PSA - just call your doctor.

aerod19 · May 2015

As we get closer to the grand finale, can we please just agree that anything that feels like labor should be addressed with a legit doctor instead of this forum? Use The Bump for scenarios where maybe you're reaching out for support, want to know if anyone else has been in the same situation, or anything other than "should I call my doctor/am I in labor" questions to a bunch of strangers who are not medical professionals. Save the drama for your... self. That is all.

erinnlou · May 2015

Can this be pinned to the top please.

mers90 · May 2015

Hahaha seriously?! People come here for support, any kind. There's a bunch of false alarms and a lot of STMs here so if you don't like it just don't read it. Sometimes we just come here for support while we wait for our doctors to call back or just want to make sure that we're not gonna embarrass ourselves by going to the hospital just to find out that we need to poop. (Yes, it's a real thing ...).

Welcome to every pregnancy forum in the word ...

SnarkasaurusRex · May 2015

mers90 said:

Hahaha seriously?! People come here for support, any kind. There's a bunch of false alarms and a lot of STMs here so if you don't like it just don't read it. Sometimes we just come here for support while we wait for our doctors to call back or just want to make sure that we're not gonna embarrass ourselves by going to the hospital just to find out that we need to poop. (Yes, it's a real thing ...). Welcome to every pregnancy forum in the word ...

I think you misunderstood OP's point. She specifically said that posting on TB for support is a-okay, but leave the specific 'am I in labor/should i go to the hospital/should i call my doctor/etc. questions to the medical professionals. A STM can't tell you for sure that it's a false alarm; you should always call your doctor if you suspect that you're in labor to get their professional opinion. If you're freaking out and waiting for a call back, then by all means come on here and post. Just make sure that your doctor/midwife/medical team knows what's going on first.

mom3babies · May 2015

And who really cares if you embarrass yourself going to the hospital if it's a false alarm. They aren't going to judge you since they have seen it multiple times.

lindsaypkelly · May 2015

mers90 said:
Hahaha seriously?! People come here for support, any kind. There's a bunch of false alarms and a lot of STMs here so if you don't like it just don't read it. Sometimes we just come here for support while we wait for our doctors to call back or just want to make sure that we're not gonna embarrass ourselves by going to the hospital just to find out that we need to poop. (Yes, it's a real thing ...).

Welcome to every pregnancy forum in the word ...

So how are we supposed to know if you're in labour or just need to poop? The point is that someone could be a second time mom or a tenth time mom, it doesn't make them a medical professional and it's extremely unlikely that they can tell you whether or not you're in labour.

mers90 · May 2015

I get what all of you're saying, but still, asking women to keep whatever they want to say to themselves is not right, let people post whatever they want, read and answer whatever you want.

aerod19 · May 2015

@mers90 If my post bothers you so much you could have just ignored it.

I'll be sure to alert you each time I need to crap, just in case I need your opinion on whether it's a baby or a turd coming out. Or both as the case tends to be!

I get your point. But just wait a few more weeks as we all get closer and you juuuust might like my request after all.

JHaworth84 · May 2015

OP- starting a post dedicated to telling people what they can and can't post is quite high risk for getting yourself reported/banned for trolling (limiting others use of TB). @mers90 is just trying to diplomatically say it's best to live and let live if you want to stick around here, else sooner or later be reported to admins. There are so many ladies here from all over the world it's natural for there to be some disagreement over what is acceptable or appropriate, however people don't get banned for asking the occasional 'dumb' question but for responding to others in a harsh or excessively negative way. I'm not trying to tell you what to write or not write (I honestly don't take this forum all that seriously and at the end of the day you're a big girl and can decide for yourself) x

princesslockness · May 2015

JHaworth84 said:
OP- starting a post dedicated to telling people what they can and can't post is quite high risk for getting yourself reported/banned for trolling (limiting others use of TB). @mers90 is just trying to diplomatically say it's best to live and let live if you want to stick around here, else sooner or later be reported to admins. There are so many ladies here from all over the world it's natural for there to be some disagreement over what is acceptable or appropriate, however people don't get banned for asking the occasional 'dumb' question but for responding to others in a harsh or excessively negative way. I'm not trying to tell you what to write or not write (I honestly don't take this forum all that seriously and at the end of the day you're a big girl and can decide for yourself) x

She didn't tell anyone that posting anything was a bad idea. Merely asked that we leave the labor questions to a doc/midwife.
Suggestions(nice and not 'jump off a bridge' ones) that get reported are one of the few things that don't automatically get the ban hammer or warnings.

confuegosuzy · May 2015

Never be embarrassed about going! With my first, I thought my water broke but I had actually just peed my pants. The nurses assured me it happens a lot AND that trip found some blood pressure issues that would've otherwise been missed.

Better safe than sorry!

MEXARAB · May 2015

My water broke what do I do?

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mom3babies · May 2015

Omg she didn't post this to tell people what they can't post but seriously with people asking if they are in labor is ridiculous. We are not Drs so we are for sure not going to be able to tell if somebody is in labor until they physically get checked out by a dr. We surely can't examine them thru a forum now can we?! I think that's why the "am I in labor" posts are advised. Even says so in the section of the rules. If you called your dr and are waiting to hear back and you post expressing that you called your dr and so on then that's where you will get support but defiantly won't be getting any asking strangers if your in labor

SnarkasaurusRex · May 2015

JHaworth84 said:

OP- starting a post dedicated to telling people what they can and can't post is quite high risk for getting yourself reported/banned for trolling (limiting others use of TB). @mers90 is just trying to diplomatically say it's best to live and let live if you want to stick around here, else sooner or later be reported to admins. There are so many ladies here from all over the world it's natural for there to be some disagreement over what is acceptable or appropriate, however people don't get banned for asking the occasional 'dumb' question but for responding to others in a harsh or excessively negative way. I'm not trying to tell you what to write or not write (I honestly don't take this forum all that seriously and at the end of the day you're a big girl and can decide for yourself) x

She isn't dictating what people should post. She's literally advising people that they should check with their doctor (because...DUH) before going crazy on the forums. Which is solid, helpful advice, because your doctor knows your exact situations better than anyone on here, and because people can have drastically different labor experiences. She flat out said POST HERE IF YOU NEED SUPPORT. Nowhere in her post does she tell people what they can and cannot post.

aresee · May 2015

Just thought it was worth noting that this is a safety issue as much as anything. If you think you're in labor, you should definitely call your doctor or midwife ASAP. They might tell you to hang tight at home for a while, or they might want you to come in right away. Strangers on the forum can give support, but not solid medical advice, and even if you're planning a home birth, you definitely want some medical/professional advice once you go into labor.

Ckorines · May 2015

If you have time to post because you "think you are in labor", chances are....you're not in freaking labor.

aerod19 · May 2015

And the hormones are a-ragin'! Calm down preggos. Have a cupcake or two and relax... Otherwise you might go in to labor.

zmombie · May 2015

I mean it's one thing to ask what to expect. Or ask if your mild random contractions are a sign of labor around the corner. But I seen some where they say there contractions are steady and they have a bloody show, and even ones where they gushed fluid and should they call a doctor? I understand fully not wanting to rush to the hospital over random concerns, and feeling like an idiot. But if your water breaks, your contractions are steady, or your bleeding... Chances are you need to be seen by a doctor!

MEXARAB · May 2015

I feel my baby coming out! Could I be in labor? Lmao

SnarkasaurusRex · May 2015

MEXARAB said:

I feel my baby coming out! Could I be in labor? Lmao

Nah, just clinch up.

erinnlou · May 2015

MEXARAB said:
I feel my baby coming out! Could I be in labor? Lmao

Just try not to push too hard when you poop.

zmombie · May 2015

MEXARAB said:
I feel my baby coming out! Could I be in labor? Lmao

Omg "I feel the head.. Should I just push it back in?"

MEXARAB · May 2015

Lmao I just died someone help!

mom3babies · May 2015

Bump cause it needs to be at the top

chantellbroussard · May 2015

JHaworth84 said:

OP- starting a post dedicated to telling people what they can and can't post is quite high risk for getting yourself reported/banned for trolling (limiting others use of TB). @mers90 is just trying to diplomatically say it's best to live and let live if you want to stick around here, else sooner or later be reported to admins. There are so many ladies here from all over the world it's natural for there to be some disagreement over what is acceptable or appropriate, however people don't get banned for asking the occasional 'dumb' question but for responding to others in a harsh or excessively negative way. I'm not trying to tell you what to write or not write (I honestly don't take this forum all that seriously and at the end of the day you're a big girl and can decide for yourself) x

This is the problem. No one can speak without someone reporting them. I am thankful for the original post. No one is going to be able to tell you that you are in labor unless they can see the kid's head coming out of a vagina... The original post wasn't negative. It wasn't harsh. Only an idiot would report it and only an even bigger idiot would ban someone for it.

lizzypoo96 · May 2015

*Golf clap to OP*

asking for support and medical advice are two separate things... we don't know you, your history, or your doctor's protocol... if you think something's wrong, call your doctor... it is getting a little tiring to see the same questions with the same answers every day. Let's all just agree... to call our doctors...

SucitUp · June 2015

Bump cause I feel like this needs to be repeated for the next couple weeks

babydoll1008 · June 2015

I will say my two cents. I personally feel insufficient when people ask for medical issues. Mainly because I am not a doctor but I am not a good enough to answer the questions submitted.

For FTM's (or even STM's and so on), I think most of us on this forum can agree that it isn't because we are annoyed by the questions. Truthfully, that it is not my personal feelings regarding those posts and I don't intend to make it sound like that. It's mainly because we are all in the same situation and I care for you and want you to go to the right source for answers. In matters of your own health and your baby, we want you to be safe and ask the doctor.

And I totally get it. Anything that feels slightly different makes you want to second guess and possibly go into labor because at this point you want nothing more than to meet your baby. But just listen to your body. Talk to your doctor about any questions or concerns you have when you visit him/her next time. They are more than willing to answer. In ways that we on the forum can't.

Good luck everyone!

P.S. Don't forget to treat everyone with kindness

ktabs · June 2015

aerod19 said:
@mers90 If my post bothers you so much you could have just ignored it. I'll be sure to alert you each time I need to crap, just in case I need your opinion on whether it's a baby or a turd coming out. Or both as the case tends to be!

I get your point. But just wait a few more weeks as we all get closer and you juuuust might like my request after all.

Oh the irony...

If the annoying "am I in labor" post bothers you... Take your own advice

ktabs · June 2015

The rest of my post disappeared

Yes it's annoying to see the same question over and over but just don't read it! Leave it for the few girls that are happy to appease a FTM rather than make her feel stupid. The funny thing is that I bet you have all done it a time or two. Everyone has been unsure before.

hilarym7 · June 2015

I think this post is really important because I don't want ANYBODY to be discouraged to come here for support which the op stated..BUT the actual question "Am I in labor or when do you think I will go into labor" the answer will always be we don't know! We don't even know when we ourselves will be going into labor!!!! And as another poster stated its a safety issue if you actually think you might be in labor and you're spending your time posting it on here instead of seeing your dr...well...yikes!!! If I think I'm in labor I will be like a bat out of hell on my way to the hospital LOL!

For any one that this thread offended I would check out the June board "no one can predict when you will be in labor" those woman are real and to the point!!!

I think @aerod19 did a really good job of wording this in a light manner..

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