnancies have all been induced more than 2 weeks after the due date (42-5 for my last one). People got really annoying when I went passed my due date and it only got worse as the 2 weeks passed and still nothing. So this time I just say November unless someone specifically asks the date (then I just hope they forget the date). I'm having a scheduled c-section this time. But I am not telling anyone except my mom, since she'll need to watch my son. In fact, I'm not telling anyone that I am having a c-section. I don't need to have people trying to tell me about their experiences trying to convince me that I am making a bad choice. I would rather not have to explain to them any of the horrors I went through that make it impossible for me to have a VBAC.

Laurakat81 · May 2015

I just say early November (I'm due 11/2). I guess I'm not really understanding the "pressure". Baby is coming when baby comes and I just cannot imagine an adult not understanding that. Maybe just state the "estimated due date is...".

My DD was due 7/31 and arrived 8/14. There was no pressure! People teased that she'd never come and I certainly felt like maybe they were right! But really we all just laughed about it. I think this time my family and friends are expecting a mid-November baby either way. But I'm still hoping for a 40 weeker rather than a 42 weeker!

EMLarie · May 2015

I get really private/territorial about stuff when I'm pregnant. Names, gender, due dates, birth plans... I don't know why, I just don't like discussing it with certain people irl because I don't want their insight most of the time. I'm pretty sure no one ACTUALLY cares about all of my pregnancy info, they just want to chat (I hardly ever ask pregnant women questions, because I want to give them privacy and I don't really care myself).

So I totally get wanting to keep the due date to yourself. Someone calling/texting you everyday saying "Did you have your baby yet?" certainly does not alleviate the stress of being overdue.

wallserve · May 2015

The only pressure is that I'm high risk and trying to explain that I will most likely be induced at 39 weeks - if I have a perfect pregnancy - so I'm not ever sure when to tell them...I just say "November" unless they really want an answer.

brielise414 · May 2015

We tell people Thanksgiving because it just makes it easier than saying the end of November. I don't think we have many people that would go out of their way to contact us to see if we had the baby or anything. Most of my family understands privacy and I'm not super open with my pregnancy unless I see someone and they ask. My in laws are different but its just his parents and sister. His sister keeps texting names and wanting to know ours but we just ignore her! Not really her business haha… and neither is when I deliver! I'll let you know when the baby's out - pressure isn't going to help!

queenwog · May 2015

I'm a Seahawks fan and my due date is Russell Wilson's birthday, so that's what I tell people, but I also make sure to tell people that it could be anywhere in late November to early December.

belladonna115 · May 2015

I started out a November 23rd but they moved it to Nov 28. Now I tell people late Nov/early Dec as this child will come when he's ready LOL.

cfletch88 · May 2015

I'm due November 21st. I just tell people I'm due around Thanksgiving. So far no one has asked for a specific date except for family.

mom4liak · May 2015

I never know how to answer the question because my EDD is November 9th (according to date scan). However because of complications and previous abdominal surgeries (plus other health factors), my dr plans on having me deliver on September 28th (34 weeks). I have resorted to saying how many weeks I am instead of my due date.

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