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Marital Problems Postpartum - HELP!

RaquelOrnelasRaquelOrnelas member
in March 2015 Moms
Life with a newborn is a huge adjustment no matter the background circumstances! But my husband is having a challenging time adjusting to his new reality! I'll admit that as the new mom, I'm going through a lot BUT, I don't believe or act as if my lifestyle should've remained the same way it was pre-baby! Anyone else going through the same thing? How are you coping? How do you get your point across to your baby's father? Any stories and tips would be very welcome...HELP!
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Re: Marital Problems Postpartum - HELP!

  • ssrenniessrennie member
    I try to keep some things that were important to me but recognize the change. Have you tried to have a discussion with him that things have changed and what type of support you need?
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  • RaquelOrnelasRaquelOrnelas member
    Thanks for your response! You're so right about starting to do the things we enjoyed pre-baby. I learned through trial & error that the best approach w/ my husband is to simply write down what he needs to do. He has responded well.
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  • adelemsadelems member
    With our first my husband basically was in denial and he was irritated that I couldn't be in denial either. I accepted my new role quickly where as he did not. We hadn't planned on getting pregnant so soon after getting married and we were both young. Not going to lie, it took a long time for him to come around and for things to get better. We got counseling and worked through it, just took time . I later realized his frustration and denial was because he felt like he lost me and just had to go at life alone , like we were roommates instead of being married. The baby just took over every ounce of me and left nothing for him.

    This second time around Its still hard in the beginning. But we are trying much harder to spend time together as a couple and not just live together.


    So, my advice. Sit down and talk about how you feel. Ask him how he feels and what he needs and then tell him what you need. It'll get better I promise :)
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  • RaquelOrnelasRaquelOrnelas member
    My husband and I decided to get pregnant a few months after we were married. He explained his denial as shock (our LO was born 4 weeks early) and anger/sadness at losing his wife in order to be a mom. MEN! LOL:)
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  • RaquelOrnelasRaquelOrnelas member
    We finally had a date night and it was so much fun! So that helps a lot.
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  • RaquelOrnelasRaquelOrnelas member
    Thanks for your advice!
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