mood swings or depression?

margaretlawrence18 · May 2015

I'm young, 21, and my husband and friends are around my age as well. Being young adults their hobbies include drinking and being up all night, which obviously I can't really be apart of anymore. I use to drink and occasionally smoke but since I can't now I feel left out, but mostly upset because I miss being able to do these "young people" activities. Some days I really wish I wasn't pregnant, and I get so upset and I don't really have anyone around me to relate to how I feel, so I keep it inside for the most part. If I bring it up to my husband he just tries to tell me that this is what I wanted, but that doesn't help when everyone wants to be out at the bar all night and I'm stuck sitting there, tired and sipping on sprite. Its just a lot harder and more lonely than I thought it was going to be. I don't know if this is just a hump I need to get over, maybe I'll feel differently when I can feel the baby, but for now it's just hard for me to feel happy most days it seems. Is this something I should talk to my doctor about or do I just need to try to communicate to people around me before I try finding a medical "cure"?

MercyC1130 · May 2015

First of all, there would be no medical 'cure'. Maybe drugs to calm anxieties or subdue intense feelings, but nothing to make underlying feelings go away.

Zings · May 2015

I feel the same way!! I'm 34, FTM, been with my husband for almost 12 years. I have some friends where I live, but not many close ones, and even fewer are moms. It's hard to get together with anyone these days, all of our work schedules tend to be opposite. I feel so boring!! It sucks to not go to the bar after work, or to go but feel tired and not drink. I feel like I don't have anything in common with anyone and I can't stop thinking about all the things I can't do and how my life is different. I am a freelancer so now I'm afraid it'll be harder to work, I can't take jobs in other places, can't leave at the drop of a hat, can't travel on my own to see friends whenever I want...I keep trying to focus on how many awesome things are going to happen with the rest of pregnancy and the baby but it's hard sometimes...I really liked my life the way it was.
But, everything is temporary I guess, discomforts will pass, the kid will be adorable and hopefully I WILL have all the brain changes they say are happening and forget my life before baby because life with baby will be even better. I hope you hang in there too...just wanted to share my story to let you know you are not alone! Feel free to PM me if you want to talk, I'm looking for people to talk to as well.

VexyMommy · May 2015

I was 21 when I was pregnant with my first child. It was not something my (now ex) husband and I planned. I didn't know anyone else who was pregnant or even married at that time. I felt very alone and it was difficult. I would suggest talking to your SO and your doctor about your feelings. Hopefully the doctor will refer you to a counselor. Counseling can be very helpful and it could teach you some better coping strategies. I would also try to check on facebook for moms groups in your area to join. There are definitely mothers and mothers to be out there your age, you just need to find them.

lbrooke27 · May 2015

I can relate to this. Being pregnant is amazing in so many ways. But let's be honest it can also kinda be boring lol. I try to remind myself of how blessed we are and that this is an experience and to enjoy it as much as possible. And.. In the meantime.. I read a lot

and go to bed earlier! Lifestyle changes without a doubt. Good to know there are others who feel similarly!

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