Telling the ex

jessejasonbaby · May 2015

At what point do SO and i have to tell our exes that we are expecting?
We all see each other fairly regularly because they are the other parents to our kids. We are not quite sure how they will react though. I suggested telling them in november lol.

adecembermom2015 · May 2015

Do they follow you on social media? Let them find out when you tell the rest of the world. Maybe that's bad advice. Lol. I kind of loathe my exes and glad I don't have to see them.

ToneGirl · May 2015

Mine will find out soon enough. We plan to tell our kids soon so my son will blab it to his dad right away. Not sure how he will react but I'm sure he will be "concerned" about our son through it all. My ex is very hard to deal with. My husband's ex is just a nightmare!! She is very nasty and always has to be in control...she will immediately think that we will care less for her son and throw that in our face all the time. I'm really not looking forward to them finding out. Ugh!

jessejasonbaby · May 2015

My ex is a self proclaimed dick. The other ex is seemingly nice but i think she is going to have some jealousy to deal with that could be hard. Neither follow our social media but i think my ex's gf looks at my instagram and pinterest lol. She has done some accidental liking.

lilstro2009 · May 2015

I am scared to death of my hubby's ex wife finding out- this is my first child and his second. His ex is a nut case- and very scary. She is very bi-polar and isn't afraid of showing up at the house in the middle of the night banging and screaming at the door. They have to do coparenting counseling and the counselor highly suggested waiting as long as possible to tell his daughter because the counselor believes his ex wife will have a complete mental breakdown when she finds out.

How do I even deal with that

tewinkle27 · May 2015

Someone felt the need to take it upon themselves to tell my ex Boit my pregnancy and he flipped on my via text. He's an immature child.

jessejasonbaby · May 2015

Flipped how? What should i be expecting here?

BoyMomma3 · May 2015

We do not have a great relationship but my husband and I invited him to lunch and told him. If he was going to flip out, it was going to be at that lunch then he could get it together And be excited when our son tells him. He actually was happy with how we handled it. If the roles were reversed I would want him to do the same. Even though I don't respect him. I'm an adult and try to handle things head on.

nmariek · May 2015

I feel like it is non of their business knowing what's going on. Let them find out through the grapevine. You moved on for a reason. In my option there is no reason for you to personally tell them. With my daughter my SO son told his aunt and his ex called him and said "how could you not tell me that N is pregnant?!! I had to find out from my sister?!" (Stepson told his aunt that he was going to be a big brother) Then she made it about herself. Saying I told R that he'll ALWAYS! be my baby. This is a happy time in you and your SO lives so why put stress and anxiety in it worrying about how to tell your ex??

Melissadmag · May 2015

How about having your other kids tell them?

tewinkle27 · May 2015

jessejasonbaby said:

Flipped how? What should i be expecting here?

remember he's very immature and into pot and drinking. He said that my baby will come out deformed and that I'm going to be a horrible mom, and that he couldn't believe that I was having a baby with my SO etc etc.

carsonsmommy0913 · May 2015

I'm not telling my ex, but I haven't talked to him in over a year. When it's "his weekend" my son goes to his grandparents house, and rarely ever actually sees his dad, so I really don't give a crap if he knows or not. The grandparents know though. They're happy for us, but they were not big fans of the divorce, and they know their son is an ass.

CMDD · May 2015

i think if you have children with your ex it only makes sense that you should tell him that you're going to be bringing another child into the home. co-parenting sounds very difficult, but hopefully if you're open and honest about your home he'll be the same way with his.

hummingbird35 · May 2015

@tewinkle27 Ohhhh my god. Sounds like my ex (who I won't be telling unless I run into him-- we live in the same small city) what did your SO have to say?!?!

Rusty NailHer · May 2015

I have my kids tell my ex. My daughter is chatty about everything. He handled it really well. At first it was weird. Now we have him over for dinner once month-ish. One time he even picked up my LO when she was crying. He said it wasn't weird just because she wasnt his. We have come a long way in five years. He was totally psycho at first. He freaked when I got married.

chelseymmcghee · May 2015

My husband's ex (my step-son's mom) took it pretty well! I don't know her initial reaction but she sent my husband a text saying congrats and she was truly happy for him (us). E (step-son) spends the summer's with his mom and the school year with us, so he told her a day or so ago. I don't know exactly how he told (he's 7) but the text that said congrats made it seem pretty positive.

CMDD · May 2015

Rusty NailHer said:
I have my kids tell my ex. My daughter is chatty about everything. He handled it really well. At first it was weird. Now we have him over for dinner once month-ish. One time he even picked up my LO when she was crying. He said it wasn't weird just because she wasnt his. We have come a long way in five years. He was totally psycho at first. He freaked when I got married.

What a great outcome!

Want a personalized experience?

Telling the ex

Re: Telling the ex

Choose Another Board

Search Boards