Grandparents Kissing Baby on Lips?

satindawl83 · May 2015

Premature question, I know. But my husband and I were watching a tv show where the father was pissed that his MIL kissed their newborn on the lips (because of germs, viruses, etc), and the baby's mother didn't see an issue.

I never thought about it before, but I don't know how I'd feel about that either. I don't have a problem with myself or my husband doing it, but not sure about anyone else kissing the baby on the lips.

Thoughts and/or experiences?

BostonBaby1 · May 2015

My thought is that for grandparents it is perfectly fine! It's just a simple expression of love. They kissed you on the lips, so it is not any different for them to kiss their grandchild.

Only caveat… I wouldn't let anybody who is sick or has not had a pertussis vaccination kiss my newborn on the lips. $:\$ ">

ammnam14 · May 2015

I refuse to let anybody kiss my child on the lips. He/she will have cute little chubby cheeks for you to kiss all you want. Lol

Marchmellow2 · May 2015

Ha! What show was that? I saw that show I think! Was it on VH1? And was his name Kirk??? Lol If that's who you're talking about, ugh I absolutely hate Kirk!

To answer your question though. Yes I don't like when people kiss my baby on the lips when he's under a year old.

satindawl83 · May 2015

@Marchmellow2 yes! It was Kirk on Love and Hip Hop Atlanta. Too funny.

Marchmellow2 · May 2015

satindawl83 said:
@Marchmellow2 yes! It was Kirk on Love and Hip Hop Atlanta. Too funny.

Hahaha that is funny! That was last season when Kirk cheated on Rasheeda and he also did that DNA test on his baby behind her back!! Gah the nerve of that man! I cant believe the things he does to her! I totally LOVE that show!!!

duckinoven · May 2015

Too funny, I may have told my folks today the whole fam should get a flu shot and whooping cough vaccine before thanksgiving ... Maybe paranoid but I'm not into that kind of holiday cheer

Melissadmag · May 2015

I wouldn't mind my parents, grandparents, or sister kissing my baby on the lips (I'm assuming, I might be stricter once the baby is actually here, but right now I don't see a problem with it.) My parents and grandparents kissed me on the lips till a certain point and I survived lol. Also, my niece (sister's daughter) sneak attacks and kisses me on the lips whenever I try to kiss her which at first I was personally uncomfortable doing because I was like ahh, not my baby lol, but at this point I've given up, she's my niece, if she wants kisses that way then fine, and obviously my sister doesn't have a problem with it so no worries there. I wouldn't care if my sister gave my baby kisses on the lips either. As totally and completely unfair as it is though I don't think I would be okay with my DH's parents or siblings giving the baby lip kisses. I don't know why, maybe I'm more comfortable with my family, and know where they've been and what sicknesses they do and don't have, where as I guess I don't feel like my DH's family has as clean a bill of health in my book....it would probably totally freak me out if they tried that. Unfair I know, but it's the truth.

nik6499 · May 2015

I really don't have a problem with it, babies immune systems need exposure to grow and get stronger. Now someone who is notably ill, yea I don't think so. But otherwise have at it slobbery baby kisses are hilarious.

fiorip · May 2015

I'm not sure how I would feel about this one, have mixed feelings because of certain diseases in which you might not be showing symptoms or signs yet and actually have an active infection. Viruses like Herpes and Epstein-Barr could be transmitted through saliva. I would trust myself and my husband but outside of that I'm not sure I would feel comfortable with anyone else. My parents maybe, definitively not my 21 year old college student dating sister, I don't know who she's kissing out there...

TacoSarah · May 2015

nik6499 said:

But otherwise have at it slobbery baby kisses are hilarious.

LMAO totally. So gross yet so amazing at the same time.

GardenMama116 · May 2015

I thought it was weird that my dad used to kiss me on the lips (he stopped in last few years - not sure why). Like I really hated it but didn't know what to say/how to tell him. He gives wet, sloppy kisses - worse than I remember first kisses in middle school. I really hope no one tries to kiss our baby on the lips...I'm not even sure if I'll kiss the baby on the lips. Lip kisses are for lovers.

4puddleducks · May 2015

With my son, the grandparents kissed on the head, cheeks, fingers and toes, but I don't remember them kissing him on the lips. I don't think any of them did until he was able to kiss them back and chose to do it. My father-in-law is the exception since he has never been really comfortable with kissing him much at all. My son is lucky to get a goodbye kiss on the top of his head, but is smothered in hugs from my father-in-law.

Elizabella85 · May 2015

Am I the only one completed weirded out by baby/child lip kisses? I love kissing baby cheeks and blowing on tummies, but I've never been so overcome by cuteness that I felt the need to plant one on their lips. It just seems strange to me. Maybe because that wasn't done in my family? We were and are a very affectionate family, but that was not one of our demonstrations. But I remember telling some affectionate old people at church "no" when I was very young because the thought grossed me out. Someone else's slobber on my mouth. Ick! Only people I've felt differently about were the boys I dated and the man I married.

Is it a cultural thing? Like the families who kiss on the lips have stronger European ties? Or regional? Legitimately asking!

Bobbiel06 · May 2015

I swore I would never kiss my kids on the mouth. Well that quickly changed lol. My daughter who is 7 has grown out of it and will not let anyone kiss her on the lips. But my 4 year old son that's the first place he goes for. As for other people my mom is totally grosses out by people kissing on the mouth besides people in relationships so my sisters and I were brought up not kissing on the mouth to anyone including all family. So I think it has a lot to do with how you were raised. My husband has refused since day one to kiss the kids on the lips. He said it makes him feel uncomfortable.

kleshelle · May 2015

I find it odd that parents even kiss their children on the lips.... But that's just me and I don't have a child yet... So that might change. Can't throw my opinion out on this without having s child. I know when my niece kisses me on the lips it would weird me out so I started to make her kiss my cheek lol! Then again diaper changes weird me out doing it in front of people too.... Like no.... There should be boundaries.

AlejandraN2 · May 2015

Yeah no. I wasn't raised that way - my parents never kissed us on the lips. My husband's parents did but thank God so far they haven't. If they ever did I would say something.

@Elizabella85 I don't think it's a European thing - it's more of a family thing. I'm Greek Cypriot and was raised in Cyprus and even though we are all very huggy and touchy and kiss on both cheeks we never kissed in the mouth - none of my relatives ever did to their kids too and we have a huge family. My husband's family is all American and they did.

With that said I've kissed my daughter on the lips bc she's so darn cute and I just hug and kiss her all the time but I would not be comfortable with anyone else doing it. And I've never done it when she was really really little and more susceptible to colds.

redfallon · May 2015

No kissing on the lips here from anyone. We only let DD do that now because she's just now trying that out. Usually I kiss her on the forehead or the cheeks. I don't want anyone else kissing her or new baby on the mouth.

rain0831boww · May 2015

My parents and DH's parents have never done that with us growing up so I wouldn't expect it for our child but if you grew up like that or don't mind, not a big deal. They are your parents are the people I confide and trust the most. Just showin love.

Bubbz · May 2015

Family lip kissing squicks me out. I have...bad associations. Nope! Nope. Nope. It's not even a germ thing. Just....nope.

lstheo · May 2015

Elizabella85 said:
Am I the only one completed weirded out by baby/child lip kisses? I love kissing baby cheeks and blowing on tummies, but I've never been so overcome by cuteness that I felt the need to plant one on their lips. It just seems strange to me. Maybe because that wasn't done in my family? We were and are a very affectionate family, but that was not one of our demonstrations. But I remember telling some affectionate old people at church "no" when I was very young because the thought grossed me out. Someone else's slobber on my mouth. Ick! Only people I've felt differently about were the boys I dated and the man I married.

Is it a cultural thing? Like the families who kiss on the lips have stronger European ties? Or regional? Legitimately asking!

My family never kissed on the lips either. At least not that I remember. And I had a very good friend whose mother kissed on the lips all of her kids and me (since she was like a second mom to me). I used to think it was so weird. Still don't like it. But it doesn't bother me as much anymore. No lip kissing for my kids just cause that's how it was in my family.

dp1320 · May 2015

If somebody came up to my baby and kissed them on the lips I wouldn't like it -regardless of who it was! To me, it's weird and unnecessary. As pp said - kiss their cheeks, forehead, whatever - but lips? Nah.

Also, strangers that touch my baby's hands... that's a whole nother topic.

ksark · May 2015

In my family we hugged and kissed on the cheeks. My sister however teach my niece to kiss us on the lips I never allow it. I know my mother has cold sores on occasion which means they have hsv. I was tested for it and luckily I do not have it. My sister however got it from my mother from drinking after her. That is why I will never allow my kid to kiss anyone on the mouth or drink after anyone. I know 4 people with hpv outside of my family and I refuse to share drinks or anything. I do not care if they give my child the flu. That goes away, but hsv stays forever.

Knottie22668383 · May 2015

My opinion will be no. You can kiss my baby's forehead...

I would rather everyone be respectful to the fact that our newborn is sensitive to everything. At three months or so I wouldn't really care as much. But if my baby is fresh out of the oven, someone is going to get punched. For all I know that could be the kiss of death, especially if that person is walking around with a cold or flu in their system. And other things that come to mind are Mono, herpes, etc.

Not to sound mean, but not everyone is open and honest about what is really going on in their lives. And then comes the other issue of "monkey see, monkey do" and others will try to do the same because they think that it is okay because one person did it and no one said anything about it.So as a mother, I've got to prevent what I can. No pun or disrespect intended to anyone.

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