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Big family/extended community gatherings

lizerspitzlizerspitz member
in Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
I work for a company that treats its members like family and we are having a huge gathering.  Two of my coworkers are pregnant and many people are just seeing them the first time since they shared their news.  I never shared my news with the "extended family," so they don't even know it may be a painful topic to talk about around me.

I am doing pretty good a month after my mc, but I'm just starting to spot for my period and its bringing things up again for me. I am still sad from my loss, but I am focusing a lot of my energy on the other aspects of my life and not focusing all of my attention on what needs to be done in the next x months before the baby comes.  The baby isn't coming.  I've got a reset button, and its just been pushed. 

But these people don't know about any of that, and that is eating away at me. 


Married 8/12
MC 4/15
BFP 10/10/16



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Re: Big family/extended community gatherings

  • knrickertknrickert member
    I miscarried at 14 weeks but didn't tell many people that we were expecting since we knew there were problems from early on. Some people knew and some didn't. We lost our baby just this last week. In just the past few days ,I've had 2 people ask me "when are you having another?" It's definitely a trigger point for me but I have to remind myself that they have no idea what I just went through (since I didn't tell them) and they aren't trying to be ignorant even though it may sound that way. When I want to scratch people's eyeballs out for asking stupid questions (may be hormones dropping that I feel this way, but then again, maybe not!) The emotions that you are going through are ok to have and completely normal. What you have been through is a tough...be kind to yourself, and if you're like me, try to restrain from snarky comments or scratching anyone's eye out (even though that's what I REALLY want to do!) One day at a time and this will get better (at least that's what I'm trying to tell myself!) Thinking of you!
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