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DreaMak
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Does it get easier?
DreaMak
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Hello, Army Wife here,
My husband left on a pre-deployment
And will only be gone for a month. I know thats nothing right now, considering were looking at a real deployment by the end of the year..
Im not entirely sure if i just want to vent or want help, maybe both considering i asked a question, but honestly, do these nights get easier?
Im use to him being at work all day, but when it comes to bed time, i cant help but to cry and feel scared and alone. I hate that i cant fall asleep to the sounds of him sleeping, or our feet touching to keep warm, and even the fighting over the blanket. I miss it all soo much. I dont want it to be like this everynight but its really hard to control.
And all i can think about is, gosh if this is soo hard on me now, i cant even begin to imagine how it will be when he deploys ..
And might i add, i have no clue what to do during the day to make time pass, but i don't like being around other people to much, so going out and making friends isn't my kinda thing i want to do.
My husband left on a pre-deployment
And will only be gone for a month. I know thats nothing right now, considering were looking at a real deployment by the end of the year..
Im not entirely sure if i just want to vent or want help, maybe both considering i asked a question, but honestly, do these nights get easier?
Im use to him being at work all day, but when it comes to bed time, i cant help but to cry and feel scared and alone. I hate that i cant fall asleep to the sounds of him sleeping, or our feet touching to keep warm, and even the fighting over the blanket. I miss it all soo much. I dont want it to be like this everynight but its really hard to control.
And all i can think about is, gosh if this is soo hard on me now, i cant even begin to imagine how it will be when he deploys ..
And might i add, i have no clue what to do during the day to make time pass, but i don't like being around other people to much, so going out and making friends isn't my kinda thing i want to do.
Re: Does it get easier?
For me, deployment does get easier than the shorter training missions. I found the first two weeks are very hard, then I settle into a rhythm. Don't get me wrong, there are very hard times, but overall it seems to get better, until about the last month to two weeks before they come back. Those seem to drag forever.
I highly recommend finding something now that keeps you busy, even if it's just volunteering once a week. Get this set up now and make yourself keep going right after he deploys. You need something in your schedule.
Last deployment I worked full time, volunteered, and worked out a lot. This one it looks like I might deliver while he's gone. I plan to work as long as I can, go home to be near family during the birth, then join mom and me groups when I move back to base.
Deployment is hard. Find something to keep yourself occupied and talk to someone to keep yourself sane.
Wish you the best!