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No sex drive

nperezwhitenperezwhite member
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Hi ladies, FTM here 18 weeks 5 days and I am never in the mood for sex! During the first trimester I figured it was just because of my nausea and overwhelming fatigue, but now that that has let up I still am not having any desire. It doesn't help that when we do have sex it hurts I'm very sensitive down there and I'm not having these amazing orgasms that I've read about- it's kind of the opposite. I know sex isn't amazing for everyone while they're pregnant and I may just be the one person who has bad pregnancy sex but I'm wondering if there is anyone out there who is experiencing this and has tips or can just share in my disappointment? I miss having sex with my husband I miss the closeness but I just don't have the desire to initiate anything. He is being really respectful and doesn't initiate anything himself because he doesn't want me to feel pressured. I'm just not sure what's going on if it's more physical, mental, emotional or a combination.
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  • finchfeeder80finchfeeder80 member
    I couldn't tell you the last time we had sex. I'm not remotely interested, and he hasn't been initiating, so it hasn't happened. I think he's mostly nervous that it would cause labor. I told him if he wanted it, I'd give it a try, but I'm certainly not asking for it. Not everyone gets a ramped up sex drive during pregnancy. My best friend did. Unless something changes in the next five weeks, I've had no desire in months. 
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  • nofrogsnofrogs member
    Ugh! I thought I was the only one. I'm glad my husband has a good sense of humor about it. Poor guy.
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  • RoseRios15RoseRios15 member

    Same here! I am just so blessed my husband is so understanding!

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  • jordansinksjordansinks member
    I have no sex drive at all either!!!!
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  • chelsea24rosechelsea24rose member
    You aren't the only one... Although my husband didn't quite get the hint at first. Now I'm on pelvic rest so I can have a reprieve from him trying so hard to get me in the mood
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  • nperezwhitenperezwhite member
    Yowza!
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  • cdepperschmidtcdepperschmidt member
    I'm right there with you! I wish the magic pregnancy sex drive fairy would visit me! I've been having some sex, but it's almost like a chore, which sucks because I know it will get more challenging after the baby is born.
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  • MurphGessMurphGess member
    So glad to see I'm not the only one with this. I'm 15 weeks and I have no desire at all to initiate or have sex. My husband has been incredibly supportive but I can tell he's starting to get down about it. Maybe it's like the gym, you drag your feet about it but once you get moving you're all pumped about it.
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  • Peach&DanPeach&Dan member
    I'm 25 weeks and my sex drive is out of control. My husband thinks I'm crazy for wanting so much sex..... he likes this weird thing called..... sleep. Men!
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  • PreggersinParisPreggersinParis member
    Peach&Dan said:

    I'm 25 weeks and my sex drive is out of control. My husband thinks I'm crazy for wanting so much sex..... he likes this weird thing called..... sleep. Men!

    So jealous! I'm like the other ladies here, I just can't my groove on. I feel bad for my husband. Your DH is one lucky guy! Enjoy!
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  • maevelilithmaevelilith member
    I feel you 100%. I'm 16 weeks and I still haven't gotten that sex surge I was told would be coming. And sex hurts A LOT for me too (never did pre conception). My poor hubby... can't touch my growing boobs AND I'm never in the mood. I guess I'll have to make it up after she's born LOL
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  • frenchxofrenchxo member
    Lol I'm having the same problem... I like can't get in the mood ... In my first trimester I was more in the mood than I am now... I feel bad for my hubby cause he probably thinks it's him but it's all these pregnancy hormones! Ahh LOL
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  • lyssababy91lyssababy91 member
    I feel awful about it I'm in the same boat! My boobs just hurt and I am not at that glowing sexy feeling yet at all, I'm just uncomfortable with a growing belly a new centre of gravity strwtchmarks coming in and a back and shoulders that ache thanks to gaining two cup sizes in a month.

    He tries to understand but I know he feels so unloved lol. I try to give him tons of affection like snuggles and touches and I play with his hair to try to keep a physical connection, I feel like it's helping us stay physically close while I figure out my sex drive! I think once my belly a little bigger I may be more used to these changes and maybe I will be into it again...because I know it's gonna be harder after baby!
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